Coping and telling my family

[LeeAnn]

As most of the ladies that I have chatted with here knows, I have been working up the nerve to tell my mom about my cross dressing. I have tried this past week to tell her over the phone (she lives over 8 hours away and to go visit for a weekend is just not feasible). Every time I tried to say it I just choked. Plus my dad was in the same room as her and he has not been feeling well. I do not want to upset him having my mom say something or react funny.

I read Michelle M posting about telling her mother. I found it very sweet and have decided to follow what she did in a way. I am just going to tell my mother tomorrow that I need to speak to her privately and if she would go to a room where she is alone. Then I will just come out and tell her. I am certain she will be OK with it, and have a ton of questions. If all goes well I can go out tomorrow night to a club that I found that accepts cross dressers. I hope I can celebrate and not feel like crying.

Thanks ladies for all your help you have given me. I hope I will have the courage that you all have given me in the past and finally deal with who I am to my mother.

Lee Ann

[Anna]

Hi LeeAnn. Hope it goes well for you. Mothers have a habit of knowing what you're thinking so she will probably reply with something like, "why have you waited so long to tell me?"

Anyway, good luck with it!

[Davita]

Leeann,

Good luck. I'm figuring Mom raised you right so she's going to treat your right. Just relax and let her be relaxed with you.

[Ginny Jones]

Wishing you good luck for tomorrow LeeAnn! Hope it goes really well!

hugs Ginny xx

[LeeAnn]

Thanks ladies. I do not think she even suspects it as I have not seen my mother much since I started to cross dress. The last time I saw her was on July 4th and I was just starting to buy bras and skirts. The more I have thought about it the more I think she will be OK with it. I think she will see that it has made me happy and that is a good thing. For a long time I have not been so happy. Now that Lee Ann has entered my life and become a part of me I have taken on a happiness that I have not felt in a long time.

Thanks ladies for the love and support I have been given here.

[LeeAnn]

YES!!!!! I am so proud of myself. I told my mother. She was a bit shocked I could tell. Shed asked me how long I have been doing it. I told her since about March. She also asked if I had gone out in public. I told her a few times and that I ever had a problem. I told her that my younger sister knew and was supportive about it. She also told me to talk to my sister (I suppose that meant not to talk to her about it). When I said goodbye my mother told me she loved me. It feels very good to let her know.

Lee Ann

[Amanda M]

LeeAnn - well done. However, don't just SUPPOSE that she does not want to talk about it. Ask her very gently and directly if that is her preference. Then you will know for sure, and a lot of uncertainty will be removed for both of you. Good luck!
Fiona.

[LeeAnn]

I will do that Fiona. There is nothing more I would like than for her to treat my like a daughter. I would love to go shopping with her and do other things.

[Carol Ann]

LeeAnn,
I am so proud of you for doing what you needed to do. Hon life just get's easyer if family knows so now you don't have to run if someone shows up all of a sudden.

[Anita]

I'm so glad you got this done, LeeAnn. It is so hard to anticipate doing this, waiting until just the right moment. You got it done, and now you can relax a bit.

[Davita]

Congrats! Now you have that bit of breathing room before the next round of talking.

[Kittie]

You must be proud and satisfied. Together with my wife I decided that I ought to tell my daughter ealy nerxt mon th when we visit her for my birthday. Otherwise she migt catch me out on Skype. We felt we needed to di it face to face rther than remotely. She lives in London & we are NW England

[LeeAnn]

Good luck Kittie. I find it so much better now that I am coming out to my family. My older sister still does not know and I am trying to think of a way to tell her. She has to take care of my cat while I go out to sea for a few days and I am thinking of leaving some of my woman things out for her to see, but than again I think that telling her would be best. I was sort of certain how my mother was going to react but my sister I am not sure.

My sister did make a comment about three months ago how she saw a cross dresser at the grocery store and stated that she looked very real. The only reason my sister noticed was the cross dresser was buying cigarettes and had to show her ID to the cashier. The cashier looked at the ID and gave a funny face. When the cross dresser left my sister was next in line. She asked why the cashier made a funny face. The cashier said "The woman ahead of you had an ID of a guy." My sister told the cashier she would never have guessed. So I hope that is a good sign that my sister might take it well that I am a cross dresser.

Have a good one.

[LeeAnn]

Well my older sister finally knows. She talked to my younger sister about what she saw in my apartment while taking care of my cat. She was confused but my younger sister told her what is going on. My younger sister said that older sister will be OK with it but older sister may get a tad bit emotional when she sees me tomorrow. My older sister tends to get a little emotional with things. I am happy thought that one more person knows of Lee Ann. Things are looking up. I hope things will not be too weird tomorrow.

[KimberlyS]

Good luck with talking with her. It sounds like you have a great family.