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Beth wrote:Hi girls,

Info on my build: I am 39 and weigh about 110#'s and stand about 6'. I wear a size 0 to 1 in juniors. My waist is 28" and my hips are 32" I am a twig with no butt! LOL So, I can dress younger that I am I love the juniors look on me and so does Jennifer.

Now heres the kicker. I love the breast, I think that they make a woman a woman. I do the water balloon thing now but I want forms. I have tried size 32A up to 34C's and I feel like the C's do me good. Since I have a concave chest! I hate my chest and me having something that goes outward than the sunk in makes me happier. I am very embarrassed of my chest but I have to live with it.

I am a home dresser and now and then drive around dressed to an extent. But, I would love to go out fully dressed and want to pass as best as I can. OH, I won't even talk about my "Adams apple" looks like I have a golf ball stuck in my throat! hence the turtle neck I bought.

I am going to call Monday and talk to the Breastformstore and see what they think but I value your thoughts as well. I don't want to buy too small and have them sink towards each other or buy too big and look like a guy with nice bigone's.

I can't believe I told the world about my chest but I want this and I feel like this I my next step in life.

BTW: are their wigs any good? I am thinking about the Delilah wig to help hide my neck too.
http://www.thebreastformstore.com/wigs- ... lilah.aspx
Thanks for any input and I will value your thoughts

Love, Beth

Beauty wrote:Hi Beth,

Did you say you were 6' and weigh 110 lbs? That would mean that you're a skeleton not skinny. Was that a typo? If it's not you have no muscle at all and you are anorexic. You should seek medical attention immediately. The lowest weight I've noted for someone your height is 132, so you are 22lbs under your weight which is really dangerous.

If it was a typo then please excuse my alarm. The only thing that was weird is having 32 inch hips and a 28 inch waist. If you were that thin you wouldn't have any hips or waist since you'd be a skeleton. That's what kind of makes me believe it was a typo.

Everyone is right about the breastformstore.com site. They are great and super customer focused.

Beauty,

I have been on the very thin side of things since I was born. Actually I have no body fat just muscle. I have been (blessed from what a lot of women tell me) with an over active metabolism. I can eat like a horse and never gain a pound. Once my Dr. put me on a weight gain program when I was going for the state police dept. and in 6 weeks I lost 7 pounds! He told me then that all I had was an over active metabolism and he put it into hyper drive

I am very healthy and have no medical conditions. I have many DR's as friends when I worked in pathology for 7 years and now that I drive for a RV transport co I have to have a DOT physical every year and I always am very fit and healthy. I haven't had a cold or the flu for years.

I don't look as bad as I sound. LOL

I really have had a bunch of women say I wish I had your figure! And I was thinking that I wished I had their figure!

I weighed myself today and I weigh in at 115! Yea!!

Hi Beth,

="You"I hate my chest and me having something that goes outward than the sunk in makes me happier. I am very embarrassed of my chest but I have to live with it.

You state to Beauty that you are very healthy????? Do you think that hating your chest and feeling embarrassed about it is mentally healthy for you?

Cheers.

I think we can take Beth at her word that she is healthy. If she is happy too then that's good enough for me. I'm sure most of us have something about our bodies we don't particularly like or would change if we could, so I don't see that as particularly ususual.

Stephanie

Loretta Ann wrote:Hi Beth,

="You"I hate my chest and me having something that goes outward than the sunk in makes me happier. I am very embarrassed of my chest but I have to live with it.

You state to Beauty that you are very healthy????? Do you think that hating your chest and feeling embarrassed about it is mentally healthy for you?

Cheers.

Good grief,
I am thinging that I am sorry for posting this at all now.

I just wanted advice on forms for my body style and then we get into my mental health? What the heck happened?

I am fit bady and mind period!

I think that everyone hates or dislikes some part of their body and I guess that means that they are not mentally heathy.

Hi Beth,

In High School I was 6' and barely had any body fat on me and I was 165. Women often told me what they are telling you. My arms looked like sticks. You could see my rib cage when I took my shirt off and people called me bird chest.

I worked with someone who was like you as far as eating and he would lose weight just typing. He was told he had an over active metabolism and he was shorter than you are and he weighs in the 150 range.

Are you maybe shorter than 6'1 maybe? I can't find anything that even comes close to your height and weight for a man or a woman.

I'm challenging you on this because saying something like I'm 6' and 110-115lbs is not a good thing to say because it's not healthy nor is it something anyone should read and believe it's possible. I so tried not to say that, but you'd be a skeleton.

So, lets just stick with the breast form store or breast forms, but lets not talk about your weight because it's not really healthy to be 6' and 110-115lbs and not be in a hospital with an IV in your arm.

I found a million links, but this one shows it the best.

http://www.loseweightslow.com/weightandheightgraph.html

I'm sorry I don't believe you, but you'd be asking me to suspend my belief in reality. So many people fantasize or exaggerate about things online and think it's ok, but I don't think it's ok and this is one where I'm not going to just let it go. I don't want to see anyone here out there trying to emulate you and wondering why they can't get down to 115lbs like Beth when in reality is if they were they'd be in a hospital.

Beth,
I think that calling the store is a great start! I wish I could offer some advise, but there are four items that go toward making our physical appearance work. 1. the right color foundation (make-up) 2. A nice wig 3. A nice, sincere smile and 4. a properly fitted bra. The forms are needless to say a critical part of the "look." Too big and you get the wrong type of attention and too small and you feel like some GG's with the "same problem." You have to keep trying until you find a happy medium. With your size the really nice thing is - the clothes you can fit into - I would kill for!!! I have found fabulous blouses and skirts and coats and dresses that I would hold up and know - "ain't no way!!!"
Good luck honey, keep the faith and "don't let the turkeys get you down!!"
Love,
Virginia

Hi Beth,

You wrote:I think that everyone hates or dislikes some part of their body and I guess that means that they are not mentally healthy.

You will need to speak for yourself here as that statement no longer includes me. (It used to) I used to hate the fact that I was a cross dresser, and would have been embarrassed if anyone knew about it. Not mentally healthy at all.

In my opinion hating any part of ones body that you can not change translates into hating ones self, and you can call that fit all you want and Good grief it to death. But all that shows me is that your defense mechanisms are well in place and not at all rusty from lack of use.

I have said my piece here and feel there is nothing further that I can contribute of any value.

Cheerio.

Beth:

I share your frustration asking advice about subject "a" and getting buried with unsolicited advice about subject "b". I also rather envy you, for I remember how good it felt to be 6 foot tall and weigh only 185 pounds, and not 255, 265, etc.

I think the ladies here have pounced upon you with the best of intentions. Very few of us on this forum are mental health professionals - certainly I am not. We make not know how to approach the subject as professionals, but we can read the height/weight charts.

I've been ill lately and just lost 9 pounds. Fine for me. Potentially fatal for you.

I'm sorry I don't have much to offer on silicone breast forms. I can't afford them, and until my brother moves out, I couldn't enjoy them.

Please try to keep an open mind. We wouldn't respond if we didn't care.

Hugs,

Bernice