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I know this has been disscused here before but search didn't answer my questions. For those of us near/ at (gasp) middel age; Do the urges get stronger about now? Do you find yourself complementing women more on thier cloths, hair whatever ?
My urges are getting very hard to resist( bad timing for me ) . I say things to women I meet that sound odd to me when I think about it later.
Anyone else see this happening to them?

No, doesn't seem so. My urges seem to be the same as when I was in my 20's.

The only time my urges get stronger is when I've been denied the opportunities to meet those urges.

YES!!!! and you --- well, me I become much more critical in critiquing GG's. Even on television, the news girls, weather girls, what they wear, how they sit, stand, hold there hands. In the malls or stores, I watch how they move, gesture, hold themselves. There is a world of difference between "the more mature" ladies and the teenagers (16 - 25) vs. 30 +. I love to see the air of sophistication and pride when a GG knows she looks good and is proud of herself. It is nice to watch. Around here they are few and far between however, you have to wade through a lot of "rednecks" to find those pearls. I can watch a well dressed, sophiscated, self-assured woman (with out her knowing it - hopefully) for as long as I can. It is (for us = CDers) like going to graduate school or in some very rare cases if you learn to incorporate her moves, attitudes, mannerisms and gestures into your own, getting your Doctorate in Crossdressing!!!!
And yes, I find myself complimenting GG's on some piece of jewelry or blouse or skirt if I truly think she looks good in it! Most will smile and say thank you. We need to learn to do that -- graciously of course, but with an air of "I know I look good and it does not surprise me that you noticed!" It is an ongoing education for a lot of us. Some of us are just born with "it" others have it "thrust upon" them, then others, well we have to work for every inch from installing make-up; to properly fitted clothing' to the walk, the gestures, the "moves," i.e., sitting, standing, entering or leaving a room, putting on and taking off our coats, properly handling our purses, getting in and out of our cars. Deane Doyle has a tape on getting in and out of cars, back seat and front. I sent her an Email that she really needs to do a tape on getting in and out of SUV's as I would venture to say a lot of us have them. I have an Expedition and I have developed what I think is a feminine egress and ingress and it seems to work. I like my mini-skirts and maintaining a feminine decorum is essential in an SUV.
Anyway, yes again as I get older and even more into who I am, I do look and learn and practice and I LOVE IT SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just Keepin the Faith,
Love,
Virginia

For me it took a quantum leap in strength right around age 50. Wether it was just age or the fact that there were multiple transitions in my life I don't know but I suspect the later.

As for it affecting how I relate to women, certainly I have a greater awareness of their clothing. I buy my wife more clothes now because I am more comfortable about the clothing, know more and so on. I perhaps notice different details than I used to.

I have perhaps become less judgemental about womens appearances. Coming here has helped me to be less judgmental about crossdressers and people who are "different' in terms of gender. And I have really tried hard to take an attitude that if I do not want to be judged about this then I have no business judging anyones else by their appearance. Although when it comes to teenagers with extreme punk or ghetto looks I still do.

Absaroka

Wow, I see I am not the only 50+ yo with the same feelings. I too went from small time dressing, undies, an occasional bra and nightie, to full dressing, wig and some attempts at makeup.

In once sense I am feeling it is now or never and the more I progress the more I find I absolutely love it. I guess this attitude is what is helping me to go into a store and buy something feminine. Previously I would be too embarrassed to do this. Now, although still embarrassed, my desire to continue is stronger than my embarrassment. Mostly, I just do it while blushing...

I do the same thing and after the initial shock they are usually very appreciative of my compliments.... And i wish i was middle age again..... sigh.... 55 seems on the downhill side of middle age lol

Karren

Well, Zippy turns 49 this July, and my TG urges have definitely been getting stronger. My desire to have my own breasts is getting stronger every week. My desire to be a woman is greater now than it was years ago. Maybe it's the gradual decline in our testosterone levels as we age. Whatever it is, I'm not fighting it. I choose to embrace it. Life's too short, as they say....

Hmmm....I'm 57. I've been dressing more now because I have the time and money to buy stuff. My children are out of the house, so I have more privacy. In my case I don't think it's age related, just a better situation. That tends to happen later in life.

I'm now 55 Y.O. and I feel like I've definitly stepped up my dressing over the last few years. It used to be just once in awhile but now it's almost everyday. I think it's because I'm more comfortable in my own skin now and more accepting of what used to scare me. Now I know I'm not alone in these feelings and that has helped me to be a lot less of a loner.
It seems to me that there are quite a few of us in that 50-55+ group that are just coming ino our own,so to speak. Is that when most of us wake up and smell the perfume?
Love,
Lisbeth

To tell the truth Carol Ann is way passed mid-life and working on her senior years, thank goodness for makeup. In my case the dressing becomes stronger and stronger everyday and during the day time I live as a women, I have to put it all away when the grand kids come home from school. WHY you ask?, does anyone of us understand the desire or want to dress?. Me and can not answer the age old question. Is it the cloths? yes, is it the makeup? yes, is it a pretty dress and heels? yes. I guess way down deep I wish I was a real women but don't want all the problems that go with it, so I am happy being me a crossdresser named Carol Ann.

OK Carol Ann -- off to the wood shed with you, honey!!!!!
"problems" what problems - just name one!!!! Well no, name 10 then name 10 that GM's have!
Then name 10 that "we" = CD'ers have?
Well I am off to shop for a unicorn to put on my boat! problem yes, but I have the great problem solver sitting right next to me!!! Love you, honey!
Virginia

As we women mature, (age), our testosterone levels decrease thus permitting our femine side to become more enhanced.
With the enhancement, the desire to be ourselves become stronger and we need to express ourselves more often.
This being the case with me and like others, not having children to manage, more disposable income, more time, I have had more freedom to be who I want to be more often and for longer periods of time.

After I turn 55, I found that my CDing has taken a turn, I hope for the best. I started going out en fem in the daylight. I have now meet other CDers, joined Tri-Ess, and wear fem items under my drab clothing all the time now. I have done more in the last few years than I have all the years previous. So I guess I have stepped up my dressing more. I do have more outfits now and wearing makeup more too.

In the past 5 or so years, I've noticed an increased desire to dress, though due to circumstances can't dress as much as I would like to. About 5 years ago, I finally accepted myself for who and what I am and decided to do the best I could to present myself as a woman when dressed. To that goal I've been studying GGs, reading up on makeup and style and fitting that to my age. Yes, I'm past 55 also.

I think that for me, the increased desire is at least partly due to a sense of having to make up for lost time. I only have so many years left to enjoy dressing. I wasted a lot of early years by not understanding or accepting what was. I purged a lot of outfits while struggling with it all. Now I want to take giant steps, but still need to think small so as to not totally turn my wife away. This forum has helped me understand that I wasn't the only one that felt that way.

I watch GGs at work and compare my style and makeup to help me improve. There are all different types out there; some with a good sense of style and others without. I've noticed that I seem to have more in common with GGs than I do with men.

Anyway, middle aged ain't that bad.

Love,

Alana

wellllllllllllll

being 50 plus,....I don't see my feelings any different than they were any time before,...just that, at my age,...who's gonna tell me no?

no. my feelings are no stronger than before. I just like being able to do as I please, with the confidence I can go where I want to, and buy what I want. and usually? I can make an excuse if I want to, and people believe me. not like being a teenybopper and have a salesgirl raise eyebrows.

ronnie