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Has anyone else been reluctant to post their pictures either as an avatar or in their profile? I was, and waited awhile, because I didn't feel comfortable about how I looked, compared to how I felt I looked. I guess we all have an image about ourselves, and when I was taking pictures and feeling oh so pretty, I would look at the pictures and go "yuck"!
I guess it's not about being a goddess, but being a goddess in your own mind!

Hi,

For me iv had my pics in the news Papers and been interviewed for our two main TV stations nation wide, I knew i would do it ,

Never liked having my pic's taken or being in front of people id just go hide .

Even being female does not help myself much more so when your very shy, no worse than that ,
hated how i looked most of my life, i sure dont find it easy, very hard infact, and really haveing my pic's taken is only part of issue's iv struggled with, i do photography for our many groups so i use that to hide behind it has helped me and still does to interact with people . taking pic's of others i have to talk with them and get them to work with me while doing photography,

so while behind the camara i dont need to see what im like its like you are being seen by others yet does not bother me in front of other camara's hmmm oh dear, ,= i dont look right you can be a female yet dont look like one, thats my issue .

to night i was with our Edwardian group for our xmas dinner was lovely yummy food so yes a neat time yes do my camara work and while getting our food one of the women who works at the Hotel i know her asked me why i was not dressed similar to our other women it is Edwardian so in answer i said i dress very plain because of my facial features, and yes my clothes are nice just id look stupid if i dressed in frilly or like our women .the men can a do dress in red coats or other similar regimental wear. we women dress in evening wear of the times, 1900 -14.

YES ... im embarrist yes im ashamed of how i look . well dont look, i struggle with it and even just my normal day wear or out at like our Scottish night last night, and to morrow ill be there, from age 10 iv struggled with it, Iv faced 1000's of people talked to many 100's at thier meetings .

iv the confidence to do it, i think youd be surprised what i do . yet i never feel quite right, stand in front of 1000's of people talk to them try it some time, no butterflys im at home doing it, nothing written down all from memory easy, talk for an hour and more,

having my pic taken, oh dear this changes it iv taken a few of myself after our do's just to show i was there and what i wore, to show them ...... thats when it drives home oh ... dear wheres this woman i dont see her in my pic's so you see even being female yes with a difference i still dont see a woman. not all of us are photogenic well im not .

Yes i have my avatar up for all to see on all the other forums not here as yet and one other till i get our computer back up and running then i will.

the image of myself is how people see me every day no makeup no add on's or i dont know i just wear my normal clothes, spos what im saying is im not trying to be other than who i am,

Feeling oh so pretty. he he . oh dear im laughing at that because i know how i look it sure not pretty, no way,

So yes i do understand what its like and its real life for this kid, every day ...

...noeleena...

Jenn
We all have to remember that if we post pictures here they will pop up when you google yourself in the images search section
Some time it takes a while but sooner or later you google and there you are --- forever!

I have accepted that but some might find it unsettling

Be Mighty photogenic
Diane

hmmm, I'm not shy exactly but I look horrible in picture and don't like them. I did post one or two a long time ago, mostly to show off some new dresses
Then there is the problem of taking pictures, it's just too much hassle setting up the camera and running over and hoping that it got me and not the ceiling or floor or some other random thing.
So it's a lot of trouble and I never like the way they turn out..............that's pretty much it.

Best to use a camera on a tripod
Also if so equipt - take a burst of pictures - sometime you can pick the best of the lot
and finally look into getting
Portraite Professional
You can fix a few flaws just like a professional photographer

Diane

Can't say I'm shy. Google Davita Farley. I have my face(s) out there for the world to see for over a decade. Never had a soul run over to me that only knows my boy side. OMG! I saw you on a web site. I have had folks tell me they over heard I had a web site and mentioned a topic on it. Then they found me.

Basically, to be found by a search engine without being on page fifty, the person searching has to know enough to narrow the possibilities down to something reasonable. I think of it as "it takes one to know one". A person has to know enough about you to find you or they have to be interested in enough things/topic that you show up at the web sites.

I could be wrong, but honestly for me; I am quite happy for people to find my site. Saves me coming out and explaining me.

