How do I find love? Revisited

[Elizabeth]

Hi girls,

As many of you recall back in September of 2004 I wrote a thread titled "How do I find love?" In that post I talked about how discouraged I was about not having a love interest in my life, and wondered how I would ever find a girl to love me. One who could accept me just as I am.

And I had lots of great responses, but no one really told me how to make it happen. But many of you said that love would find me. And everyone said that I had all these wonderful qualities that certainly someone would want me. But I was very pessimistic. I wondered if I would ever find a girl who would love me. Who could accept that I was not just a crossdresser, but that I was feminine. A girl who could look past the makeup and clothes and see a human being who desperately wanted not just to be loved, but also wanted to love someone. And wanted just unconditional love.

And, everyone was right. A chance meeting in a IRC chat channel led me to this girl who could be all of those things. A girl who would defend my transgenderedness even though I had never met her. So I privately messgaed her, we started talking and I could not believe what I was hearing.

It was the girl I always dreamed of', telling me how people should not be judged by what they wear. That just because i wore a dress did not mean I was gay. We talked for hours. Then I did something I have never done before. I asked a girl on the internet for her email address.

I have to admit I was completely enamored with her. Her defending me, and we seemed to really connect when we chatted. I just could not get her off my mind. We had so much in common, and seen things so much alike. It was clrear we were attracted to each other. At least I was attracted to her, in a big way. I was never one to really beleive in "love at first site", but there was no denying my feelings about her.

I contacted her by email, then by MSN, then by phone. I told her how I was feeling about her. And I was persistant. And the rest is history. Now we are a "couple" so to speak. She will be coming to live with me here in Lancaster in a couple of weeks. And I am sure most of you seen her join up here, so she can share this part of my life with me also.

The person I am talking about is Raven(SO) I love her very much, and she says she loves me. I know that she makes me feel loved. And she totally accepts who I am. So for all of you who are asking "How do I find love?" I will just say, you don't. It finds you. Thanks for finding me Raven, you changed my life and I love you very much.

Love always,
Elizabeth

[Beauty]

Awwwwwww





Congratulations to you both!

Beauty

[DonnaT]

[Raven(SO)]

hey Elizabeth,
im sure there was angels lurking the night we met, cause i wasent even suppose to be on Irc, and u usually never were..... but i am glad we did meat, i usually never cry, i like to be the brave lil soilder, but that post almost got me..... u better be good luv...

Raven

[Sandi]

may the angels watch over you both

[Loretta Ann]

..... u better be good luv...

Nah Raven you like her better when she is bad.

Seriously though, Although the two of you appear to have so much in common, which is very good. Keep in mind that we all have our warts. And one persons faults can be another persons treasure. I sincerely hope you both find that to be a strong bond in your relationship.

Indeed I am hoping the very best life has to offer both of you. And know that you have an extended family here, that loves and cares for both of you and that we are here for you in what ever way we can be. And that means nether of you need to be perfect.

I think it is safe to say that most of this family has something to offer you that most others don't. And I for one want to do what ever I can to make you feel accepted here. Liz already knows she is accepted, and can tell you about some of the love and support that she has received here that she could not find else where. And I just want you to know that it is available to you also.

May the angles that were involved with you before, continue to watch over you both as you take this next step?

Love Darlene.

[Elizabeth]

Hi girls,

Thanks for all the warm responses so far. It does feel good to be accepted by my family here. And me and Raven have no illusions that the world is not a perfect place and that our acceptance of each other is acceptance that we are not perfect, but it's ok.

Even imperfect people need to love and be loved. It's not that we have no warts, it's that there is no need to focus on them, since we all have them, no matter how well we hide them. It is our intention to focus on who we really are on the inside, not how we appear on the outside. And having an open candor so we can confront differnces of opinion that could affect our relationship. In that way we hope our love will always be growing.

Love Always
Elizabeth

[Anita]

I like references to angels, even though they haven't consciously been part of my life so far. But that doesn't mean that others don't have them!

I'm happy for the two of you. Give each other plenty of room when you need it; people over, oh, 35, are used to things being a certain way, and it's sometimes hard to change old habits. I guess I'm just saying: don't force togetherness. It can be easy to do, esp. in the beginning. Have fun!

[Alexandra]

Good luck girls!

[Raven(SO)]

hi girls ,
Thanks
Raven

[Jassmine(SO)]

Howdy Elizabeth and Raven

May your love for each other grow stronger everyday

*Hugs & Love*

[Mrs. Missy(SO)]

Hi Elizabeth and Raven,

It's so wonderful that you both found each other! Love is grand! Enjoy it!

Hugs to both of you,

Mrs. Missy(SO)

[Violet]

I'm always so happy to hear that friends have been able to find a small piece of redemption in this fallen world. It really brightens my day.

I'm envious of you.