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My wife and I have been talking about getting implants for the both of us. She is smaller than she would like to be and I have been wearing breast forms for two years now and want to go one step more. My wife would not mine for me to have them. Most people I know have seen me with my forms on. We are going to a doctor next week to check on this. What do you think about implants?

Wow, that is some heavy duty alterations. Not knowing anything about you, age, location, length of marriage, children/grandchildren. etc. I don't think to omany of us would be willing to venture an opinion, but if you go to the Dr and continue with this PLEASE keep us informed with yor progression.
Virginia

I am 36 years old and live in New Mexico. My wife and I have been married for 9 years and have one child, a daughter 3 years old. My wife and I both work as nurses in a large hospital. The doctor we are visiting is from another hospital in a larger city. We have a great marriage. While this may seem strange to some, wearing breast forms seems so natural for me. Yes, my daughter has seen me with the froms on a regular basis, but is too young right now to think anything about it. My wife and I agree that getting breast implants now would let our daughter grow up seeing them as normal. I also wear them to my job under my regular nuses ubiform and have been doing so for over a year now. I don't believe there would be any problem at work, just going from forms to implants.

David,
Thanks for the additional information, I hope you don't think I was prying into your personal life! Unfortunately, I am ill equiped to comment on your plans and although I might formulate a personal opinion, I am not comfortable in expressing it. I can only hope that some of my sisters here would comment, but if they choose not to, please do not be disapponted. What you are considering is an interesting concept to most of us, yet it is something that I have not seen discussed on this forum to any degree. Please do not think less of us if you get little if any response. A lot of us are still dealing with the ?why? we enjoy putting on "the uniform" if you will! When it comes to body alterations, you open a whole new universe to us and most of us have not considered that aspect, at least in partialiality. Good luck and please feel free to keep us posted as you furthure consider this change.
Love,
Virginia

Hello David, welcome to the forum.

You haven't mentioned whether or not you are a crossdresser, however, on the discussion of implants it sounds as though it would be right for you. I imagine wearing forms all the time can get to be hot, especially in New Mexico.

You indicated that your wife is OK with everything, so do whatever makes you feel better about yourself. There are few girls here that have grown breast and others that want them, so it's not unheard of.

Hi David,

It's a sort of in between step. One up from Cding if you like, but not the whole nine yards so to speak.

I'm with Virginia on this one, intresting concept and difficult to answer, in as much it's hard for me to imagine every day life as a male with breast implants (not that I wouldn't mind them myself, occasionally).
I hope you don't mind me saying that it seems a huge step, especially if you are not planing to take things any further.
That said, I sincerely hope all goes well for you, what ever you decide.

Charlotte xx

I do cross dress from time to time, but I want the implants to be part of my everyday life. I enjoy the feel of a bra and have gotten very use to it and my forms. Both of our families will have to be told if we decide to go ahead and have the implants. They both know about and have seen the breast forms so maybe the implants would not be noticed for some time. Anyway, thanks for the posts and I will keep you imformed on the decision.

This is certainly a different take on an old topic.

I have had women friends over the years who have debated breast augmentation and my response has always been to accept and like the body you were given and don't think you have to conform to some sexist image men have of what women should look like, i.e. bigger breasts. There was a song written about this in the Broadway show A Chorus Line called Dance Ten, Looks Three with a refrain of "t_ts and a_s will change your life".

Never thought of implants in the light of transgender issues before and I find myself defending a mans right to do this while decrying a womans need to do this. Something very wierd going on in my own head I guess.

I would say bear in mind that some women have been unhappy with their implants although I hear they are safer than they used to be.

Not trying to tell you what to do-it's YOUR body.

Andrea

Hi David,

Darn. I was hoping this thread would shush, but nooooo.

Well, I'm kind of in the same boat as you. I'm really super uncomfy talking about this kind of thing here because the majority of our members are CD'rs only and have basically no desire to change anything on their bodies, they just dress and enjoying expressing a softer side of themselves. That softer side can be either dressed or no dressed.

I digress.. sort of on purpose. It was 2 years ago that I decided to tell my wife that I would like BA (breast augmentation). She immediately envisioned Pam Anderson. I was thinking of an A cup or a very small B cup. She really didn't agree with the idea back then, but I didn't want to take hormones because when hormones stop, sometimes the growth goes away. I didn't want to imagine myself away for a 2 week vacation or something that meant I couldn't have medication and then have the growth go down. I wanted this to be a permanent part of me.

My wife now understands what I'm talking about is something similar to someone who has "man boobs" and that I will not be a person who's looking to wear a bikini. The other thing I did was tell her that I'd wait 2 years. Well the two years has passed and there are other changes I've made that have reduced my desire to have BA surgery, but I haven't ruled it out all together.

So, if it really is that important to you, my suggestion would be to wait. I'm not saying 2 years is the right idea, but give yourself some time to think about this. Over the course of 2 years I've had a lot to think about and though I still feel the same way you do about having the breasts (feels right to have them) I've thought about a lot of things that getting them would mean. I thought about the social barriers, the effects of a foreign objects in your body and the effects that has on your immune system as you age, the fact that some of them do get hard over time, they can rupture, and other really not positive things that come with this expression of self.

