Small sign of progress

[Kelly]

I have been working on a femme voice for the last four months or so. At times the recordings I make are pretty decent; but still mostly disappointing.

None the less, I have been trying it out in contexts where it doesn't matter. Like when a telemarketer calls or I am in some public setting where nobody knows me. At best I get a strange stare; but it is cold season, lots of people sound funny.

So you probably know where this is going. I finally gat a madam. In a coffee shop, the gal taking orders was busy looking away when I put in my order. When she looked up she apologized. I told her not to worry....

Put double, my usual contribution, to the tip jar

So, guess it is a sign of progress. Just have to become consistent and be able to maintain it.

[DonnaT]

So, practice does make perfect.

Almost

[OliviaM]

Don't know if this is progress but at supermarket with SO who because of medical issues has lost most of her hair and wears a hat or cap!! Despite the hair loss she still has some facial hair and was wearing a sweatshirt!! At the deli counter she was asked "can I help you sir"!! She told me she felt insulted!! I was trying to make her feel better and said she shouldn't feel that way and that I would not!! I meant if I was in her position!! She replied that I would love to be called Miss!! She is right of course and, while it was not the right time for a discussion, I think it is the way to begin the one I want to have!! Not sure if her reply somehow means there is some measure of acceptance!!

[Kelly]

Ouch.

First, I hope that whatever the medical condition is, that your SO is on the road to recovery.

What happened to me was an anticipated event. When it happened I was tickled pink. What happened to her was unexpected and came when she was probably under some stress. A kick in the gut when already down on the ground. Her feeling insulted is justified. But you already know that.

The reaction to your attempted to console is curious. Perhaps the suspects, or has already figured it out. Or maybe just lashing out while feeling injured. Hard to say.

Would I use it as a green light for having THE TALK? Well, maybe encouragement. I would wait until her issues were behind her. Why make her deal with multiple big deals. Then again, I am a real chicken s**t when it comes to THE TALK and will grasp any excuse to kick the can down the road. So take my perspective with a grain of salt.

Kelly

[Davita]

Olivia, she needed an "awww poor baby" and a good hug. Then ask her if she wants to borrow a wig. Honestly, being called "sir" was just adding insult to injury. Kinda how we feel being called "sir" too.

Kelly, without hearing your voice... When was the last time you compared your fem voice with all the ladies around you? As with the way they walk, dress, etc, they have a miriad of voices too. I would just be wanting somewhere in their range enough to assure a fem designation rather than male. Even a woman will pull off a male voice when she wants. Anyway, I glad you're getting better with your voice so you can be comfortable.

[Kelly]

I compare my voice to females around me constantly. When I hear a voice in the pitch range I can meet, I try to emulate it. I work the voice recorder app on my smart phone pretty hard.

My femme voice is far from perfect. Every once in a (long) while I hit it just right. I am just now testing it out in situations where it wouldn't matter if I came off a fool. This was one instance is where I hit it.

My goal is to get to the point that I can consistently obtain a femme designation.

An indeed, practice makes perfect.

[OliviaM]

You are both right and I agree I was not as sensitive as I should have been!! I will try to make sure it does not happen again!!

[OliviaM]

Mixed signals or small sign of acceptance? Out shopping with my wife looking for deck shoes I will need on Wednesday when I will be working as an extra in a major movie production. The men's size 10 and 10 and1/2 were right next to women's 11 and 12. My wife picks up a black open toe 5 inch heel with little silver studs on the front and sides and shows it to me and says "this is nice." I say you're right, I like that." She says"I knew you would." Then she let me try them on and we discussed how versatile a shoe it was because it could be worn with a variety of outfits. Bought the deck shoes and on the way out she showed me how to open a bracelet and let me try it on. Really fun. She knows I want to dress but I want to talk about when, where, and how often because some of the things I have been doing will get difficult because her brother will be staying with us for awhile. Hope today was positive. Thanks for listening will post.

[Anthony Simon]

It sounds like you're in a process with your wife, Olivia. Like you told her about the CDing and, to start with, she was encouraging. But that encouraged you to go too hard and fast with it for her to process. So she became negative and you were discouraged and backed off.

Now she feels able to deal with a further tranche of your CDing and advance a bit further in her acceptance of it.

[Requal Jo]

Keep up the hard work Kelly and success will be yours.