So Frustrating

[Samantha]

To join in about the frustration about dressing. I went out with my ex to a fondu restaurant. I'd just come off work, and couldn't do my subtle man makeup look which she approves of, and is very acceptable about( she doesn't know I'm a CD, but accepts my desire to look good using subtle hints of makeup). Well, I was frustrated about nothing really to wear except guys very draby fashions like designer jeans, boots and nice sweater( how boring!) when she's wearing this amazing outfit with designer boots, jewelry, and georgeous hair! I was pissed and envious, but much appreciative of her glamour at the same time. Sometimes you just wish you had a girlfriend that you could dress out with, giggle with, and fully dress to the max! Not that I didn't enjoy our date, and the food and decor was amazing, but she would never let me me dress out , and have girl to girl talk. I should be grateful that she accepts and supports the metro side of me, and I am. She's helping me paint my toe nails Vikings purple and gold for the upcoming game. LOL. So , I mirror allot of the frustrations posted, but very thankful for Haven Heaven.

[Eileen (SO)]

There are still fondue restaurants?

I'm still amazed by many SO's contradicting attitude. Her man can wear make up and painted toes, then freak out when he wants to wear a bra. Other than stage or screen personalities, a man that wears make up is her first clue.

Eileen

[Samantha]

I think it's more her insecurities, and what she wants in a relationship. Usually it's out of wanting her relationship according to her conditions, but having the freedom of her own choices and lifestyles. She wants her life, but doesn't want him to have his life. He has to line up with her way of thinking. At least that's how I understand it.
Samantha

[Requal Jo]

I can understand what you are saying Samantha. While my wife and I share our lives together she wants a man around the home.

My wife is still accepting that dressing does not change who I am and will never do this. I am just a man who enjoys dressing in female apparel and getting in touch with my feminine persona.

I am limited as to when I can dress as I have grown children who do not know and would have a very negative reaction to knowing. I love my children and do not want to push them away.

I did have a wonderful time last Friday when my wife was out for a couple of hours and again on Sunday and Monday evenings when she was home. I even asked her if she would like to choose an outfit for me to wear on Monday evening to which I got a very firm sounding NO. One day she just might surprise me.

Requal will be absent for the next 10 days as family are coming to stay. That is the most frustrating part of wanting to be Requal.

[Samantha]

ConnieT, you do look pretty darn cute and sexy! I hope you didn't make her jealous, then she'll never accept your dressing looking better than herself! LOL

Samantha

[Kitty]

Regarding the female side of our persona, I have often been called effeminate, although I do not think I am at all effeminate away as a man.

I most certainly do not act camp. Strange what some people see in others.

[Samantha]

Requal, have a great time with family. We will miss you while your absent. I'm glad you sometimes get alone time. I hope too your wife will accept all sides if you.

Samantha

[Ralitsa]

I'm a bit confused about what you said Samantha. So you went on a "date" with your "ex" and are deferring to "what she wants in a relationship?" I'm missing something here.
I'd have thought the relationship is over and you are free to do as you please and to wear what makes you happy. If I ever went to a fondue restaurant I'd wear a wool skirt and a turtleneck sweater - I think it's the required dress code.

[Samantha]

Ralitsa, I'm only legally separated, and it's been for over 4 years. I have to keep her on my insurance. We have grandkids and have to do things together, so we have have a date night once or twice a month. Strange but it's alright, or just complicated. She's a knockout dresser with amazing hair. I was just stating the frustration of not being able to sit across from her all dressed femme, which I don't think I'd ever do. But as stated I've started more of a metro fashion with makeup, and she likes it. We still have to do family functions together, so it makes life complicated at best. Hope all that made sense. I shouldn't refer her as ex, but maybe estranged? I don't know.

Samantha