I told my SO about my crossdressing
Posted: Thu Dec 25, 2003 9:13 pm
Today I told my GF about my crossdressing. We have been together for about a month, and I knew there was something special between us. As we have grown closer, I knew I had to tell her.
I had been planning this for several days. I got some advice from other CD websites (see my post under the Poll: When should you tell . . . thread), and wrote out what I was going to say in my own words. I practiced it all week until I had the gist of it.
She came over to my apartment this afternoon. We chatted for a bit and even joked around which helped to calm my nerves somewhat. But I knew I had to get it off my chest.
So, I asked her if she noticed my lack of body hair (she has seen me without my shirt on). She said she had noticed. I asked what she thought of it. She said it was ok. She assumed it was because of my running that I shave. I said that is part of it. But I told her I needed to be honest with her in our relationship, that I cared for her and didn't want to keep the truth from her.
I told her I was a crossdresser, but I'm not gay, and I'm not transexual (not that there's anything wrong with either of those lifestyles, but its not who I am). I told her that I've only recently come to terms with this part of my life after crossdressing for many years.
She WAS a bit surprised. I let it sink in, and asked her how she felt. She said she was willing to see how things go, she didn't run out the door or start screaming or get upset or anything like that.
She asked me a few questions about my dressing. I told her my femme name, that I belong to a support group, and go out dressed for shopping and occasionally for dinner. I told her I have pictures which I can show her when she is ready. I also said I didn't want to overwhelm her so I didn't say any more except to answer her questions. She joked a bit and said something like "I bet you have some outfits that are even nicer than mine." She also told me she had a close friend who was gay and who died of AIDS several years ago.
I was so relieved, a great weight had been lifted off me. After that we held each other for a long time, and kissed each other. I made us some lunch. Then we went for a nice walk, and to see the movie "Elf", which was kind of appropriate since its a Christmas movie, and about someone who is a human who thinks he's an Elf. After that I took her to a nice dinner. Luckily there was a Thai restaurant open in my neigborhood.
I feel so lucky to have someone who is willing to give me a chance. There are some special people out there, if you look hard enough you will find them.
I had been planning this for several days. I got some advice from other CD websites (see my post under the Poll: When should you tell . . . thread), and wrote out what I was going to say in my own words. I practiced it all week until I had the gist of it.
She came over to my apartment this afternoon. We chatted for a bit and even joked around which helped to calm my nerves somewhat. But I knew I had to get it off my chest.
So, I asked her if she noticed my lack of body hair (she has seen me without my shirt on). She said she had noticed. I asked what she thought of it. She said it was ok. She assumed it was because of my running that I shave. I said that is part of it. But I told her I needed to be honest with her in our relationship, that I cared for her and didn't want to keep the truth from her.
I told her I was a crossdresser, but I'm not gay, and I'm not transexual (not that there's anything wrong with either of those lifestyles, but its not who I am). I told her that I've only recently come to terms with this part of my life after crossdressing for many years.
She WAS a bit surprised. I let it sink in, and asked her how she felt. She said she was willing to see how things go, she didn't run out the door or start screaming or get upset or anything like that.
She asked me a few questions about my dressing. I told her my femme name, that I belong to a support group, and go out dressed for shopping and occasionally for dinner. I told her I have pictures which I can show her when she is ready. I also said I didn't want to overwhelm her so I didn't say any more except to answer her questions. She joked a bit and said something like "I bet you have some outfits that are even nicer than mine." She also told me she had a close friend who was gay and who died of AIDS several years ago.
I was so relieved, a great weight had been lifted off me. After that we held each other for a long time, and kissed each other. I made us some lunch. Then we went for a nice walk, and to see the movie "Elf", which was kind of appropriate since its a Christmas movie, and about someone who is a human who thinks he's an Elf. After that I took her to a nice dinner. Luckily there was a Thai restaurant open in my neigborhood.
I feel so lucky to have someone who is willing to give me a chance. There are some special people out there, if you look hard enough you will find them.
