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A week ago last Wednesday I got a disturbing phone call. It was from the police in Colorado about something that happened the last time I was up there. I did an earlier post about my week of dressing during which time I had a lot of fun, but some things not so fun.

One of the things that happened was one evening while I was in a dress and my makeup done and everything I got a ping on my cell phone about a missed call. Since I don't have enough signal up on the mountain to return a call I was going to have to drive down a ways, never can tell how far, so I could get signal and return the call. It was the first time I had ever gone further than just out the door dressed. As it turned out by the time I got to where I had a signal the low fuel light came on in my truck so I waited until no one was at the pumps at the convenience store in town and went in to get some gas. I had no sooner started getting gas than these two drunk guys came in. Long story short some word were exchanged some things were thrown and I left in a hurry. I did turn around to go back after about five miles because I was really pissed and must confess a bit out of control. The cops were there and the guys in handcuffs so I didn't stop.

Well the police wanted to interview me about what had happened. There was video tape from the store and they had my name somehow so I didn't feel like I had a choice, and I couldn't deny it. I was really nervous about this, but I went to see them on Friday. To their credit the officer and the ADA were very pleasant during the whole time and never said or did anything to make me feel uneasy. The clerk at the store had called the police when the shouting started was why they happened to there. I was told after I left the clerk told the guys to behave and the got nasty with her too. They asked me a lot of questions about what had happened but not one thing about why I was wearing a dress. The ADA told me that I might have to come to testify in court in which case I could be asked about how I was dressed. He also told me he didn't think it would go to court which was a bit of relief but then the doubt and worry lingered.

I went back up to work on the cabin and I did get dressed, in fact I only changed to male clothes when I went to town for the interview. I stayed dressed all weekend. I did some pics of the mountains and things I could share if anyone is interested. I'm not comfortable showing my face dressed so can't really post pics of me dressed.

To my relief I got a call from the ADA on Tuesday (and yes I had to go down the mountain and return his call but I didn't go dressed) and he told me that the guys had done a plea bargain so that I wouldn't have to be in court. He also told me that they hadn't had to share my personal information with the guys attorney because they made their case on what the clerk had told them and the video tape which didn't show my face.

As this was such good news I decided to go on and do some shopping and treat myself to something nice. I went several places and didn't find anything I liked, then I found a dress that I fell in love with and got. At JC Penny I found some infinti scarves and for reason just had to have them and ended up buying three. Then alas as my luck goes I was carrying the scarves and had been looking at panties when, belive it or not, 200 miles from home I run into someone I know.

They guy says to me those won't fit you, I'm not sure what he thought was in my had but I said no they are not for me. We chatted a bit and I went on. Now I'm worried about what he will say to people at home because he is the type who would spread rumors.

So now I am back home but I haven't been out anywhere since I got home. Not sure if he is back or not and not sure if he would have said anything. If I am outed I'm going to have to move.

I've packed up all my "girl" things and stored them. I guess my dressing has finally created the problems for me I always knew it would.

Be brave, Sarah Beth. If the local outs you, he may be a dikk, and no one will believe him. Or maybe they just won't care. As far as the fools in Colorado, an older and wiser man than me once said, " Never argue with a fool, that just makes two fools." Therefore I don't engage in conversation/arguments/road rage if it can be avoided. Just get the hell away from him/them if you can. Glad you got to dress up for a while.

Sarah Beth wrote:A week ago last Wednesday I got a disturbing phone call. [ . . . ] Now I'm worried about what he will say to people at home because he is the type who would spread rumors. . . So now I am back home but I haven't been out anywhere since I got home. Not sure if he is back or not and not sure if he would have said anything. If I am outed I'm going to have to move. [!!!] I've packed up all my "girl" things and stored them. I guess my dressing has finally created the problems for me I always knew it would.

Sounds like a panic attack to me.

This is probably not your first panic attack, and notice that the earlier ones, as uncomfortable as they were, did not kill you.

Please take a few deep breaths and maybe have a shot or two of scotch. You're in your own home, you have established a reasonable understanding with the local police, and it's unlikely that the local bubbas are about to march up the road with torches and sharpened farm implements. So please cool out and don't do anything silly.

You are not in any danger and nobody is coming after you. Besides, you sound perfectly capable of defending yourself. So sit down, think about what's next. Chances are that nothing out of the ordinary is going on or going to be going on. So allow your life to go on as usual, and post here and get the support and advice you need. You have friends here.

Well, I hope this is nothing. But it might not be. To meet someone like that 200 miles away is a hell of a long shot, but they do happen. From my memory of it, you know your area pretty well - so I'm not inclined to dismiss your fears at all.

It does seem to be kind of fatalistic to say you always knew your CDing would bring you trouble. I think if there were one thing in your post that I thought was too much, that was it. It's just a thing you do, you did take (so far as I can judge) reasonable precautions and were plain unlucky. It's just too hard on yourself to think otherwise, no matter what the outcome.

Of course you know not to panic and don't need to be told otherwise. Him saying they'll never fit you could just be a joke.

Gash. If it isn't one thing it is another. But relax, your past the worse part. You had a much bigger risk of being outed had there been a trial; and that is behind you now. Whew.

As far as your chance meeting is concerned, probably not an issue. When someone returns home after being away for a while, what do they do? Bring home gifts.

That is what you were doing it your friends eyes. Shopping for gifts. Now if it is even brought up, well you were shopping in the lingerie section so the gifts were, a-hem, personal, or even kinky. At best there is some hee-hee red faced reaction on your part. That is it.

Besides what was your acquaintance from home doing in that part of the store anyway?????

Kelly.

I agree with Kelly.

Get out, don't hide, because if you do, people will wonder what happened to you and ask questions the next time they see you. Then you will be even more paranoid.

Be your normal self out of the house.

Well it probably is wise to be cautious and keep your eyes open, but I wouldn't worry too much about the local guy outing you. I'd guess that when he said "those won't fit you" he was just making some smart aleck comment that he thought would be funny. I doubt that he seriously thought they were for you, because then he would be wrong because presumably you bought the right size and they do fit you.
Anyway, he was probably there to buy panties for himself, why else was he shopping 200 miles from home??

I will also observe, as I've done before, that small towns in rural areas of the US are not as intolerant as they are reputed to be. So I doubt they will run you out of town on a rail. I'm not sure how willing you are to tell people who might try to make something of it that they can go fly a kite, but I've found that if you refuse to be embarrassed by it they will eventually shut up and go away. There will always be 1 or 2 that want to make a scene, but generally public opinion is against them and with you.

Ralitsa wrote:... small towns in rural areas of the US are not as intolerant as they are reputed to be.

I will agree with this statement. I have had no problems in small towns across the heart of this country. But I will say that I have two kids that live in the same small town that I do and I do not cd in this town so they would not have to deal with the comments. If it was just me and had no possible affect on my job i would be out in town more. But I am ok will being out and about in the area towns.

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I'm not saying every small town is full on intolerant people but I can tell you the ones in the area I live in are. I see it everyday and it's not just intolerance of glbtg community but in a lot of other ways as well. I have seen first hand what happens to people who are openly gay or different in some other way. It's very hard for me to live here and keep my mouth shut about some of the stuff that goes on, and I don't always keep my mouth shut. Believe me I wouldn't be living here if I didn't have elderlly parents to care fo.