Getting out

PhylissH · Post by **PhylissH** » Wed Apr 28, 2010 8:27 am

Hi everyone, for those who have red some of my previous post know that Igo out often abd that my wife is pretty supportive. Most of my outings are when I am traveling, but I do try to get out when home. Here in lies the problem, as i travel it limits my time home. This takes away time with my wife when I am home as she does not wish to go out with me dressed.
This month is the annual unity banquette, to which I have never been but would like to attend. I look forward to my time home with my wife and familly. Thus am torn between how I spend my time. I want to spend time at home and at the same time want to support the group and go out with them. She told me I could go if I wanted to, and I think I am going, but at the same time I feel bad about spending time doing something without her being with me.

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Wed Apr 28, 2010 11:09 am

Sometimes decisions are hard.

what about a real special night or 2 with the wife. I know that doesn't relace the time with her, but may show her how much you appreciate her and her support.

Leeza

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Wed Apr 28, 2010 5:21 pm

Some folks have the same issue with fishing or golf. Compromise....

I also noticed you said something about feeling like you "should" go to the Unity thing to support people. Feeling like you need to do what you may think is the right thing, but this can come under the same category as "I should go to church" or "I should go play golf" instead of spending time with my family and you may want to simply ask yourself what you WANT to do, rather than what you SHOULD do.

In general, if you are away a lot, maybe your family should be a priority.

Zari

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Wed Apr 28, 2010 10:21 pm

I guess you know that some GG's have their own dictionary and somewhere in the past here one of us obtained some pages from it and actually had the audacity to post some of the definitions. Things like when you ask her "What's wrong?" and she says "nothing." It usually means you are in sooooo much trouble!!!
Or she gives permission for you to do something with an "OK, go ahead!" means just the opposite, If you do it she may give you a case of recto-crainial inversion like you have never seen!

No offfense, you know her better than anyone else but when "our gift" is involved, well............................ 'nuff said!

Virginia

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Thu Apr 29, 2010 8:46 am

Phyliss,
Sweetheart I understand your feelings as I am kind of in the same boat, I want to continue to go out now and again but the wife has ask me please don't go out anymore.

So out of love and respect for her and her understanding of Carol I no longer go out which hurts but I am a big girl and will live through it.

Freddy · Post by **Freddy** » Sat May 01, 2010 6:18 am

You should know her best. What does she REALLY mean when she says it's OK?

The other question is what do you really want to do? Do you really want to go out, or would you rather have at home time? Would you get the same kick out of being dressed at home?

You are the only one who can answer these questions

Freddy

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Sun May 02, 2010 12:28 pm

And the cold hearted B**h adds her 2 cents (pence?).... When I got married I told the better half that number one comes first. It just so happens making number two happy makes number one happy. Okay so I really make an effort to compromise, but there are times when you just make everyone miserable including yourself if you can't get your time.

Now the issue at hand. Unity will not go away if you don't attend. And if they are good people, they will also understand that you just might want to be with your better half. Deciding to go to Unity or stay home should not be a bad decision either way. Feeling like you missed something at Unity means you get someone to tell you everything during or after it's over. If you go to Unity, then I'm hoping you will ask the better half and you make it worth her while to go.

Either decision you make is a good one -- simple (yeah *sigh*).

Carmen Roma · Post by **Carmen Roma** » Sat May 15, 2010 10:37 am

Family comes first, take care of your wife if you decide to stay with her rather than go to your community function, she will be very appreciative and more willing to let you do other things on your own.

PhylissH · Post by **PhylissH** » Sat May 15, 2010 1:03 pm

Thanks Carmen,
and everyone else for your post. I always ask or let my wife know when I am wanting to/going out. It would not be right not to take her in to concideration.

I alway look forward to my time home and time that I can spend with her, and she, though not terribly happy about my CDing has been quite supportive, so it is not the end of the world if I dont get out for things.

We ended up going to my old office and visiting with the folks that took over the business after hurricane Ike. We had an enjoyable evening, nice casual dinner, and enjoyed the musuc from the festival across the way.