Curious

[Virginia]

Sally,
I so look forward to your reflections on various topics that our sisters post.
I love your term, "special virtues," it is our "gift" Just wanted to say thanks again!
Love,
Deborah

[Kersten Lee]

Hi
I have been trying to accept myself all the time no matter how dressed.
I did stress about being femm and then male. I have gained in being just me. I second what Jasmine said about being, we are different continually.
Everyone gave helpful imput for me.

Hopefully your wife is willing over time to accept all the parts of your being. My wife and I are still growing and exploring together, occasionally sometimes not so peacefully I might add. We are headed up just the same.

Hope this helps a little.
Kersten

[Celia]

When I play different instruments, I make different music.

-Celia

[Jassmine(SO)]

Howdy Y'all,

Hello Ariana,

My belief is that how we behave, think feel etc as we do is all just part of our individual personality. As we grow up our environmental, social and verbal learning shapes part of our personality, but there is a part of our personality which comes from within, in other words it may be described as ' self '. It dictates how we feel, think and behave about some things without having to make a conscious decision to the effect where it may make us behave, think and feel opposite to how our environmental, social and verbal learning taught us.

As human beings we are all individuals and as such we differ from each other in varying ways, but we must all maintain the integrity and continuity of our differentation to others, this simply means we must maintain our ' self '. Social reality is constructed by our culture, through our parents, teachers, peers etc and although our social realities are similar to the extent we share common cultural traditions, each individuals social reality is somewhat different. Social realities are really just fictions which have evolved over generations because they help society to run more smoothly. Some people look at our differences as psychological faults and others as special virtues, personally I prefer the latter. Each of us have a different genetic inheritance, different upbringing, unique individual experiences etc etc, to me there is no right or wrong, we are what we are.

Thinking more about your question, perhaps it m
ay be some people's social and environmental learning which tells them they should behave, feel and think one way, but their ' self ' tells them they need to behave think and feel another way.

Perhaps the fact some people feel different on different days is natures way of satisfying the unconscious needs of one's ' self '. We do unconsciously learn to differentiate one thing from another on the basis of consequences, so perhaps the two different ways of feeling, ( male or female ) is just a normal part of a persons personality which provides two separate safe havens to retreat into, as and when the need arises.

Perhaps part of it is also the fact each individual has both testosterone and estrogen in their system, each at varying ratios to each individual and as we know, hormones do have a strong influence over how we feel.

I can't say I can ever remember feeling male or female on different days, so from a personal experience I can't offer anything on a personal level. Biologically I know that I'm classed as a male although my mind and ' self ' says otherwise, but I really don't dwell on it as there is nothing I can ever do to change the reality. Cosmetically, yes, but in reality, no.

I wish you well.

Kind Regards......Sally.

Beautifully said!

*Hugs & Love*