Crossdressers-Haven.com

Here is my first profile picture, such as it is in a cheap tacky $15 dress that looks it, not my favorite. I have decided to open my door a little wider. My wife has known since 7 years into our marriage, we recently celebrated our 20th Anniversary. My parents never knew, until today only my wife knew. Today I told my older son ( 18 ) and he was perfectly fine with my being who I am, I asked if he knew and he told me he had seen me (probably in my chemise) one night about three years ago - I probably thought everyone was in bed and I was safe to set the thermostat. That leaves my 15 year old.... thinking of waiting until he is 18 as he is more conventional, just a normal son. But this is a definite no to my sisters or my wife's very conservative southern bible belted redneck family - they are nice people but I suspect they would try to force a divorce, and be real nasty in general.... Anne
Perhaps I will figure out how to upload a larger picture later.

That's great news about your son, it's good to be accepted for who you are. Enjoy being open here, we are all in the same boat - more or less - and even the critisisms I have had have been friendly advise

uumm let us be the judge of cheap and tacky. The one you have on seems just fine for an itty bitty teeny weeny person ant-sized person.

How to upload a bigger picture? Go to the gallery and click on "user mode" then just look for the "upload" and follow the prompts. I recall a 3 to 5 pic upload limit per day for each of us. I'm looking forward to seeing that dress or any other you feel comfy sharing.

And congrats on getting out to one of the kids. Glad it went well. So my question is... Did you tell him not to talk about it to anyone including his siblings? When I told my daughter (19 at the time), she wanted to share it with some of her close friends.

Looking forward to seeing you int he chat as well.

I read it was supposed to be no more than 100x100 pixels and 52mb perhaps will try later. Well, my son told me he is _ _ _ and discussed that no matter how mad he ever gets at me he will tell no one, he agreed and we shook hands over it - but.... we will see. I discussed all the consequences that could occur if various people knew, my sisters, grandmother and wife's side of the family, church. I took my chances, everyone tells me what wonderful boys we have (unsolicited) but that is probably a fairly standard thing people say on meeting just to be nice? I suppose I am ready for whatever - I am retired and have a retired income so I am not worried about being fired.

Hi Anne, you look great in that dress, a proper photo would be nice. It is good that family members that know are supportive.

Joan

Anne, I think the 100x100 pixels thing only applies to your Avatar.

I can't claim to be blonde I only scanned the rules and am inept at new technology just like many of our parents when they hit middle age and beyond. Besides I probably look alot better in a small picture! Never the less I will bring on a larger picture next week.

Hi Anne--
It is true that the thumbnails can look stunning, and then the clicked-on picture is a disappointment. I even see that with some of my own pictures.
Nonetheless, your little avatar picture looks very nice indeed. Good luck with getting 'the big picture.'

Nice picture Anne.

Erica

Here is my updated profile, hope I don't scare anybody. I am feeling a bit of a rebel this morning and would like to let my 15year old know but as we all know each child is different. It would be so nice not to have to change clothing so that I can just relax and be myself if that be feminine or masculine. I may ask my older son if he told him and how he reacted if he did... though this would indicate a breech of our trust... I could speak with him directly and then be free to be myself. I don't know what is happening to me - but I am feeling emboldened. It is as if I could tell the world "this is who I am - get over it!" But I must also remember that sometimes things done, cannot be undone! So dramatic....
I have other pictures but will have to only share pictures which do not show what we in the states call a "farmer's tan" for you brits which is distressing and ruins it all. Here in the deep south we tend to wear short sleves so we get dark arms from the mid bicep down and a V from our neck up. Not sure how to fade this as I cannot run around in scoop necked shirts or I would be pounded by the neanderthals! What's a girl to do fiddle de de (a little southern expression only Scarlet O'hara would use) I am not into falsetto voices or play acting - no matter the gender I desire to express, my personality is my personality - I believe in being genuine and who I really am. Another discovery is how very important it is for a girl to smile! I looked at the pictures with my usual stern masculine expression and had to jump back WOW!!!! they make it very clear I am a man in a dress like nothing else, women just do NOT look that fierce, stern, or serious! I will post no pictures without a smile either. At least the Profile has a modest smile.

Oh, and thanks for the complement, I replaced the itty bitty profile with this one and have enlarged my picture as best I could in the photo gallery but had to crop from the mid calf down - still learning how to manage photos.

Hey Anne looks good!

There's a lot in that last post, I think we can all understand the desire to be out, but tread gently. Your 15 year old may or may not be cool with your dressing, but he will be very subject to peer group pressure (its the age), also I suspect that being OK with it in theory and seeing Dad dressed may be different. Our families are the most important things we have, we need to protect them, sometimes from ourselves.

Thanks Paula, sound advice that I will take.

I agree with you about the smile Anne, when I look at pictures of myself I always think that I should have been smiling. I think I usually smile normally, but when a camera is present suddenly I can't smile normally.
Well you know your sons better than anyone, but I would be willing to bet a strawberry milkshake that the 15yo also already knows. You could just ask the older one "do you think your brother knows?" It contains no assumptions about how he might have figured it out. But anyway kids know a lot more about what is happening that you would guess.
Paula is right though, it is one thing to know about it and another thing to see it. I almost never wear overtly feminine things around my kids, even though their mother has made a point of telling everyone possible. Or maybe because she has made a point of telling everyone possible, anyway I think they don't want to have to think about it and there is no reason why they should have to. But they are all much younger.

It's true a smile is the most important thing we can do to make ourselves look better.

I believe my younger one did open the door to our bedroom once at night several years back and I in my chemise quickly jumped under the covers. He probably does, will ask my older son but not push it - knowing and seeing your FATHER really are different but if they know perhaps it would lessen the blow were they to surprise me again. I will follow the sensable and very good advice received here on this - Thanks all.