Just as likely, it's not so much the relationship that's threatened - but everything it stands for. Their feeling of security could be disrupted because they don't know what to expect next. The need to fit in, to belong in social settings, could be similarly disrupted. Their sense of self, carefully built around the simple bedrock of being a heterosexual woman, is in disarray. Who knows what this will do to their family? Last, but not least it turns out the man they thought they knew is someone else entirely.Kerri wrote:I dont think for one minute your wives are jealous.
It is far more likely that their reaction is because they are feeling threatened, not by your feminine charms but because their relationship with the "man" they married is threatened.
It's certainly enough to shake anyone's self-confidence, and the choice of who to blame is obvious. I honestly think it makes sense to cut our wives some slack and work with them to rebuild a sense of stability. To remind them that we're really still the same person and that we want to make them happy, to establish a new balance that meets both our needs.
