Hi all, My daughter (Marie) has left my house after seeing that I post on this forum, she is 13. She called her half sister and left about 20 mins ago. She said she didn't like the inappropriate site I was looking at and that i shouldn't be looking at such things.
Her sister told her that if anything went wrong she should call her, because Marie's mom and her husband went to Denver. I did not handle this well, it was a surprisse to me that she saw what was on the computer. And a surprise that she was told "if anything went wrong".
These last few month's have beem a strain on our relationship , like there has been a wall between us I cannot penetrate. I haven't felt this much pain since my Mom died. Part of my exwife's agreement was there was to be no crossdressing when Marie is here. So this is going to be the beginning of losing her to my ex wife's husband, I am not doing very well with this thought. My family back in Minnesota is not going to be very sympathetic towards me. Crossdressing is not something they understand up north. I really don't know what to do or who to trun to , so here i am , i don't like posting such neagtive happenings. How can i turn this around? ......... hoping and praying for my daughter,......kristen
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Kristen,
If you lose your daughter over this it will undoubtedly probably be the hardest thing you will have to deal with. Believe me I know been there and lost. She was the last thing I had to let go of.
There is not much one can do to be of help in situations like this. The last thing you need is advice right now. you need to deal with your pain, and that is something one needs to do by ones self.
Please do not be afraid to talk about it here as that will help some what. We need to be listeners for you now.
If you lose your daughter over this it will undoubtedly probably be the hardest thing you will have to deal with. Believe me I know been there and lost. She was the last thing I had to let go of.
There is not much one can do to be of help in situations like this. The last thing you need is advice right now. you need to deal with your pain, and that is something one needs to do by ones self.
Please do not be afraid to talk about it here as that will help some what. We need to be listeners for you now.
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Hi Kristen
So sorry to hear of this development
Too bad your daughter has been "brain_damaged" by some "pin_heads" ...
While I'll probably get banished from the Kingdom for this ... here goes ...
Proverbs 3:5,6
No matter what anyone else tells you , *My God Loves Tgirls* and He's BIG enough for me to share with you
Good Luck
Love / Marda
So sorry to hear of this development
Too bad your daughter has been "brain_damaged" by some "pin_heads" ...
While I'll probably get banished from the Kingdom for this ... here goes ...
Proverbs 3:5,6
No matter what anyone else tells you , *My God Loves Tgirls* and He's BIG enough for me to share with you
Good Luck
Love / Marda
~ Some drink at the fountain of knowledge - Others just gargle ~
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Darlene , Sorry to hear that you lost, how old is she? Thanks for your kindness.
Marda, Thanks for the proverbs, makes me feel a lot better knowing you girls care .........kristen
Marda, Thanks for the proverbs, makes me feel a lot better knowing you girls care .........kristen
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kristen: I do not know what to say but my biggest fear is losing my daughter which is 20. My daughter and I are very close to being the same in nature but I do not know and not brave enough to tell her. My wife and son found out the same day and that went ok. As I live in two states and am only in the house with them for a long weekend every six weeks.
I will be thinking of you and hoping for the best. Gee.
I will be thinking of you and hoping for the best. Gee.
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Hi Kristen--
That's a lot to unravel, if it means that you're suddenly outed to your family by this. It's hard enough that your daughter has such an initial reaction to it. I don't see that you were wrong, however--you weren't crossdressing. What you do on your own computer is your business.
So you do keep your agreement to your ex-wife.
The daughter has her own opinions, and I'm sorry they're so extreme right now. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
That's a lot to unravel, if it means that you're suddenly outed to your family by this. It's hard enough that your daughter has such an initial reaction to it. I don't see that you were wrong, however--you weren't crossdressing. What you do on your own computer is your business.
So you do keep your agreement to your ex-wife.
The daughter has her own opinions, and I'm sorry they're so extreme right now. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
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Darlene , I take it that you have not seen her, the pain must be unbearable. I am sorry to bring up such pain for you. I will pray for your daughter's return to you.
Gelinda, that has been also my biggest fear, she had known about the crossdressing for seven years but has't had any direct contact with it until today. I think she must of thought that it was a gone thing. I just got off the phone with her mom and we both came to the same conclusion that she may have been trying to find a way to go home early( to see her friends) . Andthis may have been part of the trauma she was expressing. I don't think it is as bad as i intially thought. I think I might still be seeing her but not overnight. That's okay i can see the pain in her eyes when I pick her up and the joy when I drop her off. Thanks for all your support, we are in the same boat, somewhat. ............Kristen
Gelinda, that has been also my biggest fear, she had known about the crossdressing for seven years but has't had any direct contact with it until today. I think she must of thought that it was a gone thing. I just got off the phone with her mom and we both came to the same conclusion that she may have been trying to find a way to go home early( to see her friends) . Andthis may have been part of the trauma she was expressing. I don't think it is as bad as i intially thought. I think I might still be seeing her but not overnight. That's okay i can see the pain in her eyes when I pick her up and the joy when I drop her off. Thanks for all your support, we are in the same boat, somewhat. ............Kristen
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kristen: Glad it is not as bad as you thought. That was the way it was when my wife and son found out. There has not been much said shince then for me. I am thinking it is ok as long it is here in KY and not in TX but I do not know for sure. Doing the time thing myself. Glad for you thou. Gee.
