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I thought im getting older, the kids have moved out and its our time now, why not!!! I started to brush around the subject of crossdressing and transgender for a few evenings while watching tv, there was a clip of eastenders with a bit on cross dressing and I bought tickets for a drag night at a local venue, all to set up for my big bomb shell, the drag night was a total flop, not what I was hoping for, she came away disappointed and we left early. then the part on eastenders I thought may open things up, we watched and talked, I said why not, you girls have all the frills and satin, us men need an escape from the harsh, drab clothing, why shouldn't we be able to dress as we want, yes I was up for it, any moment now, I will put in the bit, I DRESS UP LIKE THAT, I LOVE SATIN AND DRESSES, I CROSSDRESS.... but next thing she said was, I could not live with anybody who dressed in women's clothes, its not right, I married a man, I like a man to be a man, that was the end of my big reveal. as I get older im now feeling like what the hell. its my life and I only get one chance at it, so I will keep working at it, the next opportunity im gona have another go, perhaps I can arrange a fancy dress evening....

Man! I feel like a Woman.... well...sometimes. Yes it is unfortunate. Some...probably most all women are very selfish and will never allow their man to be anything more than a monolith. But we tire of being monochromatic especially if nearly half of our gender is feminine. Hold that in and you are going to explode, it's not fair.

The traditional woman, especially those who hold traditional beliefs or faith will never recognize nearly half of who you are. Your option is to do it when she is not around...dodging and ducking and hiding it in the closet for the rest of your life or you need to decide if being on your own so you can be who your are would be much more comfortable for you as you look for a more open and supportive partner.

I do not want tolerence or rules so I will find a woman who is absolutely supportive and understanding, enthusiastic and who does not care in the least but loves ME for who I am, all of who I am.

Rejection of half of who you are really amounts to rejection of all of who you are in the end so best to move on.

Now if you love your wife, and are willing to settle for rules which state what you may do and when as she tolerates but dislikes the whole time half of who you are that's a decision you will have to make.

Not sure if there are many that participate in fancy dress nowadays, or vicars and tarts. Still no guarantee your wife would let you dress for the party anyway.

As Anne says, you may just have to continue as you have been, given your wife's reaction; or stand up for yourself to be yourself. Tell her she has already lived with a man for xx years who loves to wear women's clothes.

In the end, if she gives in, you may just end up dressing as you do now, out of site of your wife.

Or without a wife.