How do we come out of the closet?

[Lydia]

Thanks Lydia, I would like to do the same, what kind of things did you take into consideration, how did you approach opening up to two of your close friends?

First I consider politics, and if they are of liberal persuasion, they are more likely to be accepting. Then I mention some gay friends, and again, a tolerant reaction is likely to be accepting. I might comment on her hair-do or clothes or even makeup. I have, on occasion, even said:"That's a pretty blouse - I wish I could wear one like that." I think you get the drift. So far, either I am clever or lucky (more likely). Don't be too hasty, however, and make decisions on the basis of short acquaintance. Always consider whether the revelation will be useful in your relationship.

Hugs,

Lydia

[Anne Bonny]

Thanks Lynda, very useful, could see with close friends of long aquaintance over a period of several months to a year or more if they pass the screening out questions and discussions coming out to these certain individuals- am sure it must be extremely rewarding to be able to broaden your base of supportive and accepting friends who now truly understand and accept you for who you are.