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I'm new, so maybe this has been aked before-- but do you use a fem voice while dressed?

I do sometimes. I followed the process described by Melanie Phillips -- and it took some practice, but I do have a pretty convincing voice. Usually though I only use it when out of the house. It hasn't gotten to the point that I am extremely conformatble with it, and I prefer my "normal" voice at howm when talking with my wife -- much more control over how what I am saying is intnended (inflections and all that).

Just curious.

Virginia doesn't use a femme voice per se, but she does speak softer and more gently - and this is automatic because there is no hesitation when she speaks (as if to remind herself to speak softer).

Virginia does cross over into 'his' life - general speech and thought patterns, actions and mannerisms, hand gestures, and the like. However, when he is needed to handle a situation, she automatically steps aside and lets him do his thing. When she feels that she is needed in a situation, then she steps to the foreground.

Together, he and Virginia walk hand-in-hand on their Magical Mystery Tour - and I am holding their hands, as well.



- SL

Yes I do! I also use the Phillips method. I am told that I sound like a deep voiced woman and tht's good enough for me!

HI Missy,
Yes, the change in voice seems to come automatically with me, I don't know if someone I was speaking with but perhaps could not see me (for whatever reason) would know, but then again, I don't really care who knows. I do think it is great that you feel comfortable in "switching" voices as does Lisa.
I have tried to project Virginia sometimes when I (like a lot of you perhaps) get sales calls from teleamarketing people. It is a good place to practice and just see what kind of response you get, "sir" or mad'am?" and you know the old saying, "practice makes perfect!"
One example is going to the movie and when you are at the box office and tell them which movie you wish to see, I sort of do what I would call a half-whisper and it seems to work.
One other thing sort of in line with this - the mind usually sees and relates to what the eyes see. So if you are speaking and you are "enfemme" -TWO THINGS: Look them straight in the eye and SMILE GIRL SMILE!!! It will get you anywhere you want to go!
Love,
Virginia

No, but, like Virginia, I do seem to automatically shift to a softer voice.

Interesting! I am relatively soft spoken by nature so a softer voice when I'm enfemme comes naturally. Even so, we shouldn't fool ourselves that they haven't already figuered us out before we open our mouth, but as Virginia says, you can get away with it more often than not, especially if you're presenting an outward appearance conducive to where you are.

With regard to the phone voice, I have practiced a little in trying to project a more femme voice but 95% of the time, the 'thank you sir' at the end of the conversation proves my lack of success thusfar. However, practice makes progress and I was rewarded just recently when I ordered a pair of suede boots from a store over the phone. The gentleman said, yes my dear, we do have those in stock, so I'll keep them aside for you. I was dressed when I went to pick them up without any questions. Awesome boots by the way.

Stephanie

This is one of my greatest problems is that my voice, is very very masculine, and the only way, is that I speak softly, I just cannot get it to sound femine & it is the main reason that I do not try to live as a woman as I would appear very much a guy in drag and that is not what I want.

I've done some practice, but not consistently. But I naturally do soften my voice and try to take the ressonance out of it.

My natural voice often causes people to ask if I work in radio (it is masculine and projects naturally). When out as Angie, I just soften it and try to raise it in pitch a little - far from being a falsetto, though. Occasionally, my SO will order for me in restaurants, but most of the time I just let it fly. With my figure, I presume that the cards are already on the table, so to speak.

There are vocal coaches who work with transgendered people to achieve a "passable" voice. I looked into one here in North Carolina. It is a bit pricey ($110 / session). Until I have money flying out of my purse, I think I'll save my funds for Lane Bryant.

Take Care,
Angie

I tried the fem voice thing many times. I have had no luck at it. So I do not really change tone but I know the words I use and how I use them changes. Someday maybe I will have a fem voice.

Tiffy

I have not, as yet, TRIED to change pitch in voice,...
I know MAYBE I should hun.
and yes I have been lazy. my bad.

but once in awhile, I hear a voice...does that count?

tee hee giggle smirk wink wink

Not really..... and I go out a lot and shop a lot.... I just use my normal voice just quieter... not trying to be higher or fake a voice.... When ever I tried my female voice always came out lower than my male voice... Go figure!! lol

And i don't know if it has given me away because I really do look to see if people are reading me.... I don't care. Have the right to dress how I want.. And never really had any negative feedback...

Ok there was this boy at Wendys drive through.... hehe As I pulled away I could hear him yell "Roy, Roy, come look at this!!!" Probably ruined him for life!! hehe

Love Karren

Karren Hutton wrote: Ok there was this boy at Wendys drive through.... hehe As I pulled away I could hear him yell "Roy, Roy, come look at this!!!" Probably ruined him for life!!

I've been fortunate enough to have quite a broad range in pitch and inflection. My natural range is unmistakably masculine, but with little effort I can raise it enough to compliment my appearance. I've no doubt up close I'm easily read, but I try to make it as difficult as possible (just to keep 'em guessing!) The down-side is when I'm out, it's usually with a friend or two and when I'm comfortable talking to someone, the natural male-ness seeps in. I have to concentrate to keep from being a baritone in a skirt.

Hugs,
K

I think about Carol Channing and Lauren Bacall - those smokey, sexy low voices!! Missy can achieve something very close to that and she does alter her male voice, even at home, although she's not fully conscious of it. I have a low voice normally and a very hearty, infectious laugh so when we're out if I can her laughing and get her to relax her en femme voice is very good. I think she sometimes gets nervous on her own and my only complaint is that she is "breathy"! She'll do just fine with more practice.

Love,
Stormy

Hi Girls:

I read not long ago that there is only a 2 octave difference between most men and woman voices. I worked for years in radio communications and often was able to get voice samples that I would stack and compare on some rather sophisticated equipment. Many times it was clear that the two octave reference was true. At other times, it was more like 3 as a worst case difference. Sound frequency (khz - thousands of cycles per second) is one thing, inflection is where men and women vary as taught in the "Philips" method no doubt.

I agree with anyone that says it takes practice. I practice on my cats. All they do is meow back at me but then, they also hug on me and so that in itself is a great reward! Since they recognize by smell mainly, I guess they just feel comfortable with whatever I am wearing.

Off the track again Danielle!

I like to wander.....

Hugs

Danielle Marie
"Daniel's biological female twin".....