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OMG!!!...that is just terrible news but never feel afraid to post such things here. I kinda thought that was part of the idea for this site. Knowing nothing about your situation, I suspect that she will come around because if nothing else, she will have questions for you. I know things seem terrible now, but hold on and I know that things will get better. You have a bond with her that will stick.
I think Darlene said it best when she said you need to heal rather than listen to advice. But, YOU HAVE honoured your agreement with your ex-wife and have nothing to feel guilty about. Do not let her press that button. I lost my little one over this also and I am most angry that I allowed myself to lose her to my guilt. If I have learned anything about CDing, it is that the internal fear of it is worse than anything else.
Girl, hold your chin up high, take a deep breath and have faith that this is a solveable problem. They always are. And remember that we are all here for you!!
Chantelle
I think Darlene said it best when she said you need to heal rather than listen to advice. But, YOU HAVE honoured your agreement with your ex-wife and have nothing to feel guilty about. Do not let her press that button. I lost my little one over this also and I am most angry that I allowed myself to lose her to my guilt. If I have learned anything about CDing, it is that the internal fear of it is worse than anything else.
Girl, hold your chin up high, take a deep breath and have faith that this is a solveable problem. They always are. And remember that we are all here for you!!
Chantelle
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Darlene,Marda Gelinda, Anita, and Chantelle, I can't tell you girls how much these notes to me have lifted my spirits, made my realize how much I depend on you girls on a day to day basis. I can't thank you girls enough for the support and love I have felt just on tonite's happenings. I am feeling very confident that this will be for the best. I could have never been so calm, if it weren't for this site. I really felt I have real friends I can talk to about all of this . I thank you all from the bottom of my heart!!!!!!!! I love you all .........kristen
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Kristen,
I have been healed on more than one occasion, and there is no pain any more when I review the old pictures. My Daughter did get in contact with me the day she became legal age. And we got together for a while, but we were strangers, and I was not ready for that. It was like a fifty year old man attempting to have a relationship with an 18 year old strange girl. There was nothing there even what we did have had been destroyed.
How do you do that? I could not find the answers, and still can't. So I don't see much of her any more. And I have accepted that.
I am richer for it I have friends in places that I would never had been able to dream of before. I have a family here (in this forum) that is able to care for others at a depth that you can not find in most families.
Now having said that I feel I need to be very clear here, about one thing, I have openly let it be known that I am a Christian, and I do not apologize for that. I have not pushed that here and do not intend to do that. I only state this because I have said what I want to say on this topic, and do not aspire to get into a position where I will have to answer further questions, that would require me to give you answers that could be taken as though I was pushing my beliefs.
I have been healed on more than one occasion, and there is no pain any more when I review the old pictures. My Daughter did get in contact with me the day she became legal age. And we got together for a while, but we were strangers, and I was not ready for that. It was like a fifty year old man attempting to have a relationship with an 18 year old strange girl. There was nothing there even what we did have had been destroyed.
How do you do that? I could not find the answers, and still can't. So I don't see much of her any more. And I have accepted that.
I am richer for it I have friends in places that I would never had been able to dream of before. I have a family here (in this forum) that is able to care for others at a depth that you can not find in most families.
Now having said that I feel I need to be very clear here, about one thing, I have openly let it be known that I am a Christian, and I do not apologize for that. I have not pushed that here and do not intend to do that. I only state this because I have said what I want to say on this topic, and do not aspire to get into a position where I will have to answer further questions, that would require me to give you answers that could be taken as though I was pushing my beliefs.
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Hi Kristen,
I really hope that things sort themselves out ok for both you and your daughter. There isn't much I can add apart from agree with the above and say you will be in my thoughts.
My daughter is coming up 20, and the last few years since the divorce have been a bit rocky, she doesn't know about my cding yet.
The love between a dad and his daughter is usually pretty strong and I hope in the end that it will shine through.
Darlene
I know that saying I am sorry to hear about the relationship with your daughter won't really help. You have had to survive through a big loss and had to deal with a lot of pain.
I am sure you know, but just know that she is out there somewhere hopefully leading a good life and being happy
Sometimes words seem inadequate, I will send you both my love and best wishes
Rebecca xxx
I really hope that things sort themselves out ok for both you and your daughter. There isn't much I can add apart from agree with the above and say you will be in my thoughts.
My daughter is coming up 20, and the last few years since the divorce have been a bit rocky, she doesn't know about my cding yet.
The love between a dad and his daughter is usually pretty strong and I hope in the end that it will shine through.
Darlene
I know that saying I am sorry to hear about the relationship with your daughter won't really help. You have had to survive through a big loss and had to deal with a lot of pain.
I am sure you know, but just know that she is out there somewhere hopefully leading a good life and being happy
Sometimes words seem inadequate, I will send you both my love and best wishes
Rebecca xxx
Be good, Be safe, Be happy.