Your fem voice

Lydia · Post by **Lydia** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 9:03 am

Hi all,

Some notions and ideas came to me as I was trying to sound feminine, and I thought I’d share them - for what they are worth.

First, I’d like to call your attention to a very practical web-site on how to sound feminine:
http://heartcorps.com/journeys/voice.htm

My own experience has been augmented by recording sessions, trials with my very cooperative SO, and some musical background. Actually the difference in pitch between an average male and female voice is not very great. If you are a natural tenor or high baritone, the main pitch of your voice is about at middle C or D, while the female voice sounds female at about a G or A. Of course there are extremes: women with high, almost squeaky, voices, and men with rumbling basses. Whatever you do, don’t go falsetto - that sounds artificial and contrived.

Another major difference between male and female speech is pitch variability. Most men speak in a monotone - exceptions: professional radio or TV talkers. Women’s speech is much more expressive, and ups and downs of pitch and loudness are very characteristic. When en femme, let yourself go and don’t hesitate to emphasize some sounds with a rise in pitch or sound level.

The key to all this is practice. Just do it. Even when in male mode. There are lots of men who speak naturally in feminine fashion.

Don’t forget about body language. Women use their hands more while speaking, and nod heads when listening.

Above all - have fun.

Hugs,

Lydia

Post by **KimberlyS** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 10:16 am

I am lucky as I have a tenor voice and I am often called ma'am over the phone. So when out I just lighten my voice and try not to talk fast like guys tend to do. I am sure this helps on how well I blend when out and about.

kim

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Wed Jan 28, 2009 10:07 pm

Hi Kim,
I have that problem. I speak way to fast when dressed. I've gotten pretty decent at altering my pitch. (a broad range sure helped) I am still developing the habit of adding a bit of inflection to my sentences, but my worst problem is speed. It's a real challenge for me to slow down my speech. Probably since I'm so excited to be out, the energy just bubbles out.
*sigh*
I know...practice, practice, practice!

(patience, Kyra, it's a virtue!)

Patti D · Post by **Patti D** » Mon Feb 23, 2009 11:23 pm

This voice thing is killing me, I don't have a fem voice.
I'm always trying to perfect it, or find it. The other day at work another worker walked up behind me and thought I was talking to him. When he left I was tickled. Got to watch those proccupied moments

JoAnnDallas · Post by **JoAnnDallas** » Tue Feb 24, 2009 8:58 am

I had always worried about my voice while out dressed. So I asked my wife what she thought and she suggested I try and soften it a little. So I practised with her and now when I speak to someone while dressed, they don't seem to react any different than they do when my wife talks to the same person.

TashaM · Post by **TashaM** » Tue Feb 24, 2009 9:20 am

What I did, and I think I have a pretty fem sounding voice now. Which still needs practice, when talking to others. Contrary to what Lydia said at the end of her post. I actually first went falsetto, but only to get your body used to a higher sound, then sqeezed it, which changed the sound to a more femenine tone, and then brought it back down. now when I put my hand on my throat there is pretty much no viberation at all when I use my fem voice, and it sounds similar to my male voice, only a higher sound, and it's not that quiet. It'll take some time to learn how to keep it there. But I think I am on the right track.

My favorite locations for tips, are;
The videos CandiFLA made on youtube, http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=can ... iew=videos
Information here http://www.tgguide.com/female-voice.htm
and here http://www.tsvoice.com/

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Tue Dec 01, 2009 7:20 pm

My voice is very deep. I developed it for the parade field and freguently have trouble with voice activated systems. I checked out youtube as suggested and have been practicing when I'm alone. I think I'm getting the hang of it.

MelodyPerkins · Post by **MelodyPerkins** » Wed Dec 02, 2009 6:19 am

I would love to have a fem voice.

CandiFLA has one of the best fem voices I have ever heard.
http://www.youtube.com/user/candiFLA

I just haven't got the time to practice it. Also, "passing" for me is not very important. It use to be, but I have given up on it. The reason, I have a wife who would not want me to try to be passable. So, I keep my beard, body hair, etc,...and wear a combo of male intended and female intended clothing as it appeals to me and is tolerable by her.

My relationship with my wife is my first priority. Her relationship with me is her first priority. hence, we try to accommodate one another, while maintaining some autonomy.

DanteCarrie (FTM) · Post by **DanteCarrie (FTM)** » Wed Dec 02, 2009 10:31 am

thats really good advice about the hands thing.
I talk with my hands alot i might try to tone that down.

I had noticed the inflections thing. I find making my voice deeper not hard I just speak in a way as if i feel very neutral and unaffected. Its a little frustrating as I thin the reason my voice sounds feminine has alot more to do with change of pitch with mood and reactions to what I'm hearing rather than overall natural pitch.
but yeah thats really good advice although I am flipping it round to do opposite with it sound more male lol

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Wed Dec 02, 2009 12:51 pm

DanteCarrie

round to do opposite with it sound more male lol

Talk from your diaphram. As you you practice you will feel it resonate in your chest.

DanteCarrie (FTM) · Post by **DanteCarrie (FTM)** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 3:35 pm

yeah I'll try that more. darn my stupidity for giving up drama lessons just cas they were dull they taught me how to do that.

you find you sound much more male when you're frustrated or angry and more female if excited or sleepy?

weird i know thats how i find myself though

April Rose · Post by **April Rose** » Sat Dec 05, 2009 11:52 am

Dante; to present more masculine, open up your stance, but limit your gestures. When sitting, legs apart, yes, but just as important , feet flat on the floor, and still. When standing let your arms hang still, like they are dead from the shoulders down, then, when you feel like you absolutely must move them, slowly and deliberately slide them up,raising your thumbs at the same time, until you feel the pocket hem, then shove them in, thumbs hooked on the outside. Don't move any other part of your body when doing this, and don't move your hands or feet again for at least 30 seconds.

You may have come to the right spot for trying present as masculine; some here, like me for instance, have been working at it our whole lives.

DanteCarrie (FTM) · Post by **DanteCarrie (FTM)** » Tue Dec 08, 2009 2:57 am

lol i naturally sit like that anyway. I have some natural masculine traits thats why I'm genderqueer & choose to crossdress cas it feels partly natural. lol yes my thumbs are usually in my pockets. my only problem is that I'm a fidgiter. I have OCD which tends to make my not keep still much but apparantly alot of men have OCD too

Angela · Post by **Angela** » Sun Dec 13, 2009 7:29 pm

My attempts at trying to cultivate a feminine voice haven't been very successful so I just speak in my own voice when I'm dressed.

Cindy Louise · Post by **Cindy Louise** » Mon May 17, 2010 7:37 am

KimberlyS wrote:I am lucky as I have a tenor voice and I am often called ma'am over the phone. So when out I just lighten my voice and try not to talk fast like guys tend to do. I am sure this helps on how well I blend when out and about.

kim

Hey me too!!

It's happened so many times I don't bother to correct the person on the other end.

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