Ask not for whom the "belle" toils...

Georgia(SO) · Post by **Georgia(SO)** » Fri Sep 22, 2006 5:22 am

I am pleased to hear that things look better, CJ. Remember what we have talked about - it's quite easy to be really ok with this in our brain, but to have it be a major surprise with a serious startle factor when you are sitting there looking at your guy en femme.

For many of us, we find that we are startled and disconcerted by our own reactions. I know I am. I didn't expect to feel the things I felt. I didn't expect to be waylaid by gender expectations that I didn't even know I had. I didn't expect the brain and the gut to react totally differently. It totally threw me - not that he dressed, but that I felt all these neanderthalette feelings inside.

You know as well as all of us who are over 18, love isn't always enough. But it's a hell of a start! Wishing you starry nights and smiling mornings!

-georgia(so)

CJ · Post by CJ » Fri Sep 22, 2006 7:25 am

Revelation, Donna? What revelation? I admit it: I'm curious.

Thanks, Georgia. D'you think I can also have smiling nights and starry mornings?

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Fri Sep 22, 2006 8:01 am

CJ

Thats terrific news, ain't it funny what a little communication can do

My/our best wishes to you both

Jess

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Fri Sep 22, 2006 8:03 am

Donna
me too

, what revelation ????????????

Jess

Post by **DonnaT** » Fri Sep 22, 2006 10:58 am

Well, we aren't supposed to post from one forum to another without the original poster's consent.

I suggest you go to MHB and read it.

Ever get that kicked in the gut feeling?

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Fri Sep 22, 2006 12:30 pm

I'm glad to hear that things seem to be working out CJ. I hope this experience will make the next crisis (rest assured there will be one) less scary.

Your post really made me happy. You have posted so many wonderful things about your relationship that it was discouraging to think that it wasn't working out.

Absaroka

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri Sep 22, 2006 7:18 pm

Cj, Honey! She told you one of the most important first steps and you know it ! She is willing to learn!!! That in itself is a giant step in a relationship - you know what went through! She did not want ANYTHING to do with learning anything about me, what I was going through, how it came about, where it might go - NOTHING!!!
You know as much about how to proceed with this as anyone, remember our motto: "Small steps honey, just small steps!"
I am so happy that you two communicated well enough to re-define your relationship. I so hope you can make this work out.
Remember, in our defense, a woman could do a lot worse than establishing a relationship with a crossdresser!
We love you CJ!
Keep the faith,
Virginia

Marlena Dahlstrom · Post by **Marlena Dahlstrom** » Sat Sep 23, 2006 5:09 pm

CJ, I'm so glad your first take proved to be inaccurate.

She may go through the acceptance pendulum, but it sounds like she's willing to try, which is all one can ask.

Georgia(SO) · Post by **Georgia(SO)** » Sun Sep 24, 2006 7:23 am

Hi ya'll,

I just popped over to the link on the Acceptance Pendulum that Marlena posted. Very good - very much on target for much of it - specifically down toward the end when the author talks about the difference between logical and emotional acceptance.

God, it's nice to know I'm not the only one!

-g(so)

Stephanie W · Post by **Stephanie W** » Tue Sep 26, 2006 6:18 pm

CJ

Sounds like your relationship with this wonderful lady is even more special now than a week ago. Good for you both! Yes, she has a lot to understand and learn but she couldn't wish for a better teacher. I wish you both well.

Stephanie

CJ · Post by CJ » Tue Sep 26, 2006 6:20 pm

Hi all,

Thanks for the kind words.

Things are, um, proceeding apace.

Love,
CJ

Jess(SO) · Post by **Jess(SO)** » Wed Sep 27, 2006 9:55 am

for CJ and partner

ing that things keep going good for you both

Jess