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Well not all that bad but the wife was in tears. As alway I shower and dress and forgot that today was the day that the new boxsprings and mattress were to arrive.

Doorbell rings dog goes crazy and when I seen the truck all I could say was SH** as my mind sobered up in a sec. Wife saids who's there and I tell her as Carol was the one who had to answer the door and let the two fellows in.

My wife sitting in tears in her wheelchair as these fellows went about thier job of removeing and putting in the new sleepwear. Well GUESS what?, nobody but my wife knew the difference as I signed the papers and told them thank you and bye.

After they were gone I told her I loved her and said "see I still can pass".
So a bad day was a good day and I am still laughing.

Oh ya before you ask I will tell you, nothing fancy just everyday wear a pair of black jeans with very narrow legs and a tight fitting rear .
flats, wig and makeup and a silk top. Carol done good today but the wife is still very upset and she told me so, oh well a good nights sleep and she will feel better.

Hi Carol Ann--
I'm sorry to hear about your wife in tears, but I have full confidence that she'll forgive you, too.

Somewhat related: I went to a jobsite to pick up a tool at 11:30pm--as Anita. Pulled up, and the husband's car is there--he's painting as much as he can after our work hours. I had a moment of "Oh no!" when I saw that--and then I said, "Oh, well...." and went in. His wife had hired me, so he hadn't met either self. I'm sure he was surprised, and he handled it well.

So it all went smoothly with the mattress guys, too. It's not always a piece of cake taking care of business enfemme, but the sky does not fall in.

HI Girls,

Lessons for us all! NO the world does not end if someone does or does not read us. It is who we are and as you know, my attitude is, if they don't sign your paycheck ......... scr@$ 'em!

Here stands Virginia, what do you think? (actually I don't really give a crap what you think )

Go for it girls!!!!!

Love,

Virginia

I was off work recently and was dressed. The door bell rang and I did not know what to do, I checked through the peep hole and saw the guy I hired to do my fence work! I could not answer it as Erica. I ignored the bell and he went away. I did not know what to do. I guess I did ok?

Erica

Hi Girls:

Something that has always bothered me is the idea of "what if." What if the door bell rings and it is someone that I know but does not know me as Danielle Marie? The "what if's" can really ruin your day and obviously, it can ruin your life.

My youngest sister (I have 2), told me that I would need to choose to be one way or the other. That I could not possibly ever be really happy, fliping back and forth. Eventually, she said, you will get hit with the "what if's!"

I must admit, I have considered this a great deal. People that are TS often try the "change," and find that after a time, they just melt into the woodwork of life. They close their web sites for a fulltime, lifetime female presentation. No previous history to follow them except in their minds.

It sounds simple, but, then, that "what if" shows up. What if someone still recognizes me as my old self? What if the changes do not take to well. What if, I find out that after all of my efforts, study, therapy, I still feel confused?

I think we all live with some form of the "what if's." We do not realize that if we just barely pass, we still can pass under those occasions that do not require extensive study of our presentation by the people we greet on the short term. The butcher, the baker, the candle stick maker!

One thing that I have learned recently from my aging father of 92 years is that you can be right in front of someone, with care of course, and since they do not expect you to be different, they do not see the differences.

It would never occur to my father about me. I have sat right at the dinner table, 30 inches away from him and, no comments. Of course, I am not wearing a wig or a pink tutu. I wear a flowered camp shirt/blouse, aong with a blue running jacket. A little care and I just look like what he would expect to see in me. I also wear grey or black pearl-like necklaces that are in vogue with young men.

So, easy on the makeup. No drastic changes. Subtle is the word if you want to blend in at those times that "what if" comes up.

Hugs

Danielle Marie

I also wear grey or black pearl-like necklaces that are in vogue with young men.

Tell me about these necklaces! I wear a gold chain with a medal of the Virgin Mary 24/7 I sometimes add a crucifix on a thin gold chain but would like to add more.

Hi Wendae:

The necklaces. Think of a regular immitation pearl necklace that you see at various stores, even WalMart. They come in colors sometimes, mostly pearl off-white. But, I have them in black and a choker style, in gray. The black is 24" with small silver beads between each black bead. This at one time was my mother-in-laws so it could be 20 years old. The gray necklace, is 15 inches, and I got that at Walmart about 5 years ago. Both have an eye and spring-loaded circular opening c-ring type for the clasp. Very secure. The current ones will lose their silver tone over time and revert to their copper base.

I have seen that color in the last few months at my super WalMart. Along with rose and the usual pearl off-white. They seem to run out and are slow to restock.

So much for aggressive retailing.

Hugs

Danielle Marie

What if you don't? What if the what is a who? Been there done that. My fun what if was getting caught when I got home after being out en fem. I was in the driveway getting things out of the car when I hear a "hello". I'm thinking the "hello" is just a neighbor passing by so I can just keep a low profile and say "hi" back. My luck the neighbor happened to be walking up to me as I turned around. Certainly no place to hide at that point. All I could do was ask him to help with the stuff to carry in and give him a bit of explanation. He's an open person so I knew the world wasn't going to end, but what a surprise that if was. I had to ask he not tell anyone because if it got back to Ro, then my day would be just bad.