"Borrowing" friends clothes

[Chrissie]

One aspect of my CD'ing has always been "borrowing" the intimates of friends and acquaintences. Especially with some of my GG friends, I find this irresistable. I would never so much as think of sharing their bath towell, but when it comes to lingerie....

Now, perhaps it's a little wierd...I feel very much like taking on the persona of my gg friend, a kind of appreciation or worship or just....deep sharing. I'm not so worried about the wierd part, because that's just in the mind...

...but sometimes I feel it's really an awful intrusion to secretly wear someone's lingerie, whether borrowed or just taken. I've had some gg friends give me theirs, and the same wonderful feeling comes when I wear them, without the guilt.

What are your experiences? How do you feel about it?

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

To me, trans-ness isn't really the issue here, it's taking other people's stuff without their knowledge or permission. After all, I imagine you'd be upset with your friends and aquaintances "borrowing" stuff of your's, especially of an intimate nature, yes? Since you've got friends who are willing to donate lingerie, I think it would be more considerate to stick to that.

[DonnaT]

...but sometimes I feel it's really an awful intrusion to secretly wear someone's lingerie, whether borrowed or just taken. I've had some gg friends give me theirs, and the same wonderful feeling comes when I wear them, without the guilt.

What are your experiences? How do you feel about it?

I would consider it an intrusion as well.

The only time I've borrowed and returned was when I was a paperboy. back in the 60s.

[Absaroka]

I would consider it stealing.

On the other hand you are blessed to havwe friends who will willingly loan or give you their clothes. You could probably talk with them about how you feel, taking on part of them and so on. I would think this would be a nice thing to be able to discuss. Enjoy.

Absaroka

[Chrissie]

I would consider it stealing.

You could probably talk with them about how you feel, taking on part of them and so on. I would think this would be a nice thing to be able to discuss. Enjoy.

Absaroka

gosh...I hardly know how to express it. It sounds like you know what I mean, though, Absaroka. Do you have similar experiences?

chrissie


...and, i'll try not to borrow anyone's things again...

[Ed Wood]

I think that with permission, this is ok...

Not that I have anybody who's given me permission! Nor have I asked before, either.

Curly has enough clothing for me to borrow, and she doesn't mind. We swap a lot!

I kinda get where you're coming from though!

Ed

[SilverLady(SO)]

Virginia and I regularly wear each other's clothes - we share the same size for skirts, slacks/jeans, and the like - as well as jewelry, makeup, and other accessories. Needless to say, our respective wardrobes have doubled! It makes us feel good knowing the other person is wearing something of ours, and brings us closer together as a couple.



- SL

[SharonRose]

My wife and I can share some of our clothes. She lent me her plumberry dress which I wore to the TGEA Formal last weekend.

Once when we were dating, she forgot to pack matching shoes to wear to work, so she borrowed a pair of mine.

For those who don't have an SO in the same size, there are always inexpensive places to buy foundation items, such as K-Mart, Target, etc.

[Absaroka]

Chrissie
I don't have a lot of experience with borrowing intimates. WHen I was younger my wifes clothes fit me pretty well and she liked to have me wear her tee shirts. Also she would wear mine and my flannel shirts. She still really likes to wear my socks. So I understand the whole wearing each others clothes thing. Somehow we never really got there with the intimates although she knows I enjoy having her wear sexy lingerie.

It never occured to me that borrowing intimates without permission was an intrusion till I started reading how women feel about this in the forum and other places. Once I knew however I had to aknowledge their feelings about it. And looking inward I can see in myself how taking someones panties and wearing them without permission could be an act of sexual aggression for me. Sort of like "accidentaly" bumping into someone or something.

On the other hand when in the past I borrowed my wifes panties I didn't feel aggression. So this is all pretty complicated.

Bottom line is if it's not yours don't take it.

Absaroka