My daughter found out.

[Carla L]

Yesterday I was on the forum and left to go to the gym. My daughter, who was home, always uses my spare computer but this time, the time I left a thread on after just posting, with my picture of course... I had been meaning to change my password, since it is the same as the spare one, but i didn't.

My 18yo read my thread, then searched members, found my pictures, then went into my closet, opened the bin where I keep my forms and shoes, must have taken them out because the boxes were put back in backwards. She also found my wig, also in a separate 'bin'.

She wrote me a letter and left it on my machine. She then left for a overnight trip to her girl friends. It was a planned trip, but I did not get the chance to talk to her before she left. I was at the gym and she left me a voice mail. Not bad though, and very supportive.

The jest of the letter was at first total shock, then relief, then support, then simply loving the idea! She can't wait to see me dressed. I didn't want this to go that far so last night I told my wife about the letter. My wife has not seen me dressed and I don't think she would take it kindly if I dressed for my daughter.

It will be Monday before I get the chance to talk to my daughter.
just a few cuts from the letter:

. I love my dad, and that means I love him no matter how he chooses to dress or act or think. You mean the world to me dad.

and this:

the fact that you like clothing is AMAZING too! If you haven’t noticed, I love them just as much as you do! I hope I the future we can get comfortable enough that maybe we can shop together

I have a beautiful daughter and in a strange way I am happy she found out. She is the only one of my children I think would totally support me like this.

[DonnaT]

Yes, she sounds amazing. Good to hear she took it so well.

[Virginia]

Robyn,
I guess congratulations are in order for raising a fine young lady! You can be proud of your daughter. Just remember our motto, "Baby steps, honey baby steps!" that holds true not only for your SO but family members as well. When she gets back, I would let her bring it up. If - IF you can't restrain yourself, just thank her for the nice letter and that you are oh, so proud to have such a wonderful daughter!!! and that can be easily said because I know you are proud of her!!!!

As for having her meet Robyn, you know best how to approach that! Does she dress nicely or is she "fad crazed?" You should ask her if she would be willing to help you with your presentation and heck, invite her to join the forum and participate. We would love to hear from her on how her feelings are about this, as I am sure you would as well!!! Her input could help others here get a feel for what they may have to deal with! SL and I, and I know others here, feel that if we can help just one person get a handle on this "gift" and make their "Magical Mystery Tour" fun and successful then we will have done something nice!

Please keep us posted as this develops! Sounds like you really have raised a great young lady!

Love,
Virginia

[Carla L]

You can be proud of your daughter. Just remember our motto, "Baby steps, honey baby steps!" ...
thank her for the nice letter and that you are oh, so proud to have such a wonderful daughter!!

I am so very proud and happy to get her support. I am beaming on this, it is like a dream come true, to be accepted by someone in my family outside of my wife.

I will wait for her to bring it up again. I called her after reading the letter, told her I am okay and would talk to her once she gets home.

As for having her meet Robyn, you know best how to approach that!

I talked to my wife about this, she thought it best not to, but I don't think she understands how my daughter accepted me on this. I can't explain how deeply I want to be able to dress up with someone, to feel accepted.

Does she dress nicely or is she "fad crazed?"

She dresses very nicely, her style is fit for her age. She always looks beautiful.

I will talk with her and maybe make the suggestion to join the forum. I'd love to hear her thoughts. I am looking forward to this journey.

if we can help just one person get a handle on this "gift"

Your wisdom and support has been outstanding for me. I would not be where I am right now without your support and the support of this forum. It has been a blessing.

[Curly(SO)]

Lovely to hear your daughter has been so understanding and accepting, Robyn!

Our daughter, who is nearly seventeen now, has known about Ed's CDing for nearly two years, (he is her step-dad) she was totally cool about it too. Ed told her as he thought she'd guessed (though she hadn't a clue!)

Ed wears blouses and sweaters in front of her but is not comfortable with her seeing him fully dressed and made up, though I don't think it would be a problem for her.

My daughter joined the forum and posted a couple of times. Reading some of the posts helped her to understand a bit about CDing. They have borrowed each other's nail polishes and happily chat about clothes. They haven't had any really deep conversations about CDing. Maybe that is not all that appropriate, as it can involve stuff your kids don't really want to know about! Probably best to your daughter lead you with how much she wants to know. That has worked for us.

You must be very proud!

Love,
Curly.

