My wife says she will have trouble with me being in a wig makeup,heels,and a bra what can we do to get past this problem? (HELP)
Kandy
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First, DO NOT FORCE THE ISSUE - It ain't worth it!
My wife does not want to see Deborah - she knows I go out dressed and that I pass, but she said she just could not handle it right now. Your wife may be the same, respect her wishes, set your bounderies and don't cross them. She may or may not come to the point of seeing you dressed, it is not important now. Just the fact that she accepts your crossdressing is a mile stone to be cherished. A lot of our sisters will not, can not, may never "come out of the closet." You are the exception to the rule, you do not have to "live in fear of getting caught." Just respect her wishes and love your gift.
Love,
Deborah
My wife does not want to see Deborah - she knows I go out dressed and that I pass, but she said she just could not handle it right now. Your wife may be the same, respect her wishes, set your bounderies and don't cross them. She may or may not come to the point of seeing you dressed, it is not important now. Just the fact that she accepts your crossdressing is a mile stone to be cherished. A lot of our sisters will not, can not, may never "come out of the closet." You are the exception to the rule, you do not have to "live in fear of getting caught." Just respect her wishes and love your gift.
Love,
Deborah
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Hi Kandi!
I agree with everything Deborah said! You want your wife to accept your femme side. If you force it upon her she will grow to resent it and will never accept it. Be patient and understanding with her. If she gets to a point where she is more tolerant, show your graditude and let her know how happy it makes you that she is becoming more accepting and willing to share in this with you. If she has any questions, answer them honestly. She knows you better than anyone else and she will know whether you're lying or not telling her everything and that will harm any acceptance she may have had.
I guess I said all that to say this. Please be patient with her it may take awhile, if ever, for her to accept this side of you.
I wish you the best in this!
Hugs!!
Stef
I agree with everything Deborah said! You want your wife to accept your femme side. If you force it upon her she will grow to resent it and will never accept it. Be patient and understanding with her. If she gets to a point where she is more tolerant, show your graditude and let her know how happy it makes you that she is becoming more accepting and willing to share in this with you. If she has any questions, answer them honestly. She knows you better than anyone else and she will know whether you're lying or not telling her everything and that will harm any acceptance she may have had.
I guess I said all that to say this. Please be patient with her it may take awhile, if ever, for her to accept this side of you.
I wish you the best in this!
Hugs!!
Stef
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Kandy,
Baby steps is what she needs now. Ask her what can she accept now..When my husband told me I only accepted panties, then as I learned more and got used to them he added a nightgown some times. It has been 6 months and now he wears a bra when he dresses with breast forms, that I bought for him. He also has a wig, that we picked out together. He has his own clothing. He always asks me first before he dresses fully, you know sometimes I am just not in the mood for it, I feel he respects my feelings and does not overdo it.
We do have kids at home so he usually can only dress 1-2X in a 2 week period, although he does wear panties 24/7 and can dress how he pleases in our bedroom.
Give her time to adjust and accept, patience will carry you both a long way.
Honey (SO)
Baby steps is what she needs now. Ask her what can she accept now..When my husband told me I only accepted panties, then as I learned more and got used to them he added a nightgown some times. It has been 6 months and now he wears a bra when he dresses with breast forms, that I bought for him. He also has a wig, that we picked out together. He has his own clothing. He always asks me first before he dresses fully, you know sometimes I am just not in the mood for it, I feel he respects my feelings and does not overdo it.
We do have kids at home so he usually can only dress 1-2X in a 2 week period, although he does wear panties 24/7 and can dress how he pleases in our bedroom.
Give her time to adjust and accept, patience will carry you both a long way.
Honey (SO)