Crossdressers-Haven.com

I recently found a site that offered "dating services" for CD/TG/TS. I almost signed up, but at the last moment my spider senses hit me. What about the "psycho" or "blackmailer" (I'm married) or who knows what else is there. Has anyone had any experience with these sites? I would just like to meet 1 person....I repeat 1! person I can be friends with locally that shares my same passion. Is this a bad idea? Not thinking so much in the sexual sense, but more to just hang out and be girls together and friends. Any comments would be so appreciated.

Hon those sites are all BS, trust this old lady

My instincts told me that, but I guess the desire to have a local friend clouded my judgement.
Thanks for telling me what I instinctfully knew.

Jen

If you're looking for a friend and not really a date, what happened to support groups? If the groups are too far away, go with a pen pal for awhile until you two decide to meet half way or something.

Myself, I could have probably joined a support group, but I just used my closest friends.

Hi, JennyLynn -

I completely agree with Carol Ann and Davita . . . stay very far away from all those 'dating sites' (and even those Yahoo groups, too) . . . you'll just be inviting more problems especially if all you want is friendship! Just think what would happen if your wife and/or family/friends discovered that you were on any of those sites?? Talk about "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" times 100 . . . your wife will NEVER believe that you were on those sites just looking for a friend, and it will be even worse because she does not yet know about JennyLynn!

I know we have members in your general area and you should try getting in contact with them, and I know there is a local CD/TG group in your area or not too far away. http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... 42&t=13137" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Check, too, to see if there is a Tri-Ess chapter near you, here: http://tri-ess.org/docs/chapter_list.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;


Personally, Virginia and I have met many members from the forum - locally and whenever we are travelling in other states, others just by some very long-winded telephone calls - and we have never met more beautiful and friendly people.


Good luck!


- SL

I am sure that you will find many a friend on this forum that will provide support and information that you will cherish Jenny. Leave those other site alone. They spell danger, danger.

Hi,

Depends on what you wont or need iv been on a few for quite a while and i know a few quite nice people most are women and at different times we talk about things on my profile like on any forum im on theres my pic and about myself iv made it very plain im an intersexed female not interested in men . and i joined for friendship. iv had 4 men write me with the view of friendship view to marrage,

i wrote back in a nice way saying they would be disapopinted in myself because of being interesexed and they need a woman who can give to them what they need something i can not do.

im very up front and people respect that, again in the profiles there is a place for not looking for a date or not interested in men. im allso not married not looking and not interested,

If you are looking for a friend i have grave doughts that they cd trans or who ever those forums are there for a friendship my backup people have told me whats going on why they are there and what they expect of others who go to these places, one word sex, male or other, trust me you do not wont to get caught up with these people, i know first hand what one tryed when i met up with a dresser transvestic he was told in no uncertian terms what would happen had he touched me where he has no right to. i know what these people are like, two words ...stay away....

My issue is he was a male who thought because im a woman im interested in sex, and he could do what ever, not around me . be very carefull who you invite to your home or where you go if you meet up with another dresser or who ever, just make sure your with a trusted friend,

And please make sure if you do you have a backup close at hand i mean this i work with a few people who can turn nasty and i have had the Police called in to take out an abusive male concerning an another woman, so i am involved and with the Police, and other agencys ,

sorry ....this is just the fact of whats going on. i wont say there are not nice people out there, there are.just be carefull who you trust .

...noeleena...

You all convinced me of what I knew already. I just get so lonely. Just to have another sweet CD to hang out with...once a month...twice a year! Whenever! I would so love a friend in real life. Just once.

I'm in the same boat now that our local drag bar closed - used to be able to chat with like minded people there...now I wonder where they all are, staying home alone like me?

For the longest time I've considered dating sites, as I am shy, all diff types, but never went through with them. I'd rather meet someone in person and develop a relationship naturally. I'm talking to a few women who are friends, and hoping something will develop. I'm not able to find many support groups that are close to where I live, even though I'm in New York, as I am uptown, and they are mostly further downtown. I did find one that is a possibility through Crossdressers International, so will let you all know how it goes. Hope you find someone.
Samantha Jane

Well, I know it's a longshot, but if there is anybody who might be interested in starting an upstate NY friendship club, let me know. We all go slow and get to know each other first. It's a process. We take our time and develop a trust.

Jennylynn

Did you try meetup.com?