The daughter that your parents never met

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 4:45 am

Does anyone here look at photos of themselves and feel guilty that they are keeping it from their parents ?

I know it sounds crazy but it sometimes feels like I,m keeping their unknown daughter from them.

Or have I totally lost the plot

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Ginny · Post by **Ginny** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 8:57 am

Merinda Widget wrote:Does anyone here look at photos of themselves and feel guilty that they are keeping it from their parents ?

I know it sounds crazy but it sometimes feels like I,m keeping their unknown daughter from them.

Or have I totally lost the plot

IGNORANCE IS BLISS.

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 10:09 am

I told my mom but she doesnt want to discus it its not something you talk about she said so that was the end of it
And i dont feel like visiting her again soon
If she cannot accept her own son like i am then thats their problem now

Mellissa

Calina_Leigh · Post by **Calina_Leigh** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 10:37 am

I guess I am fortunate in that my wife outed me to my family, in that I never had to go through revealing other self. I have talked with my mother about this (I do not talk to my father and my dad(step father) has passed on). I don't balme my grandmother but she appears to have been a big influence on me becoming this way. My mother explained to me that she may not have known that it was "wrong" to dress me in dresses and pantyhose. I guess most of my family is pretty screwed up but hey that is what makes life intresting. Oh also, my mom has seen the same pics that I have linked here in previous posts and she said she wanted my red skirt(can can dress)

Dixie Darling · Post by **Dixie Darling** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 11:16 am

Telling your parents about your femme side is going to depend greatly on how you think they might receive the news. If it's something that you believe they could "handle" and be supportive with, telling them might be a good idea for YOUR peace of mind as well as getting it out in the open for them.

On the other hand, if it's going to be stressful for them, I think it's best to just leave things the way they are.

Just my opinion.

Dixie http://www.geocities.com/senorita_cd

Jessie · Post by **Jessie** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 11:33 am

I have told my mom but I do not think she has seen me (except when I was little) dressed. When I was little my mom had a barranoa gown that I loved wearing and one time I wore it and my mom took a picture of me. I do not know where it is now but my mom is a lot more opened mined than I beleive my father would be.

Jessie

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 3:32 pm

Thanks for your interesting replies,

When I lived at home with my parents my Cding was hidden with the exception of walking around openly in a pair of bright pink lycra tights , purple leotard and long pullover windcheater.

The reaction I got from my parents was that there was something mentally wrong with me , but at no time did I fully become a women in front of them.

I sometimes get this crazy feeling that I'm depriving them of something , but I know that they would not take to it very well .

Best to leave well enough alone I think.

Calina ,
your grandma dressed you as a girl when you were young , interesting , I have heard of this sort of thing happening.
In yourself do you believe that this has influenced your interest in girls cloths?

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 4:24 pm

Unfortunately, my parents already know about Lorna. They found out in a VERY unorthodox way...

(I'd rather not rehash the details out in the open again, but feel free to PM me if you don't know the story.)

Calina - that's so cool about your grandmother! When I was about 5 or 6, my grandmother did the same to a degree. There were those nights that my sisters and I stayed over her house and I wanted to wear one of her nightgowns - and she let me!!

Then there was the other time she gave me a pair of red tights to wear under my clothes on a real cold day.

Calina_Leigh · Post by **Calina_Leigh** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 4:52 pm

Merinda Widget wrote: Calina ,
your grandma dressed you as a girl when you were young , interesting , I have heard of this sort of thing happening.
In yourself do you believe that this has influenced your interest in girls cloths?

It is really hard to say. I am a believer in that there is a genetic predisposition to certian types of behavior(this would include the hormone wash theory of crossdressing that occurs during development in the womb for this topic). I believe that nurture can either reinforce or supress these behaviors. I think that by my grandmother dressing me up in girl clothes, it reinforced the behavior.

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 6:33 pm

Merinda,

Being estranged from my mother for the last 11 or so years, and most of my adult life, you would think I would not really care. However, ironically the last time I saw my mother, at a family wedding, she said "I don't think you could look any more like your dad". However, recent pictures of me, as seen here tell a different story. I can't beleive how much I look like her.

I think in some way she might find this pleasing. I was the "baby" of the family for 8 years, and was treated special by her during that time. So, yes I guess in a way I may be the girl she never had, or at least never knew about. I mean, she has 4 daughters, and 4 sons. Oh Well!!

Love always,
Elizabeth

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 7:10 pm

I have no know living relatives, but as you know I changed my name to honor my mother (Virginia) and my grandmother (Irene). I think that they would like their "daughter/granddaughter."
Love,
Virginia

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Mon Sep 27, 2004 10:38 pm

Virginia wrote:I have no know living relatives, but as you know I changed my name to honor my mother (Virginia) and my grandmother (Irene). I think that they would like their "daughter/granddaughter."
Love,
Virginia

That was a great idea, hon! And a very beautiful gesture for your mother & grandmother.

You have just inspired me to take my grandmother's first name (Fleurencine) as Lorna's middle name.

SophieLawson · Post by **SophieLawson** » Tue Sep 28, 2004 4:18 am

My Mum's cool with it, but I do feel sorry that my Dad doesn't know and I think maybe he will never know. But I guess some people are better not knowing certain things

Sophie xx

Laura Ashcroft · Post by **Laura Ashcroft** » Tue Sep 28, 2004 4:18 am

I have posted here before that my mom knew about my CD'ing. When I got divorced, I had to live with my parents for 2 months. I knew I could not keep it in that long, and there was a chance I could get walked in on. My soul had been shredded by rejection too, and I was looking for acceptance and support, so I told both my parents that I still dressed. My dad apparently never knew (kudos to my mom for keeping my secret). They are very loving accepting people. I know they don't like it but they still love me. Last week, I broke the news to my bro-in-law. He was over and I was having a hard night due to the breakup I just went through, and again, looking for acceptance, told him. I tell far too many people. When people know, it is ammo for them when they get pissed. I don't think I will be telling anyone else. It is my private thing, and I need to keep it that way.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Tue Sep 28, 2004 7:24 am

Laura, honey you need to begin to study the next phase of Laura Ashcroft, That of the emotional/mental development - it is up to you however if you wish to take the next step. There are stages in the evolution that extend beyond the actual act of dressing. The development and understadning and usage of the female personna is just as exciting as the physical appearance aspect. You need to begin to note how you react to people, listening more intently, reaching out to gentle touch someone's hand or arm, tht slight smile at watching children play, being less aggressive when you drive. Just little things that begin to emerge if you let them. I will also promote a webstie."Jung' Anima Theory and how it Relates to Crossdressing." If you have not read it you may want to see what it might mean to you.
Love,
Virginia
http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepage ... /anima.htm

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