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Hi Girls, have I completed my cycle of crossdressing ? I have not been to the forum in months. I don't know what the reason is. I still enjoy very much the dressing and the sensual part of it all but somehow the talking about it has not attracted me for a while. I would like to hear if any of you have experience a cycle like this ?
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Maria

I haven't yet with regards to the forums but expect I eventually will. Several people who were here when I came have indicated it was time to move on. Maybe it's as simple as you said what you had to say.


I have found that the Cding seems to have a cycle of some sort which I don't really understand very well.

Absaroka

Seems that for some these things do cycle. Couldn't tell if it was whether they were quite busy, lack of opportunity, lack of interest or just not on their mind for a while.

For me, it's being busy.

Those who know me well here will assure you that I seem to go in cycles here. I no longer visit seeking support, but I will occasionally offer my 2 cents to those who do.

I don't think it is a lack of interest. I think that life is filled with too many distractions, and there is not enough time in the day to do everything I'd like to do, which, yes, includes dressing.

Hugs,

Bernice

I would agree. For me it's just sometimes there is too much going on in my life, and/or the opportunity isn't there.

Sometimes, if that's the case, I won't even think much about dressing for several days. But, it will always come back to me, and I'm so glad when it does. I can dress and relax, and just feel pretty.

I had been seeing a therapist for about a year who specialized in working with male crossdressers. She wrote her thesis for her PhD on the subject. We talked about the same topic - is there a cycle for crossdressers? - and she said that though she didn't have any statistical data, she was almost certain that there was a pattern that seemed to recur in many men. Many have their first experience around puberty, it's mostly by themselves and it's highly sexual. The urge to crossdress often fades in the late teen years and into young adulthood although many will continue to fantasize about crossdressing. However, as many men approach middle age, the urge returns strongly but often without the same sexual component. She went on to say that as many men slip into the later years of their lives, the interest often disappears altogether.

This is exactly the sequence of events for me. I guess there's some small comfort in knowing that I'm not all that unusual (but that's a matter of perspective!).

For what it's worth, in his excellent "Transvestites and Transsexuals," Richard Docter found a similar crossdressing "career path" based on his research and the research of others.