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Hi everyone,

Jamie Ann quoted a post on the "other" forum, from the thread about How GG's feel.

“You really should try getting next to one and see for yourself how she feels!”

which appeared anonymously.

I'm not going to admit it over there, but I'll whisper it over here--I wrote that. I do a lot of humorous posts over there, most of them are anonymously. I admit it's fun being "under cover."

In case you're wondering about the recent troll over there, I certainly DID NOT create him! But when he seemed to have it in for me personally , well I did have a few well-placed posts that had his li'l head spinning. I did that in desperation, to try to save some sanity when their moderator took over a week to be roused from his deep sleep. Don't know if it was effective, though.

Wide-awake moderators are WONDERFUL! Thank you, girls!

I was taught by my (late) parents to "never do or say anything in public you would not want your name attached to". Good advice.

That "other" forum used to be a nice place, with a lot of good people. It has certainly changed, and that diminishes us all. Use a little restraint and make the world a better place.

susann

Well, it's still OK. One just has to choose whether or not a post is worth reading and/or replying to.

Rikki,
You done good! One of our sisters here who will go nameless, enjoys going "troll hunting" at the other site. I have seen her club a couple of them so hard I think there keyboards melted to their fingers. Troll hunting is fun and I just hope that we do not have to begin buying licenses or even have PETA get after us for abusing trolls!
LOve,
Virginia

Hey Rikki,

Good Stuff Girl, Trolls are very insecure folks and have a need to control others in order to avoid dealing with their insecurity. And in my opinion the Internet is a place where many of them can hide behind a keyboard and feel good about themselves. While stomping on those who are able to contribute positively to the enrichment of others.

I applaud any effort such as yours that will serve to make them feel uncomfortable, because IMO to do otherwise is assuming the role of an enabler.

That "other" forum used to be a nice place, with a lot of good people. It has certainly changed,

The other forum has not changed at all in the three years that I have been reading it. It has always been like this....enjoying times of summer and then changing to other less palatable seasons. Back and forth it goes, that is it's life.

Use a little restraint and make the world a better place.

I have found that using restraint with people like that only places one in the position of a floor mat that says welcome.

Love Darlene.

Hi Rikki,

I thought you handled the whole thing really well on the other forum.

I also posted anonymously once to get at a troll who was annoying everyone on the fourm and I didn't do anything to provoke him. It was a guilty pleasure.

Thank you for the kind comments about our work on the forum and for inspiring the new area.

Beauty

Overall I have seen very few problems on any CD related forum, You are free to express your feelings and thoughts and recieve support or advice in return.

I can compare this to my railway forums , you can be blasted off your keyboard for having done nothing more than asking a question that has been covered before , rather than send a link to the topic its easier to send a rude reply.
In a reply to one of my posts I was told I am an idiot because of my choice of talk-back radio station after posting a rail related issue that had been discussed on the station the day before , I then told the forum to grow-up and stay on topic .
I was booted off the forum.

So all in all I can say that this and other CD forums are really great , this one is the best

Though I try not to get entangled with the trolls at CDDF, sometimes it's just irresistable. The passive moderation there makes complaints an exercise in deferred gratification, and sometimes it's a lot more gratifying to just slug the creep in front of you. My most recent transgression is a bit of ASCII "art" I posted in response to what could literally be called a period piece. Still there, last I checked.

-Celia

Merinda sighs...

I can compare this to my railway forums , you can be blasted off your keyboard for having done nothing more than asking a question that has been covered before

You have my knowing commiseration there, sis. In the USA, railfans and modelers that I have known, tend to be a crowd-mentality bunch. What I mean is that if your opinions aren't predictably in agreement with the standard opinion (about everythnig) you aren't welcome to speak or even be in the same company. Some of the standard opinions...

1. Women don't have a serious thought in their heads.
2. Railroad hobbies are a good place not to take women seriously.
3. Crossdressers are moral garbage.
4. Nothing the government does is any good.
5. The world is going to ruin (very quickly!)
6. Things can only get worse.

A couple of times at the model railroad club, I came home and changed into something femme in order to recover from my "hobby friends"! Yeesh!

By contrast, it's really fun to ride a train en femme. One of the "funnest" parts is when the crew helps you off the train, or with your luggage. Makes you feel like a classy lady!

Wow Rikki ! ,

It sounds like its a world wide problem , I was told by a friend to look up
" asperger syndrome " under google search.
Yep!! , this mental disorder describes or compares well with some railfans.

Hi Merinda,

I'm not sure about the connection between railroad hobbyists and Asperger's Syndrome. I have a friend with AS. She's TS, and a brilliant PhD mathematician who has never held a job in her life, and lives with her mother in a cat-overrun mobile home. An interesting and unusual person, to say the least.

But on other boards, there has been quite a discussion about the connection between railfans/modelers and crossdressers. Here in the US, we had a type of railroad known as an "interurban." It was basically a streetcar line that extended out into the countryside, either connecting to the streetcar tracks in another city, or just into the suburbs to serve commuters. In contrast to mainline railroads, they were almost always electrically powered, and had a much greater percentage of their business from passengers. They also were frequently rinky-dink operations, with ancient equipment held together with string and chewing gum by incredibly dedicated employees. Interurbans seem to be very popular with crossdressing railfans (including yours truly).

Today in Los Angeles (as in many other cities) we have a modern light rail system. It's basically a big interurban run by a government entity and supported by tax money. So, no cranky old equipment, of course. I have gotten several of my TG friends together to go ride new lines when they open, and that sort of thing. That was great fun. And in fact, I try to ride it whenever I'm going where the trains go (not always easy in spread-out Los Angeles). It makes a welcome change from the responsibility and stress of driving in the city.

RikkiOfLA wrote:Hi Merinda,

I'm not sure about the connection between railroad hobbyists and Asperger's Syndrome.

Sorry my tactless typing again , I'll re-phrase----

" It was pointed out to me that some (not all) railfans show characteristics of A.S " .

Hi Merinda,

No apology necessary. Since my experience with AS is a subject pool of one (1) individual, I don't claim to be an expert. And if I sounded like I knew more than that, then I apologize.

Hugs!