I told my mom.....

Miss Emma · Post by **Miss Emma** » Wed Dec 12, 2007 4:24 pm

It appeared to go well. She said that she's cool with it, and she will always love me, accept me, ect.
I'm just not sure what is going to happen from here out. This is all brand new territory for me. Someone in the house finally knows about my secret...it is really nice to get it off my chest to my mom, but I am worried that it might make things akward...So far so good, however...If anything happens, I'l keep you all posted.

Post by **DonnaT** » Wed Dec 12, 2007 6:11 pm

That's great, Emma.

Just keep the lines of communication open with your mother. Got a question, ask her.

Trust is a two way street.

It may take some time to get comfortable with these new issues, but they need to be out in the open, or one will never get comfortable.

Lucy Michelle · Post by **Lucy Michelle** » Fri Dec 14, 2007 10:04 pm

Congrats and here's to the future.

Penni SO · Post by **Penni SO** » Sat Dec 15, 2007 12:30 am

Hi ya Emma,

Well done on telling mum...it is a very big step you took,each day is a new day now..if mum say's she's cool with it,then she is.Just keep the channels open for further communication.

Hugs Penny
www.chameleonswa.com.

Azurielle · Post by **Azurielle** » Wed Jan 02, 2008 8:29 pm

I also cam eout to my parents a short while ago. They also gave me the whole, we accept you no matter what speech. Nevertheless, their entire generation seems to be under the delusionnal impression that we are nothing but drag queens / attention-seeking nuts and merely put it aside as a PHASE. So my advice to you is, make sure she understands your current condition wholeheartedly and don't assume anything. Or else you might just find your new ''partner in crime'' putting steel bars in your wheels, like mine did/do.

Ann Stef · Post by **Ann Stef** » Fri Nov 14, 2008 7:45 pm

check with others in the family, sisters may accept, borthers a little, but fathewrs not to well. apporoach slowly, wish you well

Stephanie H · Post by **Stephanie H** » Tue Dec 16, 2008 7:38 pm

Moms for some reason can handle most issues when confronted with them in a one to one relationship. Be sure to keep others out of the discussions that you and your mom have until she is very comfortable with it. Having private conversations with others in the family is also important, but one on one until each is comfortable with you.

Erin L · Post by **Erin L** » Tue Dec 16, 2008 11:09 pm

Just curious, Emma...how old are you? And how old is your Mom?

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Tue Dec 16, 2008 11:26 pm

^ Emma is still in her teens . . . not sure about her mom's age, though.

- SL

Erin L · Post by **Erin L** » Wed Dec 17, 2008 12:01 am

Lucky girl. Acceptance just when she needs it the most.

Azurielle · Post by **Azurielle** » Wed Dec 17, 2008 9:11 pm

Getting your parents to know and not having an immediately negative awnser is the dream of every girl here.

You are lucky, so enjoy it and indulge yourself in your newfound freedoms!

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 12:17 pm

Azurielle wrote:Getting your parents to know and not having an immediately negative awnser is the dream of every girl here.

I'm lucky in the fact that my mother didn't go all negative on me when I told her either. She's actually called me 'the daughter she always wanted', jokingly, of course, but it still makes me feel good that she'd think that way.

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Fri Dec 19, 2008 8:26 am

Emma,
I came out to my mother at 14 and I guess it took her about a month before it really sank in, She gave me a huge hug and a happy smile like most but I was warn it would have be be kept a secret. I would say it was about 3 or 4 months before she began to take Carol out shopping with her to the grocery or what ever as I believe she became comfortable with me. I haven't look back since.

Miss Emma · Post by **Miss Emma** » Sat Dec 20, 2008 5:39 pm

I was sixteen when I told my mother, but I am now seventeen. Can't wait for the big 1-8. Anywho, my mother is a very transient character in the story of my life, so I live with only a brother and my father. My dad, is the polar opposite of my mom. He found out I was transgender, and since that day, (which was last year) I have been carefully scrutinized for signs of my "abnormality." He is a very traditional type of guy. So poor me has no freedom to speak of in the way of crossdressing. However, my mom's side of the family is all really cool with it. Both of my sisters have wanted to take me shopping, but I refused on the grounds that after a lifetime of keeping that side of me a secret, it was still rather embarrassing to me. I plan on exploring that side in college this fall, hundreds of miles away from anyone I know.

On a positive note, right before summer, I rocked my tiny high school (I have about 30 kids in my class) with the news of my transgender nature. And surprisingly, everyone was cool with it. I haven't had one mean thing said to me. It is all very nice. If only I could dress the part.

Stephanie H · Post by **Stephanie H** » Sat Dec 20, 2008 9:34 pm

Both of my sisters have wanted to take me shopping

Emma: Sisters can be and will be your greatest asset. The are giving/helpful. They will most likely after a few outings, even in not dressed at first, make you feel comfortable in your "new suroundings' They will be able to guide you and show you and give you the confidence that you need to survive on your jouney. Take them up on it. It will work out in your favor.