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I've noticed that ever since I've decided to embrace my feminine side - I am finding that "she" is another side of me, to the point that I refer to "her" as another person.

Nicole is another persona that I become - and when I'm not her, I think of things for her - example " Nicole would really like that shirt, or those panties etc"

Is this a side effect of not living as a woman full-time ?
I don't have the desire to be a girl all the time or 100 percent - just to assume the personality of Nicole when the urge comes.. is this normal?

( I realize normal might not be the word here )

Nicole,
Everyone here is different. But you and I share a common thread. We both enjoy all sides of our being. I would not want to give up being a "man", but I sure enjoy my times when I am in my femme mode. Those times make the man in me happier. And those femme times are remembered as special moments. No desire to battle the world to become "full-time" or transition. May be selfish, but I want it all. I love extreme adventure, but can't do that in a skirt and petticoat, and I love pantihose, but they aren't practical in the high country. So go for it kiddo!! Take it all, be nice to others, be safe, be frilled!
Rikki

Nicole.Anton wrote:Is this a side effect of not living as a woman full-time ?

I doubt it. At last it isn't that way for many of us.

But you will find a few others that refer to their other self as another self, or second self.

Isn't that right Virginia?

Oh yes

Susan is a different person to my male persona.

Not in radical ways but Susan makes me notice things that Bob would never have done. And she behaves differently too. Susan is a lady and never loses her temper.

How nice it is to have that refuge.

Those of us who are blessed with this "gift" seem to embrace it differently and it takes its place in our lives under a wide variety of diversities. Some of us grow with it or into it and some just accept it when the "urge" arises and move on. It affects each of us differently. There is no right or wrong way to respond to it. Some of us have been forced to take what I like to refer to as "Virginia's Challenge." That is you get made-up and dressed, stand in front of a a full length mirror, devoid of any distractions and look into the eyes of the woman looking back at you. Not looking at what she is wearing or how pretty she is but look into her eyes. First. what do you see? If you take this challenge, I will not lead you by giving you responses that others have had, but I will say that some have just shook their head and walked away and that is fine, nothing wrong with that! If for whatever reason you stay, then a couple of other questions must be asked. "What is she worth to you?" and "What are you willing to do for or give-up for her?" That's some heavy s@#$ there and how you respond can alter your life in some instances or it can in some instances just open your eyes to something wondrous!!

I would only say, don't do this unless you "feel it!" What is "it" well, you will know when it bites you in the butt I guarantee it! It is not something to be taken lightly as it can and for some usually leads to an epiphany and I can guarantee you will know when you have an epiphany.

Hope you and my other sisters enjoy their "Magical Mystery Tour" as much as I am enjoying mine!

Love,

Virginia

Hi Nicole,
I enjoyed your post. I think many of us share the same thing. Diana is another person, so to speak. While I have dreams of wanting to live full time as Diana, I really don't know if I could. I mean I do enjoy being my male self but do enjoy crossing over to Diana. I may be the same person body and mind, but I believe my soul is different when in Diana mode. When in drab, I am also spending a lot of time thinking of Diana. NORMAL? I don't know. For me it is.