A little puzzled bout my bi sexualality
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Sheena
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A little puzzled bout my bi sexualality
This is going to sound weird!!!! I recently came out to a good freind that I'm a CD and bi-sexual. She took it really well and was supportive. She asked me though who I prefer the better, male or female, and I still cant figure it out. I said to her that looks wise I go for women, but sex wise I go for men. Personally I love pashing on with other CDs, its a lot of fun. I love women, but I love women in the sense that I would love to look like them and I admire there beauty. I've tried it with women, and its been nice, but a fellow CD or a gorgous guy is much better, is it just me or is there any others
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Hi Sheena,
Jo's right the sex part of being bi-sexual is only part of it and on that note, which I so gently planted myself, please make sure this topic does not get into talk about sex with men or women. Like Jo said we can stay free of the sexual experiences without talking about sex and discussing feelings about being who you are.
There are other forums out there where talking about sexuality and feelings can be discussed, but we don't permit it here right now. There is nothing wrong with bi-sexuality AT ALL!!! NADA! It's just that sex talk isn't permitted here and so I'll have to moderate if the topic gets too mature for our intended audience.
Thanks for saying something very important Jo. I think bi-sexuals get a bum deal when it comes to talking about themselves because the word sex is already in the description of you.
Thanks again everyone!
Beauty
Jo's right the sex part of being bi-sexual is only part of it and on that note, which I so gently planted myself, please make sure this topic does not get into talk about sex with men or women. Like Jo said we can stay free of the sexual experiences without talking about sex and discussing feelings about being who you are.
There are other forums out there where talking about sexuality and feelings can be discussed, but we don't permit it here right now. There is nothing wrong with bi-sexuality AT ALL!!! NADA! It's just that sex talk isn't permitted here and so I'll have to moderate if the topic gets too mature for our intended audience.
Thanks for saying something very important Jo. I think bi-sexuals get a bum deal when it comes to talking about themselves because the word sex is already in the description of you.
Thanks again everyone!
Beauty
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Re: A little puzzled bout my bi sexualality
Hi Sheena,
I am a gg married to a cd.
Just want to give you a little info that might make things 'clear' for you. Have you ever noticed how many gay men there are in the fashion industry, make up industry, hair care industry.? God given talen aside, ect, many gay men enjoy helping women become beautiful. Most gay men who I have known enjoy being freinds with beautiful women, their company, appreaciate their fashion style, and truly have a 'love' for women. But that love stops at intimacy, romance, and sexual desire. My gay male friends would go on and on about how 'hot' I was in a certain dress, they would compliment me and make me feel beautiful and wanted. But not from a 'girl I want you becuase I find you sexually atttractive" . It was and is purly a non-sexual enjoyment of beauty and personality.
I am not saying you are 'gay', you seem comfortable with your bi-state of mind right now. But the desire to be with a woman, to love her not only on a friendly emotional level, but in a physical way is what is required.
If you look deep in your heart and your attraction for women lies wiht just their clothing, their make up, their shoes, and I boy I wish I had her body, being something other than "bi-sexual' may be something you have to give more thought to.
Also, there are also bi-sexual women out there too. Looking for relationships in those communities might be a way to find a partner who is not bothered by your sexual idneity. Because as you can guess most hetrosexual females usually prefer to be with men who are het. as well. Even though I enjoy my husbands cding and find it a turn on, he is only into gg's (and really only into me!) and has no desire or want for men , dressed as girls or otherwise.
ANyway, I think it is good that you are comfortable with admitting these feelings. Alot of people don't ever voice their desires and mask them and then try to be someone they are not and really that is not fair to you or any partners who you may decdie to get with.
Good luck and we are all here for you as you have more quesitons...
kathy in canada
I am a gg married to a cd.
Just want to give you a little info that might make things 'clear' for you. Have you ever noticed how many gay men there are in the fashion industry, make up industry, hair care industry.? God given talen aside, ect, many gay men enjoy helping women become beautiful. Most gay men who I have known enjoy being freinds with beautiful women, their company, appreaciate their fashion style, and truly have a 'love' for women. But that love stops at intimacy, romance, and sexual desire. My gay male friends would go on and on about how 'hot' I was in a certain dress, they would compliment me and make me feel beautiful and wanted. But not from a 'girl I want you becuase I find you sexually atttractive" . It was and is purly a non-sexual enjoyment of beauty and personality.
I am not saying you are 'gay', you seem comfortable with your bi-state of mind right now. But the desire to be with a woman, to love her not only on a friendly emotional level, but in a physical way is what is required.
If you look deep in your heart and your attraction for women lies wiht just their clothing, their make up, their shoes, and I boy I wish I had her body, being something other than "bi-sexual' may be something you have to give more thought to.
Also, there are also bi-sexual women out there too. Looking for relationships in those communities might be a way to find a partner who is not bothered by your sexual idneity. Because as you can guess most hetrosexual females usually prefer to be with men who are het. as well. Even though I enjoy my husbands cding and find it a turn on, he is only into gg's (and really only into me!) and has no desire or want for men , dressed as girls or otherwise.
ANyway, I think it is good that you are comfortable with admitting these feelings. Alot of people don't ever voice their desires and mask them and then try to be someone they are not and really that is not fair to you or any partners who you may decdie to get with.
Good luck and we are all here for you as you have more quesitons...
kathy in canada
Sheena wrote:This is going to sound weird!!!! I recently came out to a good freind that I'm a CD and bi-sexual. She took it really well and was supportive. She asked me though who I prefer the better, male or female, and I still cant figure it out. I said to her that looks wise I go for women, but sex wise I go for men. Personally I love pashing on with other CDs, its a lot of fun. I love women, but I love women in the sense that I would love to look like them and I admire there beauty. I've tried it with women, and its been nice, but a fellow CD or a gorgous guy is much better, is it just me or is there any others