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Hello Ladies,

The only person who knows about Jessica is my wife. Being that I have two children who don't know and the oldest (girl) is getting more nosy/curious, I am always afraid she may stumble upon some of my femme things... that would not be cool. My wife has really only ever asked one thing of me, and that is that we keep it my CDing between us. I intend to honor her wish, it's least I can do for her being so understanding with me.

So, how the heck can I keep my "stuff" private without boxing it up and shoving it into the corner of the attic? I don't want everything wrinkled/messy and hard to access when I have an opportunity to dress. Where do you ladies that have to maintain privacy keeps your things? Any suggestions?

Hugs!
Jessica

It sounds like a good time to get a lock on your bedroom door if there is not one there already. I understand that your wife would like to keep it from the kids, however there will need to be a time to have that talk with your kids. How old is your oldest? I would say if she is in her teens it is most likely that she has seen your clothes if she does snoop.

I have two dressers. Some drawers have only male or femme items in them. Other are mixed. I also have things hanging up in the closet. I call it hidden in plane view.

kimberlys
joe in a skirt

Don't know what size you wear or you taste, but just hanging them in the closet with your SO or sharing her dresser drawers for your "unmentionables" may seem to work. However if your SO is a 32-B and you have a 44-DD that little disparity may raise some questions.

Depending on your children's ages, the time may come for a family talk as was eluded to. Otherwise, the box 'em up and hide made be the only alternative for now!

Virginia

Mine stay in a couple of large locked boxes in my office which is in my home. They are a tad too heavy for the kids to move comfortably, and stored with a lot of other boxes containing work stuff. The box hides in plain sight, and no one has ever asked why they are locked.

But what I always wanted was a secret panel to a hidden closet. Should have designed one when we put the addition on the house.

Ab

Mine are hanging in the closet or in my dresser. But my kids know.

I suggest hanging one or two items in with your wife's, unless your daughter goes in to your wife's closet and borrows her clothes. Same for her dresser drawer; maybe she can set one aside for your things.

I have 3 drawers in a large dresser for my underthings and have a large closet for everything else. But I do not have kids and no one should be in my room but me.

I rent from my cousin and I know he has seen me dressed on a few occasions but he seems like so many others to adopt the "don't tell don't ask" attitude

All my kids are grown and out of the house and my wife knows about my crossdressing so there has been no reason to hide my things. However, one of my adult daughters and her 3 young children moved back in for a year when she split with her SO. I didn't get to dress much during that time but I didn't go out of my way to hide things either. She never said anything but it was obvious when there would be 2 very different sizes of lingerie hanging in the laundry room.

I've my femme clothes spread between my 2 bedrooms it is a problem sometimes as I forget which wardrobe or draws that they are in. Nighties, panties, bras, stockings, are all in there designated drawers, its my slacks, shirts, jackets are kind of spread in-between about 4 wardrobes.

The only thing I have to do if I have visitors popping in is put my nightie and sleep bra out of the way under the pillow out of sight

Since my SO is aware and accepting (happy face), my walk-in closet has all femme stuff on one side, and mostly drab on the other. My cleaning lady knows that SO spends time (weekends) at my place, so I have no qualms about closet full of femme stuff. However, wigs and lingerie are discreetly in drawers. If she has peeked and theorized, that is her problem, and I expect she would not admit to peeking. Besides, she is Hungarian with very little English. I have no idea as to how Hungarians feel about crossdressing, and I want to keep it that way.

Hugs,

Lydia

This won't be at all helpful, but my things are everywhere. We have no children, and we are both pack-rats, and we have been every size from 12-28, so every closet in the house is full, plus three dressers, plus closet-rods suspended from ceilings in four rooms, plus some (OK, make that considerable) offsite storage. I resorted to a database to track it all.

Over 2000 articles of woman's clothing between us (that's not even counting my shoes, or my mother's estate), and there is a big sale this next weekend, where we both may end up with many new things (that fit)!

We should sell everything size 18 and under, but heck, I'd only have to lose 110 pounds, and then I could wear those lovely things again.

Hugs,

Bernice

I try to keep everything in one closet. I've shown my wife where everything is. That way, if anything were to ever happen to me, she could find and dispose of everything. It would save her the embarassment of having a family member find it while cleaning out my things.
That's what happened to my sister when her husband died unexpectedly.

Well, basically, it's everywhere in my 1 bedroom apartment.
I've donated a lot of "fashion mistakes" but more always turn up-- seems to be an unavoidable part of cross-dressing.
It's taken me about ten years to figure out my "style"-- which I call "nice girl with a hippie accent."
So... there's probably a fair amount of stuff here that I probably will never wear-- that either doesn't fit or doesn't look good.
I order from web retailers with toll free phone numbers a lot, and unfortunately you never really know how something will look until it arrives and you try it on.
I've been pleasantly surprised (as by the OLD PUEBLO TRADERS "CALIFORNIA LOOKS" shirtwaist style dress I'm wearing now-- just returned from monthly support group meeting) and also really disappointed by things that don't work and must be returned.
I should probably get rid of more stuff-- it really does take up a lot of space
Peace-- Kendra Lynn ("hippie cheerleader").

Up until about three years ago I had to keep my things well hidden for one reason or another.As most here can attest to it is hard on the emotions and sense of self worth.(For me it was anyway).I moved into this apartment three years ago and I made the choice to keep all of my things out in the open.It helped alot.I figured this is my sanctuary and if someone didnt want to see it they didnt have to come in.It may sound cold, but it was finally time for me to take care of myself along with the ones I care about.

Thanks for all the replies! I have to say that I like the idea of sharing space with my wife to keep my femme things. "Hiding in plain sight" as it was said. I will attempt to secure some space within her "territory"!

Hugs,
Jessica