Hi Girls:
http://www.missfiorella.com/t-girl.htm
This link will take you to a web page that supports a book, written in three chapters, by a post-op TS Woman. The language can be sharp, and her point of view, like a bucket of ice water in the face, but.... she has something to say that as I read it ( page 80 of 130 pages) I found myself bound to post it here.
We often seek out books and ideas that favor our point of view. It is one way to reinforce in our own mind, that we are right or that we are okay, you choose. I seek out different points of view so that I can really have a learning experience worth reading and talking about.
This is just such a book and a point of view by someone that has lived the life in "real time," that's 24/7 - 365 as people are fond of saying these days. So, if you have ever considered making things permanent, read this before you take the plunge. It is one person's opinion and experience and her "truth," of course. But, she is in my opinion, very "real" about her experience. Very real about what she calls "her truth" as I see it.
Hugs
Danielle Marie
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a TS point of view
I’ve known many people who have gone down the road of transition in their search for self discovery, some have had a very happy outcome, some have not been quite so successful and a lesser percentage has been quite disastrous.
As a TS, my motto is to hurry slowly because I’ve seen over the years where people have been caught up in the euphoria of it all and rushed headlong into it to get to their destination, only to find that it wasn’t what they really were searching for at all, and their lives then became something else, and not for the better either.
I doubt whether the destination is so important as some people would have us believe. The quickest route to a destination is not always the most productive, there are many twists and turns along the way, albeit they vary for each and everyone of us. I do believe it’s necessary to enjoy the phases along the way and make sure each one is exactly fitting what we’re searching for before moving on to the next phase, when it’s all said and done, we don’t want to move out of one pretence into another.
It’s so important to be honest with ourselves about who we really are because there’s many aspects, features and facets which go to make up every person into their whole being, and whether we fit in as a true TS or CD or something inbetween, that's only a part of the whole person, and if we allow ourselves to be carried away in the euphoria of any one facet we can blind ourselves to the bigger picture and get carried away so that our clear thinking and judgment is effected to our detriment, and that of those around us.
We’ve all seen people who have devoted too much of their time to one part of their lives and they’ve paid a heavy price in the end and so have their families. We’ve probably all known of people who have devoted their lives to their work and taken their eye off the ball in regards to their family life and paid the price of losing someone they loved, and having all their lives turned upside down. This can typically happen with us too, and I’ve witnessed it happen to people who allowed themselves to get caught up in a new found part of their TG life and they didn’t pay enough attention to important people and other parts of their life, and it all ended in disaster for everyone concerned.
I realize there are those of us who ( for want of better words) just want to live a normal life in the gender of our preference, and this is ok, we all have dreams about pure happiness and ways of achieving it, but have we really gained anything if we deny the reality to get the dream, that can end in going from living one pretence to another. I know in my case, I’ve enjoyed every phase of the journey so far over the last six years, and right this minute everything is wonderful, but that last step is such a biggy and can be so life changing for everyone concerned, and there’s no going back once it’s taken, so it’s a case of, is what would be gained worth what may be lost by taking that step, and if one can’t emphatically say the risk is worth it from every angle, then it isn’t worth the gamble in my book. As I said before, I believe it’s not so much as our destination, it’s how we live our lives ( having regard to all our personal circumstances ) along the way which is important, afterall, no matter what we do in our lives, we’re all going to end up at the same destination eventually.
Kind Regards,
Sally.
As a TS, my motto is to hurry slowly because I’ve seen over the years where people have been caught up in the euphoria of it all and rushed headlong into it to get to their destination, only to find that it wasn’t what they really were searching for at all, and their lives then became something else, and not for the better either.
I doubt whether the destination is so important as some people would have us believe. The quickest route to a destination is not always the most productive, there are many twists and turns along the way, albeit they vary for each and everyone of us. I do believe it’s necessary to enjoy the phases along the way and make sure each one is exactly fitting what we’re searching for before moving on to the next phase, when it’s all said and done, we don’t want to move out of one pretence into another.
It’s so important to be honest with ourselves about who we really are because there’s many aspects, features and facets which go to make up every person into their whole being, and whether we fit in as a true TS or CD or something inbetween, that's only a part of the whole person, and if we allow ourselves to be carried away in the euphoria of any one facet we can blind ourselves to the bigger picture and get carried away so that our clear thinking and judgment is effected to our detriment, and that of those around us.
We’ve all seen people who have devoted too much of their time to one part of their lives and they’ve paid a heavy price in the end and so have their families. We’ve probably all known of people who have devoted their lives to their work and taken their eye off the ball in regards to their family life and paid the price of losing someone they loved, and having all their lives turned upside down. This can typically happen with us too, and I’ve witnessed it happen to people who allowed themselves to get caught up in a new found part of their TG life and they didn’t pay enough attention to important people and other parts of their life, and it all ended in disaster for everyone concerned.
I realize there are those of us who ( for want of better words) just want to live a normal life in the gender of our preference, and this is ok, we all have dreams about pure happiness and ways of achieving it, but have we really gained anything if we deny the reality to get the dream, that can end in going from living one pretence to another. I know in my case, I’ve enjoyed every phase of the journey so far over the last six years, and right this minute everything is wonderful, but that last step is such a biggy and can be so life changing for everyone concerned, and there’s no going back once it’s taken, so it’s a case of, is what would be gained worth what may be lost by taking that step, and if one can’t emphatically say the risk is worth it from every angle, then it isn’t worth the gamble in my book. As I said before, I believe it’s not so much as our destination, it’s how we live our lives ( having regard to all our personal circumstances ) along the way which is important, afterall, no matter what we do in our lives, we’re all going to end up at the same destination eventually.
Kind Regards,
Sally.
Watch nature, because it’s our greatest teacher, it moves and flows and moves on again. We can never be free until we disengage, so allow life to flow as you find it. The way it is, is the way it is.
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