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Well first I would like to say, sorry for not being on here for such a long time. So lately I haven't felt like myself. Normally I like to dress up anytime I have a few minutes, but just doesn't seem like that for awhile now. Not sure why, because I love feeling girly, it makes me feel like ME if you understand that. I guess I would have to say I have been overwhelmed with the position I moved into at work about a year ago and my kids keep me soooo busy with sports and etc. Maybe I just need to take a vacation or something. Has anyone else had times like this before????

Understand totally. Been through it.

For some of us it seems our CD desires are on a wide swinging pendulum. Anyway, Valarie, if you look through the archives you'll occasionally see someone commenting on how they were dormant for a period of time. It seems that you and I are in the same ilk.

Kelly

It feels like maybe you've got a block.

If dressing up makes you feel like you're you and you're not doing it then, in a sense, you're kind of blocked from being you - definitely not good news.

The big thing that stops me getting dressed up is when I'm carrying too much pain. That somehow seems to trump the desire and makes the whole thing kind of useless.

I don't think you are alone Valarie... I know I'm constantly forced to prioritize family, work, etc. and it often takes away from girl time. I recommend a makeover... tiring different looks and outfits with the help of a professional makeup artist always helps pick me up when I'm down. Make sure to get plenty of pictures.

As some of the girls have eluded to, its an adaptation process.

We don't know much about you, like how long you have "had these feelings." or that you have or are just beginning to acknowledge these feelings or desires. What your relationship is to those around you, family, friends, those you work with, even what you do for a living. All these influence your repression, suppression, even acceptance of these (for some "needs") or desire to express your internal female.

I don't wish to confuse the issue but it is a complex issue for a lot of girls. Don't force it, take your time, try and understand what is driving this. It is not easy, but if you find yourself, find a balance in your life, I and a lot of the girls here will confirm, it is the best trip you can take. I would not trade mine for anything.

Ask questions, read the responses here on this forum, we are not all wrong, we are not all right, find what you are comfortable with feeling and doing and as we are fond of saying, "baby steps, honey, just baby steps!"

Virginia

Your reply is spot on Virginia. I too went through a similar period in my life and, yes, my young growing family put a big damper on Requal for a number of years. However, with the family now grown and doing their own thing and myself about to retire, Requal has become a frequent visitor in the home.

oh yes how well Carol Ann understands, I don't believe anyone could miss dressing as much as I do .

As you all know I am fighting bone cancer right now and the desire is always there but the pain is to great to even think about it.

But there is always hope and one day soon I will be stepping out again after I relearn all over how to get it on

If you are talking about not feeling it...feeling kind of ambiguous...or just running in guy mode with long periods of not dressing because you just haven't wanted to? Yeah I have been in a mode like that for a couple weeks...just guy guy but here I sit to day fully enfemm, been like this all day and am just enjoying being Anne
I would never go for SRS, perhaps have my ears pierced...but because of how I am...transvestite or transgender with the male and female gender going back and forth when one comes to prominence from time to time I know better. Sometimes I even feel I am normal just a normal man...but normal men do not have an entire female wardrobe down to jewelry and make up and lingerie, they do not slip in to a gown for sleep many nights... and normal men have not been dressing on and off their entire lives from an early age...You may not always feel it but you are transgender and always will be.

Carol Ann...Bone Cancer!? I am sorry...I hope you are able to beat it. I will hope for the best for you...Anne

Valerie... I go through this myself. I notice when I haven't dressed in a few days or a week. I become stressed, anxious and sometimes a little depressed. When my fem side doesn't get the time to live, I'm not myself. How much do I have to dress? I have no idea but I feel I don't spend enough time fem. We all get caught up in life and we simply need to make time for being ourselves.