Feeling Like A Woman

[JessiEM]

I believe that I will never "feel like a woman", I can't...wrong body, wrong genetic makeup, I'll never be one, not for real, unless science comes up with something to alter our genes, the best I can ever hope to feel is..
"I feel comfortable and happy and what I perceive to be feminine and in touch with my innermost feelings and thoughts and totally engaged with being who I am without regret"

Just a random thought

[Kelly]

I believe that I will never "feel like a woman", I can't...wrong body, wrong genetic makeup, I'll never be one, not for real,

That's a bummer statement.

the best I can ever hope to feel is..
"I feel comfortable and happy and what I perceive to be feminine and in touch with my innermost feelings and thoughts and totally engaged with being who I am without regret"

is elegant. And it is enough.

Kelly.

[Gina L.]

Hi Jessi, did you ever hear the saying "It's the clothes maketh the woman"?? that and a little imagination and the feeling of your stockings rubbing together should help you feel like the woman you want to be evn if it is only for a fleeting moment

[Carol Ann]

Tell you what, when I shower in the morning and shave go into my room put on Carol Ann's cloths makeup and wig I become the women I look like. I look, act, and respond as the women I am on the outside but I know under it all there is a man under it all.

Now you figure it out

[Anne Bonny]

I agree we will never ever be female physically or mentally we were not raised that way and we will never every know how women feel or what it is to be a woman but as men we certainly enjoy being what we perceive as feminine for us. I think that's fine...I love the way that I am feeling, what I see in the mirror, or the joy of seeing my pretty nails. For us I think it is just our feeling a little softer a little more open, not aggressive but accepting we do sense an internal change it may not be the same thing but whatever it is I find it to be wonderful and I enjoy being a "girl" or like a girl and enjoy a sense that the differences between us and women are greatly diminished so much so that I feel I am nearly a woman and would be very comfortable being with women enjoying the same things in their company or as a member of their group. I am sure women do not feel we are that close but I suppose that does not matter.

[Noeleena]

Hi,

You know what, we are all born different ,though you may never be a woman remember this there is with in you a place though it may be small some of your hormones are in fact female ,

you may not feel it or even see it it does not matter its still there, and we were given at conception ,

Of cause some of us were given more and we would be classed as female in the normal sense ,and we to have some male hormones not a lot yet we still have them .

my self i know what its like being a female though i was born different it does not matter , and of cause i have grown in to a woman again to be a woman we do ...need.... to grow to become one,
Im not sure about so much about feeling like a woman , its not some thing i can hold ,its more of knowing being and living though any could try and live like a woman and no dought pass or blend in as one as many ether try or do, some even look lovely some would make it to the cat walk ,

Some of us well its a little different as is my case i dont have that look blend in or pass im just a female who is a mix ,as id say i have both sets of hormones and they have worked on my body in different ways , and it comes down to my acceptance of who i am .

yet what is more importaint ( i know for some ) its how they look or are seen , myself its not about that its about being accepted and no matter where i go or the groups i join im well accepted , as yet again i have been on Monday night July 28 th , at another Band that i will be with and see how i fit in as a drummer a bass drummer this time at our Timaru Scottish Piper and drum band , it will be quite different this time as im a Military side drummer ,

I have met some 35 members as well so there you go, oh and by the way we have some 8 women including myself and one woman know about my history going back 7 years part of being well known ,

...noeleena...

[Alexandria]

I am a coach in another life wrestling. This and a teacher have been my life plus my family, wife and grandchildren plus a conservative Lutheran who believes a lot of this stuff is wrong. Yet when my friend sent me a message about going out again all made up and confident I also felt a pride in how brave she is. I have not been in dress for over 2 months yet every day the urge gets stronger and stronger because those feelings of the woman inside me is also there. Just feel of silky things, putting my lipstick on over and over again, being on this forum and feeling the triumph that you girls give me and other closeted cd's. This is also my life trying to deny who I am, but I am also one of you girls who needs you to keep me going and not deny how I really feel. Thanks for making my day everyday on this site. Alexandra hugs

[JessiEM]

Anne -

Yes, that's pretty much my feelings on the subject also, I do love wearing pretty things and always feel what I perceive as a girly feeling when dressed, just being realistic about the whole difference between being me and being a woman, not that I'd change who I am


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[Eileen (SO)]

If I may throw in my two cents worth, for whatever that's worth. What's it like to feel like a woman? Darned if I know, it just is what it is. What's it like to be a man? You can open most jars and know what tools are needed to put things together. What's it like to be taller, or naturally skinny?
Wearing certain clothes looks more feminine, but to really feel like a woman takes more than clothing, HRS, or surgery. You would have redo life from the beginning and still be able to recall the male life for comparison. There is little wonder that there is a high rate of depression and suicide among the trans gendered community. That includes the occasional CD too. Learning to accept yourself and develop self esteem is most important. Just remember that the pursuit of happiness does not mean you get to be happy. Life is a compromise.

