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A common issue for young CD and all of you who haven't came out yet, I guess:
What to do If I get caught red handed???
I think I have a couple of getaway's prepared in case someone busts me shaving my legs or finds any "secret drawer", but what if I get caught all dressed-up, with make up, or even worse; wearing nothing but a pair of panties an filled bra's??? I can't think of anything better than turning into the invisible woman!!!!!

Seriously; what would be your reaction if any close relative/friend/SO/stranger/etc.. caughts you in an embarrasing situation??? I'd really like to know all of your opinions, girls,
thanx a lot!
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sincerely yours,
Pauli

Hi Pauli,
Guess I will take a shot at this first! I have to make a lot of assumptions, like they did not go to the kitchen for a weapon to "put you out of your misery!"
First and fore most you have to believe in your self. If you truly believe that this is part of who you are, then you have one big hurdle crossed. Then you have to be equiped with the information to respond. Read and learn as much about "us" as you can.
Let's proceed to the point of a face to face introduction by someone to Pauli! I would simply ask them "What do you think you see?" Don't run, don't show embarrassment, you want them to tell you what they see before them! That puts them on the defensive and you can find out "where they are coming from" so to speak. Knowing where their mind is gives you the opportunity to respond with the knowledge that hopefully you have obtained about crossdressers. Things like no we are not crazy, 99.9% of us are straight heterosexual males and all are equiped with FACT-above average intelligence. Every male has some female influence in them. We just have the gift to be able to express it, not only through the desire to dress, but to share our gift in the form of kindness, gentleness, empathy, love and caring.
Back to my favorite Bible verse:"Wisdom is the principle thing, therefore get wisdom, BUT with all thy getting -- get understanding!"
Believe in yourself, get undestanding and you will do just fine!!!!
Love,
Virginia

Hi Pauli,

I did get busted at my home with my dad. I didn't have to say anything, he said that I needed to get dressed.

You're going to feel shocked if it happens, so I don't really think I can tell you anything that you'd remember in that moment.

Afterwards I'd suggest you decide if you want to come clean or fib. If you want to come clean then provide them with lots of information about who you are (magazines, links to sites, anything else you can find). We both know you can make up a fib on your own.

I hope you don't get caught because I remember what it was like and so I really would be happy if this doesn't happen to you.

Beauty

AT your age, 20?, I was already out to my SO.

As for getting caught by anyone else, the question is how would they catch me. If you live alone I would reccomend not leaving the doors unlocked. If I had friends or relatives that came over unannounced, I'd make sure the door was locked.

When younger, I learned to be a very quick change artist. Came in handy later on when the landlady came knocking on my door. I even had makeup on. Keeping a good fast makeup remover handy took care of that.

Nowadays, I could care less. I am not embarrassed abouot who I am and what I do. I only have to respect my wife's wishes about letting anyone know, but if caught I would be truthfull. If they didn't like it, tough.

, first of all, thanx to all of you for your advise, it is really helpful, but I was not talking ONLY about myself, I've already came out some people, (though in my paricular case I'm still on the "no secret=no fun" stage ). I just wanted to see if there were different opinions (and I see there are!), because the question was a bit deeper than it looks: "how to deal with the average less-intelligent folks" (i think i come from a close-minded society that's why I think not anyone is capable of understanding)
truly yours,

Pauli

Pauli,

My advice is similar to some of the other suggestions posted here. I would suggest that you take the time NOW to assemble a sufficient amount of information into something like a 3-ring binder and have it easily accessable if/when the time comes when you need it. Put repitable information in it and it wouldn't be a bad idea to include several 'tear-out' sheets containing links to high quality web sites and forums such as this one. Obviously there could come a time when someone catches you dressed as you've feared and if they are willing to do so you could hand them the assembly of information to read. If they don't want to hang around that long, give them one of your 'tear-out' sheets to take with them so they can research the subject more in their own time (and HOPE that they do so).

You might be interested in some of the information that's available on my web site as part of what you'd want to include, as well as in the links section there AND on this forum.

Dixie