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I am just throwing this out there to share! This is simply how I feel. With all the heavy conversations lately which is ok, but I just want to share how I feel. Am I a cder, transgender, or whatever, I kind of just quit trying to figure it out! Or I guess I might have just quit caring what others think or about labels. As the old song goes, "I enjoy being a girl." And because of that and my feelings toward women (my wife), I guess that makes me a lesbian!

I love the clothes! I love the total feminine package. I love being the "weaker sex, " and "the damsel in distress." I love having people help me, or hold the door open for me. I love not having to make all the decisions, and I love it when my wife drives and I do not have to. I love it when my wife cuts the grass, and I bring her a cold drink. I love to do the household chores. I love having a mani/pedi (you have not lived until you have had one!) So yes I love the clothes, but for me it is so much more! Way much more! It is the way I feel no matter what I have on!

And I am not in anyway attracted to men! In fact, men's bodies are repulsive to me. So I am a lesbian! Here is the funny part, I love strong, dominate, and women who are in charge or take charge women. Aggressive, assertive women who can lead - leaders. I love it when my wife is in charge, and I just follow her. I really love the "soft butch" women, so I can be the "lipstick lesbian." I really love it when my wife is in charge in all situations, especially in the bedroom. Back to the clothes, I love it when my wife wears "manly" clothes. That is just funny (you gotta laugh), I do not like men, but women acting like men, wearing men's clothes. Funny how things go back to the clothes!

I guess what I am trying to say is that in the last year I have come to terms with who I am (not sure of exact label), and I am trying to embrace it, accept it, or at least have fun with it!

It works for the two of you. No further explanation needed, in my book. I'm happy for you both.

Labels can get in the way. Or just use the labels the way you want to. The important part is it works for you and your wife. ENJOY!!

kimberlys

Enjoy who you are LeeAnne as life is too short to worry about it.

Dear LeeAnne,

Dressed not as a woman, you still have the male equipment. I'd say that you are a submissive male who is lucky enough to find a wife that enjoys being dominant. Just as she fulfills your fantasies of pleasure, you do the same for her. Such a good couple!

Eileen

Rather than try to overthink all of this LeeAnne and look for labels why not just enjoy the obviously close relationship you and your wife have?

I enjoy the feel and look of being a woman. My wife is okay with me and I love it when she tells me how good I look. I came out to my wife's girlfriend a couple days ago after my wife's urging. She is great with my CDing and I want her to see me dressed. She and I discussed my CDing for a couple hours. It feels so good to know I can be comfortable with her and my wife. Hopefully, someday others. So far I only dress at home not being passable yet. Someday I want to be able to go public.

Labels is what has confused me for many years. I still don't really know what label fits me. Actually labels are a pain in the butt.

When I was AMAB (assigned male at birth) I was considered straight, being married to my wife. I am still married to my wife but since I am now female, does that legally, makes me a lesbian?
I still feel the same way, sexually and romantically attractive speaking. I never did like having to perform in the "expected male sexual performance", but in order to get from A to Z...

Now during times in the past of looking for my identity (I have been confused and know I didn't fit in) I thought of myself as being gay. Realizing later in life I was attracted to males in a feminine way. So would that make me Bi-sexual?

Nope I don't think so myself. I still really haven't find the label, which I am no longer trying to find.

My therapist tells me: I am sexually attractive to males and romantically attractive to females. I like that thought. (thoughts, not actions)

I also have to admit that my wife and I had our difficulties, but we are now the best friends, and both of us not interested in sexual activity with either us or others. (we where almost divorced some years ago)

So guess what, perhaps I am a-sexual?

The initial post is nearly a year old! Is Lee Anne out there? I remember an old documentary..."All dressed up with no place to Go" One of the subjects stated "I am a DRAG King! he also stated "I am a male lesbian." Those statements have stayed with me over the years, I believe the dated documentary was made somewhere back in the 1990's. You can still find it on youtube...everything is on youtube!

Same here I am solidly heterosexual...but I believe at times...I also desire a dominate woman. NOT a dominatrix!!! No way but a firm laid back and loving woman who is also confident and strong and loving and who would have no problem turning the tables on me when I am in my fem.... I still remember my first time when the woman with the beautiful mane of a lioness.. well took the top position and... I have never forgotten... I found out I prefer a woman who can be strong and commanding in a soft and loving way and who is not afraid to take charge and lead.

Why would I not want this I am feminine in good measure inside at times. My wife loved to drive. And she also was not afraid to arrange things....

It does not mean I am a wuss or a limp noodle of submissiveness but I see it as part of a truly equal relationship with a woman who can be a husband at times. I can say because I am genderfluid when I am in my masculine...I am as strong and manly as any other male, no problem leading or taking charge or standing up and doing battle if needed as a leader and protector or representative of our family. I am a man after all and if you come to our home it is obvious that a man does live here.... I do believe I make a very good husband, probably better than most men really because of who I am.

I do believe I make a very good husband probably better than most men really because of who I am.

Anne, when you are back on the market, I think that you will find a good many women who are interested in you, once they know your story. Your kind of loyalty, competence and character will be very attractive to seasoned women with experience and common sense, even if you wear a dress.

The main thing is; hang in there. We are all rooting for you. There is no one who deserves love, friendship and good times more than you do.

Wonderfully put, April and I would like to echo this sentiment.

Yea!!! Well Lee Anne's thread. Yeah It is perfectly alright to support our woman, and many of us do happen to be heterosexual.

Yeah... things can happen as I have seen those who transition and who's hormone cocktail overtime shifts their desires and feelings and they find their eyes wandering to places they had never thought that they would.

All I know is I want my beautiful lioness with her beautiful mane of hair hovering over me as she looks into my eyes. I guess I have always been this way...do not see that ever changing.

i most definitely am the same way, i have absolutely no interest in men at all, hoping to one day meet the woman that can accept and support my desire to be renee occasionally,