Do Not Understand anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gelinda · Post by **Gelinda** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 7:56 pm

Ladies:

I am going to ramble on this time, I have to get somethings off my chest plus out of my system before I get any crazier than I already am.

I put some of this from my heart in the thread and was told to remove it because it did not relong in her thread. That upset me so much that we someone puts down what they are truly feeling when if they miss the mark of what was being talked about, it is wrong for a person to point to that person an saw it is wrong. You can kill a truly hard to say statement. In my case, I thought I was answering the thread as I saw it but even thou the person did not like the answer, Is this right, I am truly asking because I am upset over the way it was handled??? I would appreciate everyone telling me, if I was wrong, PLEASE.

Gelinda. The phoenix within needs to arise again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 8:04 pm

Hi Gelinda,

Many lurkers read this forum. You've been very straightforward about talking about your life. It would be hard to piece two and two together if someone came here. What I mean is, not a lot of people have a wife who lives in another state. Not a lot of people have a wife who lives in an exact state you name here and a state you live in.

No one gains access to any information here. If you have an e-mail address that you used another time they could have gotten to you that way too?

There's just a lot of things you've discussed that others could track back to you if, for some reason someone was also a member of this forum or lurked the forum and discovered who you were by things you say here.

I'm really sorry that happened.

Beauty

Rikki · Post by **Rikki** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 8:31 pm

Gelinda,
I would hope you don't visit this or any other CD site from work or on work network. The network admin people can watch and gather info. Like Beauty said don't think anyone here would have ratted you out.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 8:49 pm

Gelinda,
I am about as far from a computer expert as one can get, but I do know that there are a lot of experts out there, i.e the viruses that we get from these morons. As Beauty said also if you look at the number of people who read a post and the number who actually respond there is a big, big difference, so there are a lot of "visitors" here.
I hope you find the person and can find a solution to your situation. You know if we can help we are her for you!
Virginia

Gelinda · Post by **Gelinda** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 9:03 pm

Beauty: I am attempting to see it your way it is the reason I have rewrote this input. But I have a hard time with this. I have editted my profile and a few other things. But i am having a hard time not thinking an saying what I think, that is what makes me me. So I do not know how not to say what I am feeling from my heart. I admit I do not always think with my brain when on this forum but I have always thought with my heart. I do not understand what is wrong with that. I donot know what to think about anything anymore. I must be coming apart at the seems. Gelinda.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 9:12 pm

Whoa! Gelinda,
I don't know what you think you read, but Beauty was not suggesting anything like you have responded to!!!! I think you need to go back and reread what she wrote, if anything she was saying what we have always said that we are here to help each other and the only way that we can do that is to share with each other.
That is what I got out of her remarks, she like the rest of us care deeply for you and by now would have hoped that you can sense that. Being derogatory toward you would not serve any of us well.
Love,
Virginia

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 9:48 pm

Gelinda wrote:Beauty: So what you are saying to me is that I should not be open and tell what I feel. What good soes that do for others that I hope can relate to what I have to say. So I guess what I am being told is to take the heart out of it and be bland in what I say. Then I guess I might as well leave now. This forum saved my life. I know this to be o so true, I was so close to destroying myself because I could not come to understand why I had these feels. Well Beauty then remove me from the rolls of the forum, I have never wanted to hurt anyone let alone hurt this forum so i think it best I just leave. Gelinda.

Gelinda,

I think it is about time to call a Spade a Spade. I am assuming that it was my thread that you were speaking of where you posted something that was off topic.

Tell me something? If it was so important to you to put that message on this sight what prevented you from copying it and pasting it in a new thread?

Something sounds very familiar here,

I once attempted to support a character who lived from crises to crises. If one did not happen by itself he created one.

I did not have the tools to help him ether.

Best wishes,
Darlene.

Jan W · Post by **Jan W** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 10:09 pm

With all due respect Gelinda I have to say as an interested bystander that you have taken Beauty's very sage advice the wrong way.

