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That's really somewhat of a rhetorical question, and somewhat unanswerable anyway. I am not meaning why do I dress in general in this post but rather my current status. I have a lot of trouble dealing with the time change, I for one don't get that extra hour of sleep its hard for me to adjust and I tend to be an early riser anyway.

So here I site at five in the morning, having gotten up around three, taken a shower and put on some makeup and gotten dressed in my womanly garb. It fells wonderful I am so enjoying it, have done it every morning this week. After awhile I'll go make some breakfast, all the while dressed. I will wear an apron I don't want to get anything on my clothes. Then at about 7:30 I'll have to undo it all so I can go out into the world.

Therein lies my question to myself. Why do I do it, for that short few hours? Why bother if I can't stay that way a whole lot longer? I guess its because I like it, and it very well could become a habit. Well all but the makeup part, I only put on a bit of lipstick this morning, that hour it takes me to do makeup that I'm never satisfied with seemed just to much for me this morning.

Sorry to take up the space in the forum, but its five in morning and I just had to say something to someone.

I totally get it. it is so nice to be dressed up whether you have on makeup or not. If you can continue doing I would if I were you. Enjoy and have a wonderful day!

Hugs,
Erica

Sarah Beth wrote:.

Therein lies my question to myself. Why do I do it, for that short few hours? Why bother if I can't stay that way a whole lot longer?

You do it because you like it, at least I hope that is the reason The only thing I see different is that you dress before the sun rises, where as most others do it when left alone during the day or in the evening.

Our civilization only allows a few hours of personal, discretionary time per day, at best, for the working class. At certain points in life the time goes to zero for years, such as when caring for young or old family members.

If you are OK with your sleep/wake habits I'd venture to say you would be too tired at the end of the day or just not in the mood. Weekends and time off would be times to get creative.

I am recently retired, wife is still working. I take care of the house and everything, and can manage to squeeze in a few hours of personal time once or twice a week

If you are looking for a logical reason behind it all, stop now, humans are not logical and we do lots of things that don't seem to make any sense. You are obviously enjoying what you are doing, or you wouldn't be doing it. I find that if I look at what motivates me, then I get a better picture of the behavior as it makes itself present. The best example I can give is, what motivates me to shave my legs? Because I find that the feel of shockings/pantyhose on freshly shaved legs has such a sensuous feel that it gives me a type of "high". We are sensual creatures, looking for ways to stimulate our senses, some do it with food, alcohol, and others drugs, etc.
Another way to look at it, what sense of reward does it give you. Does it give you a brief time of feeling good about yourself? Does it calm you? Does it put you into a fantasy world that helped you excape from the day to day stress that comes from having to meet so many obligations? The more stressed I am, the more I what to dress, maybe my reasoning is questionably to some, but it's better than getting drunk!

I came to the conclusion that my gender for whatever reason is mixed and mine tends to shift around. I have found that balance and peace comes when I put enough on the feminine side of the scales. I have had shiny red toenails and shaved legs for the past month, then I may add panties, this morning it is bra and panties and ankle socks and some secret lavender scented deodorant. I may dress more feminine if my son leaves, though he knows and says he doesn't care I still prefer not to in front of him. I find I deal with my fem side by doing what makes me feel comfortable and happy, at peace or that helps me to feel "balanced." I am mostly masculine so SRS is not something I would do - fantasize at times yes but -do-no. Pierced earlobes (recently purchased some quality gold tone .7" hoop ear rings) , allowing my hair to grow out? maybe.... I have dropped 24.5 pounds in part because of my fem side, but mostly to feel good and for health and longevity as I grow older. I have about 17 pounds to go to reach my ideal weight of 178# (below that I am approaching "too thin".
(my profile picture was taken at 178#).

So my approach is know yourself, go with the flow. I am a sailor so think of the feminine wind varying and you at the helm adjusting to maintain your course.

Make up is easy! Really I find less is more and many many women just wear light make up day to day, drop the foundation just a light touch of mascara, and lipstick - that is about 4 minutes. Cheers.

I'll do similar, Sarah.

Sometimes, when I get home from the gym, I dress enfemme, have breakfast, and change again for work all inside of an hour. No makeup however, usually.

Sarah,
I too dress ever so lightly in the am. As that's the time when it's still dark outside and I can take doggie out in the back yard to do his thing without the neighbors seeing me in a skirt and boobies. I don't always put the wig on and rarely do I do makeup at all unless I'm taking pictures. I'm trapped in a rural area with nosy neighbors, so I have to be extra cautious. It's okay to just put on those things that give you your feminine feeling... forget the mirror and just enjoy how you feel about yourself.

It can be kind of like acknowledging another person in the street. Like you don't really want to talk, but it feels mean and unkind not to say hello.

So, if you dress up for a while, it's like saying "hello" to your girl side. Like acknowledging she's there and thus respecting her. Kind of put yourself as peace with that side of yourself.

I stopped thinking of it as my "girl side". I have a red satin night shirt that I will sometimes wear as I check the news, weather, make coffee, and so forth. I like wearing the nice silky and satin clothes when I sit and write my morning exercises (about 700 words or so of what comes into my head). Then after my coffee I change into clothes more appropriate for working on the house. True, I could sit around in men's cotton underwear but it's just not the same feeling. The same is true at night when I change into a nice outfit after my shower. I feel relaxed even if I am fully dressed up. So you could say that I do it because I like to, it makes me feel good. Can't think of better reason.

I've been gone for a few days so am just now catching up on the posts. So thanks to all of for sharing your thoughts.

Jane:
Yes I do like it, I more than like, I love doing it makes my day seem to start off so much better. If I don't look in the mirror I don't need makeup. Which I am not good at applying anyway.

Gillian:
I'm not trying to put logic into it, I stopped years and years ago trying to see any logic behind my joy in puttin on female attire. All I know is, it is a part of me, it is an important of who I am as a person.