Well, Its over I guess!
Posted: Sat Oct 14, 2006 8:47 am
As some of you know "Virginia" has been going through a divorce and yesterday was my (God! I can only hope! last day in court. - three times is enough!) DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT SAYING A WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I represented myself. What was it that Abe Lincoln said and I paraphrase!: " He who represents himself has a fool for an attorney!" Anyway, my wife's attorney is from the "old school." No negotiations, no sitting down and discussing anything, just lie after lie and into court and in court defend his lies with, "oh I am sorry I just misunderstood," or "you misinterpreted what I was saying!" etc. Accusations such as income tax evasion, blant disregard for court orders, being an "insane pervert!" forcing her out of the home, etc Anyway, with a bit of soothing anal ointment, I will probably survive.
For those of you who may face this unfortunate circumstance, I can only tell you how the judge that I had evidently ruled. It appears that he cared nothing about how we arrived at where we were ---all that mattered was at this very point in time who had what and how could he "equally" (in his mind) distribute the marital assets. The fact that she had no expenses, was living with her parents, was drawing $1,000 a month disablility and had contributed absolutely nothing to any type of retirement planning for 28 years, (although she had worked and had as good or better opportunities to contribute and choose not to) was totally unimportant. His only concern was the distribution of any and all marital assets that currently existed! I doubt that even being represented by counsel would have had things come out any different.
As you may or may not know my wife had and does have a "swelling of the brain" which has been going on for a minimum of three years and probably longer and in one recess yesterday, her attorney asked to speak to me alone and in the conversation he admitted that even when he sits down with her to discuss the intricasies of the distribution, she does not seem to have a clue and just drifts off into her own little world. He and I agreed on some final details and then he asked her to sit in and told her what we felt would be an "equitable" solution and she agreed and I could tell she did not have a clue. Anyway, that was presented to judge - he accepted that and it was over. Her attorney did say that I was a worthy opponent and that I had handled myself very well in the court room. Yes I did get to do some cross-examinations - the only mistake I made according to the judge was that I initially stood between he ( the judge) and the witness. He asked me to stand to one side or the other. He likes to see their eyes and body language evidently!
Anyway, it is hopefully over and I can move on with my life.
Virginia, SilverLady (as if you had not already guessed those of you who even care!) and my sisters here on the forum.
Love you all!
Virginia
For those of you who may face this unfortunate circumstance, I can only tell you how the judge that I had evidently ruled. It appears that he cared nothing about how we arrived at where we were ---all that mattered was at this very point in time who had what and how could he "equally" (in his mind) distribute the marital assets. The fact that she had no expenses, was living with her parents, was drawing $1,000 a month disablility and had contributed absolutely nothing to any type of retirement planning for 28 years, (although she had worked and had as good or better opportunities to contribute and choose not to) was totally unimportant. His only concern was the distribution of any and all marital assets that currently existed! I doubt that even being represented by counsel would have had things come out any different.
As you may or may not know my wife had and does have a "swelling of the brain" which has been going on for a minimum of three years and probably longer and in one recess yesterday, her attorney asked to speak to me alone and in the conversation he admitted that even when he sits down with her to discuss the intricasies of the distribution, she does not seem to have a clue and just drifts off into her own little world. He and I agreed on some final details and then he asked her to sit in and told her what we felt would be an "equitable" solution and she agreed and I could tell she did not have a clue. Anyway, that was presented to judge - he accepted that and it was over. Her attorney did say that I was a worthy opponent and that I had handled myself very well in the court room. Yes I did get to do some cross-examinations - the only mistake I made according to the judge was that I initially stood between he ( the judge) and the witness. He asked me to stand to one side or the other. He likes to see their eyes and body language evidently!
Anyway, it is hopefully over and I can move on with my life.
Virginia, SilverLady (as if you had not already guessed those of you who even care!) and my sisters here on the forum.
Love you all!
Virginia
So here's to you Virginia 