She was trying to point out how your awful situation may have arrived and you seem to have interpereted this as a personal slur. It is nice to discuss our feelings but a little discretion is required to minimise the possibility of a chance 'outing.'

Judging by your previous posts I am sure you are clever and astute enough to realise this once you sit back and review the situation.

Gelinda, concentate on the positive aspects of this wonderful site and take advantage of the sincere relationships we are so fortunate to be a part of.

Hope your Dad is doing well and is comfortable,

Love,

Jan

Gelinda · Post by **Gelinda** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 10:32 pm

Darlene: Yes I admit in my mind you do not live in this world to me. I think it is totally think it is wrong to think that a thread that you start is yours to say what can and can't be put there. That is my opinion, only but I wonder if you are so fragile in your own mind that you can't stand to see and do things to help others. Fear the past will come back to haught you.

To the others that have answered, Thank you. I see that it is my feeling that are wrong. I still wonder if I need to be removed, I am sure that Darlene would say yes. But I am wondering if I am in the correct mind to be talking to any one at all.

There is a darkside inside all of us and mine is showing. There have always been dark things in my past that I live with on a daily basis that I wish I could cut out of my mind. This is truly a minor one, in comparsion to one's that I did in my early years. Operation Phoenix is still alive an well in my mind, that is the biggest thing I wish to cut of my mind and Cding is one of the others.

O well I know the way to do that. Gelinda

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 10:45 pm

Hey Gilinda,

Darlene wrote: Tell me something? If it was so important to you to put that message on this sight what prevented you from copying it and pasting it in a new thread?

Best wishes,
Darlene.

Gelinda · Post by **Gelinda** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 10:53 pm

Darlene: Why should I have too, You do not own that thread.

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 11:59 pm

Gelinda wrote:Darlene: Why should I have too, You do not own that thread.

Thank you Gelinda,

I have no more questions.

Cathy L. Anderson · Post by **Cathy L. Anderson** » Sun Aug 07, 2005 3:33 am

Hi Gelinda,

Gelinda wrote:I am truly wanting to destroy Gelinda

There is a difference between destroying Gelinda vs. getting beyond CDing. If you apply too much force, she just bounces back with just as much force. And if you think in terms of "destroying," it promotes negative emotions. The negative emotions create the need for the soothing presence of Gelinda. So if you feel like you want to stop crossdressing--great. But be relaxed about it. For example, just say, "I'm going to not be Gelinda for a month and see what happens. Then I'll re-evaluate things."

Concerning being 'outed'--I'm sorry. But I doubt it was anyone here on the forum.

Cathy

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sun Aug 07, 2005 5:43 am

Hi everyone,

Thanks for sticking up for me everyone while I was away.

Gelinda they were right. I'm sorry, I was just trying to explain how it may have happened.

Beauty

CJ · Post by CJ » Sun Aug 07, 2005 6:28 am

Hi all,

Gelinda,

I, too, am sorry this has happened to you. Unfortunately, people who lack scruples can be found anywhere and, like Beauty said, it's not that hard for someone who wishes us harm to piece things together on the basis of the info we provide here (birthdays, for example).

This might be a good opportunity to remind all of you:

If, for whatever reason, it is imperative that people in the online community not know your true identity, then do not provide any personal information that may serve to identify you.

Although this is a private forum, in that registration is required in order to participate, it is also a public one, in that anyone can access it and view what is written there. If you need to remain "closeted," discretion is the better part of sanity.

Notice that this doesn't mean you cannot participate in the exchanges and discussions; no, it only means that you should evaluate beforehand how much information you intend to provide is perhaps too much information. We've had issues like these before, on the forum, and we'll have them again, I'm sure. In the same measure that we leave our private world behind, we also whittle away at our anonymity. That cannot be helped.

As far as destroying yourself--not "destroying Gelinda" but destroying yourself (they're one and the same)--I know what you've been through and what you're going through, Gee (because you've talked about it), and I strongly, strongly urge you to get the help you need from a therapist that you feel does you more good than harm.

You're welcome here any time and try not to worry so much about those people with whom it doesn't "click." That's just life.

Love,
CJ

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