So go ahead, dears. wear the lacy bras and seamed stockings with garters. Most GG's never wear those things. If they make you feel feminine or sexy, go for it. But it's no more feeling like a woman than if I wore a jock strap to feel masculine.
I hope my thoughts are not out of line and offend anybody. My guy is anticipating a Friday night out and I've had just enough wine to be philosophic.

Eileen

[Noeleena]

Hi,

Thinking a little more on ...Feeling ...like a woman , Strip me of my clothes what would i feel . no more than i do with clothes on no matter what they are , or how i look ,

The ...like ... a woman , is so much more and only those of us who are born female can know what its like, . it,s in ...THE ...being one no props no clothes and just standing there all alone , you dont have to prove it or convince your self that the fact is you are a female / woman,

The other detail that comes with that is its imprinted or you are hard wired female .

The ? that most of you here would never need to ask is what,s it like being like a male, ,
that ill never be able to answer , because im not a male , funny that , well maybe not, oh well .

...noeleena...

[Gina L.]

Thanks Eileen for the GG aspect on this. Sadly a lot of us on this forum have struggled to feel like a man, what ever that is and now struggle to be like a woman and these crazy mixed up feelings have driven many sadly to depression and suicide. Any woman that I knew that wore sexy bras and seamed stockings always gave me the impression that she was self assured and in conrtol of her feminine side. Maybe this is why I love wearing these items of lingerie so that I can be in control of my feminine side and hopefully some day get that self assurance and confidence that I lack.

[Requal Jo]

I am who I am. I chose to CD. It is not a requirement or a need.

I enjoy my Requal time and in reflection I probably enjoy this time because I can escape from the pressures and stresses of life for a short time.

Yes, I feel feminine when Requal but I do not want to be and could never be a woman.

I am not into sexy lace bras and frilly nickers etc. I wear sensible female clothing that I am comfortable with.

Yes Jessie, I to am happy and comfortable with who I am.

[Eileen (SO)]

Thanks Eileen for the GG aspect on this.

Oh no, Gina! Not the aspect of a GG, I believe my views are from a person that never experienced gender identity conflicts. How does one describe those feelings to someone who hasn't had similar thoughts? Describe seeing to someone born blind.

I don't want to get too deep in psychology, ever. In keeping with the mood of this thread, I'll relate a short story many can relate to. One of my husbands CD girlfriends dresses up very nice. Absolutely looks mainstream female. Nothing flashy, just looks like an average woman. ( Sorry, this he/she, her as a him, dialog still gets me a bit uncomfortable. I do the best I can.) So, the friend, is positive in her mind that everyone can notice who she really is, not female.
A break though happened last weekend at a mainstream, but accepting bar. Several CD's and some spouses getting together for food and drinks. At some point, this friend, who doesn't drink alcohol, felt completely at ease. A male dressed female was not primarily in her mind. She felt female in this setting, having an evening out with friends. I suppose that this would be the ultimate experience for a CD. Losing all the self doubt or identity conflicts.

Eileen

[Paulette]

Yes, thanks Eileen! I've said this before, but . . .

We, us CDs, have an image in our heads of what a woman is. How that image matches up to reality will never be known. We also have an image of what it is to be a male. It's just an image, an idealization. What is a woman? What is it like to be a woman? We, none of us, Eileen included, will ever really know.

(Google "what is it like to be a bat.")

We know what it's like to be ourselves. Good. That's us. Now add in all the feelings and emotions that we feel when en femme . . . it's still just us, whatever that is.

Best thing we can do is to just accept it. That's us!

[April Rose]

Good point, Eileen. I really don't know absolutely what it's like to be a completely cisgendered person, male OR female, though, after a long life's experience, I've probably got a pretty good idea. At this point I have decided not to worry about it, and focus on enjoying my personal self expression, as much as is possible, without causing trouble for anyone else. That, and overcoming the guilt, and self doubt.

Of course, it occurs to me that if you never experience at least SOME self doubt, you are not really experiencing the fullness of your freedom of expression.