How much would you dress in a "Perfect World"?

How are you dealing with or handling this aspect of your life?

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In a Perfect World, How often would you dress "en femme"?

100% I have no need for boy clothes
16
22%
90-99% There would still be times I would want to dress like a man
15
21%
75-89% I still Identify with my male self
9
12%
55-74% I love to dress, but still have many male activities
10
14%
45-54% I like both sides of me equally and my dress reflects this
11
15%
25-44% Dressing is more of a serious hobby than my identity
6
8%
1-24% I am just and occasional dresser, and like it this way
6
8%
 
Total votes: 73
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Post by Rebecca_Lynn »

Elizabeth,

I can kind of relate to how you must be feeling. I have ended up having a serious reaction to some CT scan contrast dye. Apparently this stuff is made from shellfish and, wouldn't you know it I'm severly allergic to shellfish. Even thoug I told all the nurses and the radiologist of my allergies they didn't put 2 and 2 together. So for 7 days now I've had a burning/itching rash and chest congestion (amongst other symptoms). I've had to dress en drab in case I need a quick trip to the ER. It feels like I'm going through withdrawals with my dressing.

It looks like in the next few days it should be cleared out of my system enough that I can start enjoying being myself again.

I agree that this is a very interesting thread and idea. Given the criteria you set out it seems most of us would jump in with both feet and be ourselves in the world. I can see a time that jeans and dress down wear is required (I couldn't ruin a perfectly good dress while working on my truck now could I? :lol: ).

I am looking forward to seeing what everyone has to say and feels on this. It is quite neat.
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Post by Anne »

Rebecca Lynn - you probably have been told this but drink lots of water to flush it out of your system.

I had a slight reaction to ionized dye 10 years ago and they told me to ask for nonionized (I hope those ar ethe right terms). Sometimes the med techs are so deaf to patients.

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Post by Elizabeth »

Rebecca Lynn,

I am so sorry that happened to you, and I know that what happened to you is very serious and can easily cause death. I hope everything is ok. You did not tell us your underlying condition that caused there to be a need to have dye injected.

Again, I hope everything is ok, and I also hope you get back to being able to dress how you feel the best. In fact, I hope that for everyone.

Love always,
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Post by Lorna »

I voted in the 55-74% percentage group. That would suit me just fine. @@9@@
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Post by CJ »

Hi all,

Well, with Elizabeth's initial conditions in mind, I'd dress 100% of the time. But I wouldn't present as a woman more than 50% of the time. That is, I'd wear the clothes, but not necessarily try to pass.

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Post by Beauty »

Thanks CJ,

I missed that Elizabeth clarified what she meant. I'd be 100% too.

Before I had said I'd have been 99%, but with the clarification there's no doubt it would be 100% for me too. :)

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Post by Hayley »

Elizabeth,

I would probaly dress 100% as I wish to transition in a couple of years time. Albeit I won't be going as far as some. I will probably go to FFS and Hormones for breast growth but no further. But that is the wonderful gift we call choice.

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Post by Barbara »

Since the topic said "in a perfect world," I would say 90%. But that's not 90% of the time, that's 90% of me. I would wear women's clothes, but go without the wig & the makeup.
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Post by Rebecca_Lynn »

Thank you for all your best wishes.

Anne, Funny thing is I've drank so much water that I feel like I need gills... :lol:

Elizabeth, unfortunately they have no idea what causes it yet but, the reason for the scan was to verify an "artifact" found during an X-Ray. THey are trying to figure out the shortness of breath and frequent and strong heart palpitations.


As of today there is only a little bit of itch left and almost no rash, YAY!!! I see my Doctor this afternoon to get results and talk to him about my adverse reaction to the dye. On a plus, I found my Medic Alert braclet and now remember why I wasn't wearing it. I somehow a while back snapped the chain, so in true Red Green (almost) fashion I fabricated a new link out of a split ring and it is once again almost permanently attached to my wrist. It was hard enough to put on one handed I think I'll have to cut it to get it off now. Well, unless I can figure out how I snapped it last time... :-k .
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Post by Kathy »

Well, as usual I seem to be the exception. I chose the final option as I really am an occasional dresser now. And I do like it that way.

A few months ago I would have selected a higher option but I no longer seem to have that need to fulfill. It is now nearly three months since I last did any underdressing and I haven't missed it.
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Post by Beauty »

Hi Kathy,

You're not the exception. :) You are among two people who have a 1. :)

I'm glad you are happy with toning things down some. I feel that not purging and knowing your limits is also a level of growth in being a CD'r. I applaud you for not leaving us and letting us know how life with less CD'ing is.

It truly is refreshing to see all the colors of our TG'd rainbow (sorry, couldn't think of anything as colorful to use in my analogy) :)
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Post by Pauline »

Hia Ladies ((G))

The Perfect world... 100% no doubting that, as for passing.. its the ideal world.. no worries on if you pass or not. your you.. dressing on how you feel and everyone is accepting... @@9@@

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Post by Gaven McLaren »

In a perfect world I would dress much as I do now just with more fem items. I dress however I feel most of the time and being a jeans and t-shirt guy the is most of what I wear. I might go to fem jeans or fem dress pants when I need to dress nice. Then again I might start wearing skirts if it were a perfect world.
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Post by Darla »

i say 90-99% of the time because i feel sometimes you need to put on your male cloths
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Post by Jeannie »

If you get the correct size most female clothes feel much better than mens. Proper size panties feel fabulous compared to tighty whities. A correct fitting bra feels like a warm embrace and pantyhose that fix correctly make your legs,thighs and bottom feel great. I like heels up to 3 inch and awaly try to buy round toe pumps(With little bows of course) in the right size and can wear them for hours. I do have a couple of pointed toe mules and slingbacks when I'm feeling a little spunky but for the most part if I could go out and to work en femme I would. I love to look and feel pretty. Don't we all. There's no feeling better than a freshly pair of painted toe nails and shaved legs with some silky pantyhose now is there? Big hugs!

Love Jeannie
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