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Hello all you lovely people,

Do you ever feel invisible,unable to really show your true colours,to have the pride you so deserve,that makes your true identity.

Have you told a spouse,a friend,a family member like a sibling to only have them turn that side of you away.

It saddens me that we humans pretend to have empathy for others,it saddens me that we only see what we want too in a human being and it saddens me that we as humans don't take the time to really learn about each other.

I know there is many of you right now who have told someone of your secret,to only have them pretend you really did'nt say it.

I say to you,know your worth,you are a good person, make sure that you love and accept yourself.
Remember there are many here within this forum who are willing to hold out their cyberspace hand to you,to tell it's o.k and to tell you that yesterday was yesterday,today is another new day and with each new day you will grow,because here you have a circle of trust of individuals who really care.

So if you are one of those femmes locked within invisibilty,let us know you,tell us how you feel,tell us if you need help and we will band together to help you get out into the open with confidence.

Hugs Penni

I am invisible, I have a secret identity, and that is part of the fun of CDing.

Absaroka

But...

Don't change in a telephone booth!!

Do they still have phone booths?

Absaroka

Now that you mention it....

Prob only in Metropolis!

Wow, I am finding a lot of comfort tonight in these older posts. Thanks Penni and everyone.

Penni - it is posts like this that really make me feel good.
Thank you for the support.

Hi Penni and you girls
Life is funny and not fair. That's life. What are going to do. I've been on this forum for only a couple of years and before that I thought I was the only one like this on the planet. I was always sullen and depressed and really not a fun person at all. Now you can't shut me up! No comments ladies!

I met the nicest, sweetest and most caring people on this forum and it has done wonders for me. I never liked myself and thought I was worthless. There are teachers,PHds,lawyers,Chiropracters and even those low life printers like me and Carol Ann but all are good people.

All of us just want to be ourselves and go about our day as most get to do. That's all. After telling most everyone in my life about me you find out who your true friends are. Like Penni says some will ignore it,others won't talk to you or see you anymore and some it will make no difference.

My wife Mini who I'm still married to lives elsewhere. She has this crazy idea I have issues. I've tried many times to get her to come on the forum and she thinks we are talking about all sorts of perverted things. If I mention the saturday night chat she goes nuts.

The chat is very perverted. All the ladies talking about their families, their kids, their lives, their problems, shopping and all kinds of sick things. It's really disgusting.

I don't know what people think of us. I'm on My Space with my kids but I get the most disgusting friend requests for some people. I always block them but would love to respond. Trust me! I'd rip them a new you know what or two or maybe three but I bite my tongue.

The one thing you have to remember. You are just another human being. No better or worse than anyone else and don't let others make you feel you are worthless and don't have the right to exist. You have as much right as anyone. We are not demons or perverts. Gender comes in a rainbow of colors. There are people who believe in evolution and others in creation. If you believe in creation answer me one question. Does God ever make mistakes?

Hugs ladies. Keep the faith and never minimize yourself as a human being. That's what I've learned here. You ladies are the best. Love you all. I like to joke around and maybe too much but you've all made a huge difference in my life. You cannot imagine.

Thank you all so much. Big hug and lipstick smooch for all of you. Even that Virginia and Silver Lady! You two! Love Ya!

Love
Jeannie

Well said Jeannie!!!!

Jeannie, Jeannie, Jeannie - what a sweetheart!!!!
We love you too, hon!!!
Virginia

Jeannie, you definitely like to make everyone laugh! Ironically, your above post shows a more serious side to issues of crossdressing that I can relate to.

I came out as Maria two and a half years ago in a San Francisco Bay Area support group. I was immediately accepted by everyone around me. Since then, I enjoy going out as Maria in public and at various trangender meetings and events. Incorporating Maria into my life has made me a grow as a better person. Instead of being invisible, I am visible to myself and to others. Why try to hide something and live in world of fear and shame?

Maria