My wife's acceptance was important, but I'm happy I gave myself some time to think about it. I remember wearing my forms and not ever wanting to take them off because they felt so natural, but now I really don't wear them at all because they are removable. I don't like that anymore, I like things belonging to me and not going away. I hope to grow my hair long again too because I'm not a big fan of the thought of someone coming by and pulling off my hair. Talk about paranoid. Sorry, I only meant to illustrate how much I empathize with what you are thinking of doing. Though I'd thought about it all my life, the past two years when I knew my wife approved I did my most serious thinking and I'm glad I waited and I'd suggest, based on my experience that you also give yourself time to think about it and not do it on a impulse that it will make you feel complete.

Good luck with your decision. I support you with whatever you decide.

Beauty

Hi David & Beauty,

I think the idea of BA for CDing males is an incredible thing, but for me its the social implications that worries me, which might go with this type of surgery.

Stating the obvious, we CD'ers are not yet excepted by the majority of society. So how would we say take our kids swiming, lie on a beach or just interact in every day situations having female breasts, without suffering ridicule?

Just suppose we as Cder's were excepted by society, (that will be the day) then I would love nothing more than lying on a beach with beautiful breasts, wearing a bikini.

Given these social hang ups, are we not either are a person who dresses femme and can revert back to the male mode or someone who goes for the full gender change surgery and lives their life as a women.

Just my thoughts. Is there really a middle ground?

Charlotte xx

This is a subject I think about alot! I would LOVE to have BA. However, I doubt I ever will. First and foremost, I would not do it with out my wifes blessing, and even though she is amazingly accepting, this would be too much for her. I love her too much to ever hurt her or our relationship in that way. Secondly, I too enjoy my "male" activities and life too much to give it up. I just would not be accepted in the circles I enjoy.
For me, and I suspect most of us, this is the case. We like both sides of who we are too much of give up one for the other. (it is sad but true, that society just is not accepting of a display of both genders in one person)

However, David, for you, if this is what you want, and your wife is supportive, I say go for it. But, I would also echo what has been said, by saying, wait a while and make sure this is right for you.

BTW, I have the next best thing to having my own breasts, my wife had BA. I don't know who was more excited, me or her.

Hi David,

I'm one of those CDs who has some gynecomastia (I have full A cup breasts naturally, as did my father). They developed during puberty, so I've had them for 40 years. Over those years I've had times when I thought about removing them, and other times when I've thought about augmenting them. So I can tell you, first hand, about having breasts.

There's a lot of manly stuff that you really can't do. Go swimming as a guy. Take your shirt off on a hot summer day. Belong to a gym and change in the locker room. Use a public pool. Wear a tight t shirt.

Just something to consider.

I want to thank everyone who offer their advice. I do respect your opinions.
My wife and I are still going to see a doctor this week. She is so excited about her gertting implants and still said if I wanted them also,she would support me. I have been wearing forms for quite some time and I know some of the problems of having breasts full time. I'm sure I don't know all the troubles I would have, but I am ready to face those. I must say that I really do want implants and if everything goes OK, I am going to get them. Everyone at work has been kind with me wearing my forms and for now, they would not even know that they would be implants and not forms. I don't do too many outside activities, just working in the yard. Anyway, I'll keep you posted.

David,
I think you can see that your sisters here will support you in whatever decision that you make. All I offer is to remember you are an ambassador for all of us so make us proud!
and keep us posted.
Love,
Virginia

David:

You have caught us off-guard with your entry in this thread. CD people perhaps talk about such a thing. They joust and prod each other but, for the most part, if we are to remain as we are, we would not add such an appliance to our regular appearance.

On the other hand. I wear a bra (36-A) with appropriately sized silicon forms everyday since last November as a personal experiment. Now, I do wear a wind breaker type jacket when I am out. So, I am still disguised on this subject to the public. But, I will admit, I do feel comfortable and it has become normal to me. For our readers, the bra has a double layer of rayon on the outside and cotton on the inside facing that is sewn together but provides a full pocket to put the forms into. They are not against my skin so I do not have the discomfort of moisture collecting between my skin and the non-breathing silicone surface. With the cotton on my skin it feels rather natural as it would for any [gg] woman.

I must admit that it just feels right. BUT, to have surgically implanted breasts all the time is another matter for me. Since your spouse is so accepting of you, perhaps we are more jealous than we care to admit in this thread. Any surgery is risky, voluntary or not. So I think that is an issue that we all might share a concern in. I think that if you are comfortable with the idea. That if you feel this is right for you, then so be it. I would like to follow your progress in [text] to see how it goes for you.

Since you work in the medical field already, you are perhaps better informed than I and others about this matter. I have made visit to an excellent web site that is supported by the cosmetic medical community for related breast work of all types. Explanations are brief as the plethora of photos tells the story for the most part. The true incredible anatomical differences in this area of human anatomy study is mind boggling. I have learned a great deal about what “mother nature can do on a whim.”

I must admit that I am curious about the “sexual” related issues as clearly, these wonders of development are directly related to the male/female experience. We dance and jive around this but facts are facts. A woman’s breast may serve as a wonderful “feeding” device for those of nursing age, but clearly, we are enamored by such a geometric object. Bingo, bango, bongo…. There I said it.


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