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Argh!!! I am SO SO MAD...

All I wanted to do was have a little fun tonight, during what little time I get to myself to dress, and I am to be punished for it. I REGRET having attempted going out at all.

I was ejected from a bar tonight! Why??? Because I had no money to buy a drink! I had to use whatever money I had to buy an outfit because I left my outfit at home! I took the train into the city, but from the neck down I wore sloppy old boy clothes in order to save time. I was planning to change once I reached my destination... but I left the damn dress at home!

Since i forgot my dress, I had to go & find a clothing store. I used my last $10 to buy whatever I could find.

The owner was such a rude !@#$%&* I swear that I am going to have that place shut down! I already spoke to my lawyer ...

I hate to be a B... but I am just so sick & tired of being disrespected! I have put up with too much in my life to allow myself to be treated any way less than I deserve.

I give folks respect and I expect that in return. If you want to make an enemy of me, I can make you regret the day you were born.

I am so sick of being mistreated and I cannot allow it anymore.

Lorna,

I am so sorry that happened to you. I know that you are pretty miffed right now, but try to remember you can not control what others think, say or do, and it is just wasted effort to try.

I am sure this must have been a most unpleasant experience for you and makes me sad for you. I know how much you love going out. But remember you are still a great gal, no matter what.
Elizabeth

Darlene wrote:

Darlene wrote:

Too.

Thanks girls... I'm better today, but ugh! It just annoyed me more than anything else. All I wanted was one short evening out before beginning the long workweek, but nooooooooo... I had to forget my outfit & the bar owner had to be a jerk.

Plus I found out that a bar owner can legally ask a person to leave for whatever reason (can you imagine?) Oh well...

But then again, a person with my mouth & my connections in the city can ruin a LOT of business for them if I wanted to! heh heh...

Besides, there are THOUSANDS of other places in the city to go!

Oh Lorna, I've just lost what I'd written to say to you. That makes me so mad! What am I doing wrong? How can I continually be so stupid? Grrrr!

I'm sorry your evening out was spoiled by this incident, I really am. However, surely you'd agree that a bar-owner has the right to ask someone to leave his establishment if they're not spending any money there? So, presumably it was the fact that the guy was so rude about it was what really got to you? Or was it just the fact that you were really annoyed at yourself for being 'stupid' and leaving your outfit at home, and you wanted to vent that on someone else?

In the final analysis, it doesn't matter who was rude first, him or you, what does matter is that you are only disturbing yourself by prolonging the incident in your own mind, and with your desire to 'get even'.

It's not worth the hassle and grief you'll cause yourself, Lorna; just let it go.

And remember, you're always welcome to come and drink in my joint, kid.

Hugs,

Caroline.

Thanks Caroline. I am past this incident, but there are a few things in your post that I need to address.

Or was it just the fact that you were really annoyed at yourself for being 'stupid' and leaving your outfit at home, and you wanted to vent that on someone else?

Well... that is not exactly how I would have put it, Caroline. The usage of the word 'stupid' is yours, not mine, and I'm not entirely certain how I should take that. I didn't use the word 'stupid'.

In the final analysis, it doesn't matter who was rude first, him or you,
what does matter is that you are only disturbing yourself by prolonging the incident in your own mind, and with your desire to 'get even'.

First of all, I was NOT rude to the owner or to anyone. Second, although he had every legal right to ask me to leave, a small part of me felt mistreated, especially after I have been a patron of that establishment many times in the past. If I were a first-time visitor there I wouldn't even have given it a second thought.

So yes, another part of me feels that the owner needs to learn a lesson, one way or another. I am not a 'turn the other cheek' kind of person. Read my post from a month ago about an altercation I had. Someone steps on my toes, I step on their head. That's my motto.

Lorna,

I'm really surprised that a place that you have been to numerous times in the past wouldn't cut you a little slack, figuring that you would bring some money on your next visit and spend some of it there.

I admit, I've never owned or ran a bar, but If I did, I would want to have satisfied customers coming back on a regular basis.

Please excuse me if I'm a blonde making sense (darn, that probably sets me back in my try to be this month's Miss Blonde of May).

I hope the paychecks from the new job start soon - that should help with the no money problem.

Jadeanne

Jadeanne wrote:Lorna,

I'm really surprised that a place that you have been to numerous times in the past wouldn't cut you a little slack, figuring that you would bring some money on your next visit and spend some of it there.

Me too, hon. I can understand people wanting to make a buck but when I was ejected, i was the only person in the place! Sheesh.

Jadeanne wrote:Please excuse me if I'm a blonde making sense (darn, that probably sets me back in my try to be this month's Miss Blonde of May).

You make perfect sense, hon...

Jadeanne wrote:I hope the paychecks from the new job start soon - that should help with the no money problem.

Next week! Yayyyyy.... I am starting up a moving fund, a vacation for a week out of NY fund and a laser hair removal fund!

Hello Lorna,

Thanks for your response.

First, I'd like to make it clear that I wasn't calling you stupid, and how you should take my using that word is like this: when I have been in a similar situation, i.e. forgetting my outfit, or enough money, or whatever, I feel annoyed at my own mistakes, but all to often those feeling get in the way of subsequent dealings with other persons who had nothing to do with the original event, i.e. me not having done something I should have. And when I forget to do something that I should have done, I feel pretty 'stupid' about it, though, like you, I'm far from being stupid per se.

On reflection, my original post was stupid; how foolish of me thinking that I could help. Please forgive my arrogance, if you can.

Second, I accept that you were not rude to anyone, and I admire you for your strength of character, particularly when you subsequently admit that you like to teach people a lesson who you think have shown you disrespect.

I hope you don't think that I am being disrespectful now, or that I have been in the past.

Third, it makes it all the harder to understand, however, that a barkeep would rudely tell a regular customer to leave his establishment, particularly when they were the only person there, just because on that occasion they had no money to buy a drink?

Curioser, and curioser, as Alice said.

I ended my previous post by saying that you were always welcome to drink in my joint, kid; that was meant as a friendly gesture, Lorna, so please don't 'step on my head', as you put it.

Regards,

Caroline.

You two handled that wonderfully well. You two are total class!!!

Caroline wrote:I ended my previous post by saying that you were always welcome to drink in my joint, kid; that was meant as a friendly gesture, Lorna, so please don't 'step on my head', as you put it.

Regards,

Caroline.

Thanks, hon... I owe you an apology for the way I responded in that last post. I was a tad on the irritable side for completely unrelated reasons. I also want to thank you for the friendly gesture as well. I would never 'step on the heads' of my fellow sisters!

*hugs*

~ Lorna

Hi Lorna,

Thank you for that; I was trying to make you feel better too.

Take care,

Caroline.

And you succeeded, hon!

Plus it's Friday at last!!!