Elizabeth, I stand corrected. And yes, It's me again...not quite communicating correctly. That should have read "my spouse suggesting (to me) I could refinish the piece...." Oh dear, see what emotion does!
And thanks Kimberly, indeed we have talked and I think we both came away a little wiser. No, working at that project while dressed is not my cup of tea thank you. But it is a good suggestion for many I'm sure. But I've gotten spoiled you see so....
Amazing what a few days and fnally figuring out in my own head what was really bugging me. Shame it's so much easier for her to accept me than it is for me to accept ALL of me. Dang!
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Anita
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I also misunderstood the situation, Hope.Elizabeth, I stand corrected. And yes, It's me again...not quite communicating correctly. That should have read "my spouse suggesting (to me) I could refinish the piece...." Oh dear, see what emotion does!
That's the important thing.My oh-so-wonderful wife and I talked last night, and again today.
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I'm glad it is working out Hope. I find that when I start reacting so strongly that there is usually something going on with me, and it's great that you can see that. Also let me give resepct for your wife again.
Spousal communications can be very tricky and vary between couples. But for many of us a "suggestion" from our spouse can be turned into and "offer we can't refuse" in our own minds even when that is not what the spouse intended at all.
I've been married 22 years. Raised two children with my wife, gone through deaths of parents and similar life changes. It would be utterly bizarre if in all that time we didn't have some major differences.
Sometimes I get in touch with my inner woman. Sometimes (much more often) I am in touch with my inner child. And sometimes I am in touch with my inner disturbed brat. It's all good, and I hope we were helpful to you here.
Be sure to let us know how your vacation goes.
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Spousal communications can be very tricky and vary between couples. But for many of us a "suggestion" from our spouse can be turned into and "offer we can't refuse" in our own minds even when that is not what the spouse intended at all.
I've been married 22 years. Raised two children with my wife, gone through deaths of parents and similar life changes. It would be utterly bizarre if in all that time we didn't have some major differences.
Sometimes I get in touch with my inner woman. Sometimes (much more often) I am in touch with my inner child. And sometimes I am in touch with my inner disturbed brat. It's all good, and I hope we were helpful to you here.
Be sure to let us know how your vacation goes.
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for many of us a "suggestion" from our spouse can be turned into and "offer we can't refuse" in our own minds even when that is not what the spouse intended at all.
That's exactly it! Thank you! Of course it's an offer I can't refuse IN MY OWN MIND, not hers for goodness sakes. Seems I'm trying toooooo hard sometimes to do for her and imagine things she would like. But you hit it squarely on the head!
I like you people!
That's exactly it! Thank you! Of course it's an offer I can't refuse IN MY OWN MIND, not hers for goodness sakes. Seems I'm trying toooooo hard sometimes to do for her and imagine things she would like. But you hit it squarely on the head!
I like you people!