This is something that I have thought about quite deeply . What is that essence that one possesses that upon first glance causes another to identify them as female. Is it facial shape, body shape, deportment, hair-style? I don't know, but if its in a bottle I want to drink it and drink deeply of it.
There is this part of me that wants it so badly in a way that even when I'm (cross-)dressed as a boy, I would get identified as a girl, yet not look like a fool. I have come darn close at times, especially with my latest hair style -- poker straight.
Depends on wether you wont to be seen like a woman or accepted as being one meaning Natal born ,
I send out many different message,s as to what i am though not so much now as before ,
I dont wont to read into this so i,ll take it as it is , for what it is by those who say what they do ,
I had a male last Saturday walk past me at our Waimate Strawberry Fare and say so any one around could hear , as he was looking at me your a gorgeous woman , and as he walked on an other 30 feet , i looked around me to see who he said it to , and ooops there was no one around me so i slowly turned to see who he was talking to and he was still looking at me.
i tryed to not make it that i looked at him.
Then again on one of our forums an other male said im a lovely woman . as i blushed yes i do because i dont ever expect men to even look at me in the way of i am a female who is a woman ..
Whats changed whats going on i never thought or would accept im a lovely looking female , im just not a lovely beautifull looking woman ....yet ....and really what the hell would men see in me any way . nothing i can see,
My smile my demeanor my attitude my personality and just who i am as a female , yes i,v grown into a woman and so have most of those i know all natal born and each of us in our own way,s , im not pretty far from it , and if there was a line up of women i would never ever be next to them no way , I would be so embarrased ,
I sure dont understand men and this really compounds my own thoughts on that i really have no idear .Ill tell you this rattles me if i was beautifull then thats another matter . i, just so not ...
Not sure if im much help other than say there are aspects about who i am and what i show as a person that maybe others see that .
okay my self, Body size and shape female , deportment and demeanor female .headwear done for a female weight well with in an avg fit on the go and nimble female .
Now facial features, im not commenting on that any more , others may see that totaly different from how i see my self .
so what makes who i am appealing or gorgeous , i dare not answer that .others can .
Noeleena:
We grow. Such is life. A lot of it has to do with what's on the inside, and from what I have read of your posts, you are quite beautiful, and feminine inside.
I am a vessel of the Goddess. Let me express my calling to a feminine life through nurturing love and relatedness.
So here's a bit of a thought. This past Tuesday was a spa day for me! Well, actually, spa 3 hours. For 3 hours I was pampered at Chatters (sorta like Ulta) and my hair is poker straight and very girly. In fact if you squinky up yours eyes just right -- even without makeup -- I just scream -- girly-licious!
Proof .. in line at the store -- 'Let the lady through sweetheart' (a mum to her little girl), and 'May I help you ma'am' (Getting a coffee at Tim Hortons).
I wasn't in a skirt, wasn't wearing makeup, and it just was that way. Now granted, I had just shaved no more than 30 minutes before, so my face was smooth, so that helped.
So, physical look at deportment do play into it.
What I love about this is the when it happens I am seen as the person I truly am. I am not seen as the not too terribly masculine person with a penis, but rather, I am seen just as me. (The assumption that something other is between my legs is an added bonus)
I harken back to an aunt of mine. She was a big strong woman. Big frame and big bones as it where. She had a ruddy complexion, and in her later years a wisp of hair above her lip. Yet this woman was a wife to her husband as well as a mother to 2 boys and 2 girls. No one every questioned her as being a woman.
There is so much in the mix -- and maybe its different for everyone. Maybe the lesson is to stop worrying and just be.
. What is that essence that one possesses that upon first glance causes another to identify them as female. Is it facial shape, body shape, deportment, hair-style? 
I don't know, but if its in a bottle I want to drink it and drink deeply of it. 
in a way that even when I'm (cross-)dressed as a boy, I would get identified as a girl, yet not look like a fool. I have come darn close at times, especially with my latest hair style -- poker straight.
