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Well..some gals here know my my situation..as a caregiver. Tonight I had to talk with family, funny how they avoid these things if they're not there But while talking to my sister, I said heck..time to tell her about Dee. At first she she seemed shocked..then the standard queation..are you gay? But then the conversation got warmer..she had lots of questions....did i wear her dresses way back then....yes...Ah she suspected a bit. Believe me..it wasn't eay to broach this topic...but we get older..best to be up front. She had tons of questions, but did mention that she always thought I was more caring? than most guys. So...I did it...said it..no going back. Now she wants to see a pic or two..which I have to send snail mail since her yard ape is always the first on the PC. Sorry..rambled a bit..but feel so great she knows and accepts. I can't believe I told her..but its best in the long run.
DeeDee

That's great, DeeDee!

It's such a huge step to tell family/friends.... you really put yourself out there when you do.

I haven't told anyone except my wife. Don't know when I'll ever get the courage to do it.

Congrats... and I'm glad it went so well!

OMG!!!!!

Dee'ster, you go girl!!!!! Wow!! Now it's up to me next, right?? You brave little size 10, you. Keep me posted on the on going saga.

!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Dee Dee, I will not ask you to expand on the query by your sister as to your "caring" ability. I too am a caregiver. The lady is 70 years old and has multi-infarct dementia. I/Virginia love taking care of her. You may or may not know me. I am a powerlifter and I guess you could say I am damn good at it. I hold numerous world, national, american and state records and titles and I am a crossdresser!!!! I would not have it any other way!!!! The husband suspects that I am a bit "different" but he is so glad to have someone to care for his wife of over 50 years, that seems to love her and loves taking care of her that it is simply a "don't ask don't tell situation. There is more to it but not important at this juncture. Virginia has brought things to my life that before she really "came out" I would not even have dreamed were possible. I love who I am and I have found an SO who accepts me and me both Virginia and "her" alter ego. She may not completely understand me/us, but she has says it does not matter, she loves "both of us" so we will simply hold hands and skip merrily along on our "Magical Mystery Tour." I can only hope that my sisters here find the happiness that I have found both in allowing Virginia (well I did not really allow her in she kind of took over during a very very trying part of my life) and all I can say is Virginia is one hell of a woman. My SO -- also what a woman!!! She is amazing. I did not even dream that such people existed and I found her or she found me - whatever - it is now our "Magical Mystery Tour!"
Keep the faith, it is worth it!
Virginia

Virginia wrote: I love who I am and I have found an SO who accepts me and me both Virginia and "her" alter ego.
Virginia

Virginia! Obviously I've been away way too long. A new SO? How wonderful! I don't mean to pry (or hijack the thread - sorry Dee Dee), but I am sure we'd all love to hear more about her, how you met each other, how you broke the news, etc. How about a "tell all" thread? Or PM?

Best news I have heard all week. You Go Girl!


Hugs,

Bernice

Hi Hon,
Yes I have an SO! I could tell things that as a group my sisters here would not/could not believe and some would probably form a posse and try and have me committed to the "rubber room." Other things would literally melt the forum!!!
ALL THINGS in good time!!!!
I will say this, I have got to be the luckiest crossdresser EVER!!!! This girl is intelligent, she is dropdead georgeous, she has, well let's just say she is ALLLLLLLLLLLLL WOMAN! We have so much in common it is really scary!
We can almost finish each other's thoughts and she readily admits she does not fully understand crossdressing and how Virginia and Virginia's "alter ego" can exist simultaneously, support and love each other the way they do and yet they have allowed her into their lives. But she accepts it, she accepts it and she loves to participate with either or both "entities," and loves them both.
Like Commander Cody sings in the song "Hot Rod Lincoln" "Move over boys!!!!! I got a license to FLY!"
She and I are thoroughly thoroughly enjoying OUR "Magical Mystery Tour!"
I can only hope that ALL my sisters that may be struggling in their relationships can find anywhere near the happiness that she brings me!
Virginia

Bernice
heck...I don't mind you hijacking my thread at all...LOL. Telling my sister was just one of the hardest things I ever did. But, heck..I love to see conversation flowing here. We just gotta keep talking and telling. And sure..I'm not extremely jealous of Virginia....sigh
DeeDee

Hi DeeDee--
It always makes me happy to read of coming-out sagas, and it's good to hear about you and your sister. May you continue to speak to others at your own pace.

DeeDee... Thanks so much for your patience. Glad to hear of your progress in life and family relationships. I have some caregiver grief to share with you sometime. It's not related to CDing, so it isn't appropriate here..

Virginia: Your good fortune could not have happened to a more deserving person. I'm so happy for you.

Hugs to all...

Bernice

Thanks Bernice
My reference as to being a caregiver..well..it was meant as a way to explain how I opened up to my sister. Sometimes it takes another issue to just "let it all out". LOL..to just sit down, and out of the blue, decide to call and tell...that would be much braver than I have been. BTW, I got a nice email from her a few days later.....and she is still fine with it and happy I shared it with her. I know thats not the reaction some of us get, but its soooo nice when it is
DeeDee