[Carol Ann]

Robyn,
I do believe I told you in another post one day you would get caught and then the fun begins.

In your case it seem as all is well, my daughter of 40+ knows but has never said a thing to me. If she would ask I would do it for her.

Yes being out means you don't have to hide anymore and you can just be you. Have fun my friend

[Gwen]

My daughter has known since she was 8 y/o. She is now 29, married and expecting her first. Not in an incestuous way, but through a loving friendship.

I'll be back with more probably.

This message has caused me considerable relief and, yes, anxiety. I do hope it turns out well.

Gwen

[Kerri]

You sound like your on Cloud 9 Robyn.
But as they say in my area "Cah Canny"!

Your SO has a hard enough time to accept you.
Now that your daughter knows, your SO might not be so keen for you to be seen by your daughter, and it could make her more negative.

As our friends in Virginia say, take baby steps, i might suggest you make them even smaller.

take care

Kerri

[Kimberly Kael]

Your SO has a hard enough time to accept you.
Now that your daughter knows, your SO might not be so keen for you to be seen by your daughter, and it could make her more negative.

It's also possible that a part of her SO's concern stems from worrying that "someone else might find out." If her worst fears aren't realized and it turns out that her daughter sees Robyn in a positive light after learning about her CDing, that might relax some of the burden and allow her SO to see things in a different light.

Of course it could certainly go either way. Taking it slowly is definitely good advice regardless - let everyone else involved set a pace they are comfortable with.

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

Glad to hear your daughter is so supportive. She's a credit to her parents.

[Carla L]

I am really nervous about this right now. My daughter has already spoken to my son. I don't know how much she told him, but I have two other daughters, one who's husband really freaked out when he saw my earings. Not good.

My wife has made some negative remarks, such as how ugly a woman I must make and not being really accepting of all this lately. I really thought the idea of her telling me it was okay to wear my forms to bed with her was a great step forward. I'm not so sure.

She has also made a comment regarding my daughter knowing and mentioned her NOT meeting Robyn.

Strange things though, this morning she asked me how I get my legs so smooth. I feel half accepted and a bit confused.

I still haven't had time to really talk to my daughter. Soon though.

[Carla L]

Kerri

i might suggest you make them even smaller.

I think this is so right. I wonder if this is all happening too fast for me.
I don't want my life to go out of control.

[Kerri]

Robyn,

Some might describe me as a kill-joy.
But I really want things to work out for you.

Cah Canny! Your SO sounds like she is trying hard. She probably sees two sides to all this. One part is probably trying to make the best of it for your sake; the other side objects.

I understand how you must be confused by your wifes approval of your wearing your forms to bed. I would have interpreted it as approval too.

Your daughter at the moment is a "loose cannon". My daughter did the same thing, she told all and sundry before I managed to talk to her and asked her to stop.

You cannot turn back the clock! You are going to have to make a good job of this. Think carefully about what you say or do.

I really wish you the very best of luck!

hugs

Kerri

[Carla L]

Kerri,

Thank you so much. I did have a short talk with her, expressing the concern I had with this and the loose canon. She appears to understand and told me the reason she spoke to my son.

A long while ago, when my son was going through a really tough time, I told him about my secret and swore to him to never tell anyone. He didn't, will until recently my daughter found out. She was really angry and knew he knew something, but not what it was.

Anyhow, after some prodding of her own and telling him enough, they finally talked about it. Both are okay with it. My son knows very little, just that I do dress up, my daughter knows as much as anyone on this website does. She has seen my posts.

I think she may even join the forum. I trust her after our talk.

[Stephanie W]

Hi Robin

Well, there's no turning back now so roll with it and hold on tight!. Whatever will be will be. I would personally try not to look too far ahead just yet and wait until you've had the chance for a long heart to heart with your daughter first before making any plans or decisions. Certainly keep any discussions with your wife to a minimum regarding your obvious 'euphoria' at what may lie ahead. Hopefully nothing but great things, but don't get carried away.

Your wife might see your daughter's apparent acceptance as putting her in a weaker position if she is quietly struggling with this in spite of her occasional outward "support". She might well be. Stay supportive of your wife's sensitivities and don't do anything that might rub her the wrong way - at least until you've had that talk with your daughter. I'm sure your daughter and her Mom will have words themselves, but hopefully from that will come an understanding which will make for a more supportive family environment. Once you have that, THEN the fun can really begin. Good luck.

Stephanie