Now posting pictures here? I will shrink a picture now and then to meet the posting requirements here. I for one like to see who I'm talking to. I try to keep my image relatively current. I may not like my image, but it's who I am.

It takes a LOT of pictures to come up with one that is really pleasing. I know this from taking band photos over the years. The photographers would take 3 or 4 rolls (at about 36 pictures per roll), to get one shot that might work.

So when it comes to 'gal' pictures, you have to be willing to endure looking at many "yuck" pictures to come up with one that works for you.
I was surprised at some of the shots of me that showed up on the web--I was out there performing, and people took pictures. None of them were horrible to me, and that was gratifying.

I must say I agree that it would be nice to put a face to someone you are talking to, but at the same time I for one feel very uncomfortable adding my beautiful features to possible cyber attackers.
Currently in my area cyber attacks have been so brutal as to cause suicide, admittedly cyber bullying is a problem which I don't think is going away any time soon, but I think I would not risk taking a chance at least not yet, perhaps later I may be more forthcoming to post pics of me on the interweb.

I am kind of shy and somewhat reserved by nature anyway

This site I am positive is a safe bet to post any pictures for all to see, so you will forgive me if I take time to think this through and perhaps wait until I feel more secure sometime down the road...

Hope this makes sense.


zephyr

I'm like Noeleena, in that I used to take pictures of other people and dislike ones taken of me. It took me a long time to get one of me CDing that I liked. But, at the time that I took it, I knew I'd really gone into the picture in a way I hadn't before.

Because I'm used to taking pictures of other people, I always want to be looking through the lens when I take the picture. I know just about everyone else uses a tripod, but it just feels like you're putting yourself at one remove if you do that. Gives me the problem of camera shake, though.

On a point of information, the general public have no access to pictures in the gallery. So, if you put pictures there, you shouldn't have a problem with privacy. What they can see is your avatar picture. Those are the only images that come up on google (or wherever) from here.

I am a little different when it comes to pictures. I don't find them worth the time to take. I realized this a long time ago when I noticed that I had a drawer full of photos that I had only looked at when I picked them up at the finisher. Have taken very few since. I guess that I look to the future not to the past.

Now, if I ever do take some, I'm not sure I would post them. Once something is on the internet, it is there forever. The gallery may be private and safe today, but who is to say about the future....

I'd gladly post pics if I was attractive looking but unfortunately may break the web if I did

Ya know, Michelle, with those sorts of potential powers a girl needs to watch it. There are forces out there that want the web broken...

I very purposefully put my picture up.

I wanted to get used to seeing myself as a woman. Just before that I'd shaved my beard of 50 years. That took a while to get used to - I had no chin! At least not the chin the beard gave me.

I saw the beardless face in the mirror every day, and got used to it and used to using it. It did different things than my bearded face did.

So then I put up my best femme picture so I could see it every day and associate it with what I said and what I'd read and felt. Now I recognize it as "me," and I'm very pleased to do so.

I've posted elsewhere how I felt about not being the girl in my imagination, not being beautiful. I'm very happy I posted this picture because I now feel comfortable identifying myself as a 73yo woman who still has some chops.

I will become older, of course, and periodically shave my beard and dress, and maybe go outside. My wife says that if I pucker my butt, walk heel-toe, stand straight, and don't speak, I'd pass. Maybe so. Eventually I shall find out. But this, now, is a good first step.

I recommend it, for your own sake. The goal is to be comfortable in your own skin, and a still picture that you see every time you come to Crossdressers-Forum will help you to get there.

As some here may remember,I used to post pictures regulary.I did take them off for saftey reasons.Not so much because I was feeling uneasy but I didnt want the people I care about harrassed. It would be unlikely ,but it is possible.So I no longer post pictures.As far as self image goes at the time I was fairly confident but that has faded over the years.I hope it eventually returns.

I have some that I took myself, and tried attaching them here once, but had some trouble, so maybe I'll try again, but I would also like to have my roommates, who are lesbians, to take some better pics for me to post with newer clothes that I bought. Hope to have them for ya'll soon.
Samantha Jane