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This is prolly going to be a long post so grab some popcorn and a drink and getting ready to read. Not sure if I'm posting in the right spot either, but anyways....

I'll first say that I don't remember how I got started into dressing or when it all started. I believe I was young when I thought about it. I have had so many different conclusions to why I like to dress, that I convince myself it’s the reason until a new reason comes up. I would say that I did live with my mother and grandma up until I was 6 or 7, when my mother remarried. I remember a couple of times putting on my grandma's swimsuit, but that is all I can really remember wearing. I don't remember ever having my mother or grandma dress me. I didn't have any older or younger sisters either, which always wished I had an older sister.

Growing up I would usually go through my mother's drawer, my aunt's drawer. I usually ended up with me wearing a bra, and panties and looking at myself in the mirror, wondering if I put in the right body.

I hadn't been in relationship until I was 15, currently 19, I dated her for 1 yr 3months, we are still really good friends, we both a lot about each other, I would say she knows the most about me out of all my friends. I joined the Air Force hoping that would get rid of home problems, it did, but now I'm away from her and my friends, (In Germany Currently). When you are a long ways from home, you realize you really miss your friends.

While we were dating I told her about my past, she really didn't think much about it, and I was really into dressing at the time. About 2 or 3 months ago I brought up it to her that I bought some panties online. She was curious at first but at the same time weirded out I guess you could say.

I had just received the panties in the mail this past weekend, and I told her about em. She had some questions, how do they feel, they fit, and well they don't really didn't look into the sizing when I bought them. Well the next day she asked me if I still had them on, and I said yes. She said asked me why. I told her, that they were comfy. I then asked her to tell me truthfully how she feels about me wearing panties.

She told me she is kind of weirded out, and couldn't see us getting back together knowing that I was wearing panties. We have talked about getting back together a few times, but its hard in all, she currently has a bf, and well I'm in Germany.

I told her that I would get rid of the panties right away, showing that how badly I want to get back with her. She replied, but you're just throwing your money away. I told her it is not big deal to me.

The thing is, I just was starting to think about getting an outfit together, just bought some more panties and a bra online, which she doesn't know about, but I really love this girl, we are so perfect for each other, and she is pry the only person that I can see being with.

I know this shouldn't be a hard to pick, but it is. I could tell her that I threw em' away, but keep em for the time I'm here, less than 2yrs left, but I'm really trying to be honest and not lie to her.

BLAH, so that was my life summed up in a couple of paragraphs, and my current stressing out situation.

I'm just looking for another person's point of view on this. If you need more info just ask.

Miss Robyn

Ya gotta always be open from the start, even if this means that you might lose your girl. The urge to dress won't go away and if you keep it from her in the begining it will only get worse as time goes on. Read some old posts where older cds have such a tough time telling their wives of 20 or more years that they like to wear womens clothes,, can be rough for both partners.

There are plenty of fish in the sea.

If you try to suppress your inner self for the sake of another person, you *will* regret it. A good relationship cannot be built on dishonesty and disrespect. If you deny your desires, just for the sake of being with one person, you are being dishonest and disrespectful to yourself (and no less to the one you claim to love). Thus your relationship is crippled from the get go. I'm sure there are plenty of ladies here who can tell you, first hand, where that kind of thing leads to in the long run.

If this girl is really the one for you, you can discuss the matter and in the end she will understand and accept you for all that you are. If not, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Who knows, you might just meet a kinky German girl who's into that kind of thing

I went through a whole lot of years without having a wife or girlfriend that accepted me for who I was, I had pretty much given up on ever finding one. And then I met a lady and we started going out, eventually getting married (just celebrated 8 years of marriage), I shared my "crossdressing secrets" with her and she was sort of OK with it, as time has gone on she has become completely accepting and supportive. Though I rarely go out en femme (except to a cd group once in a while), she is fine with me/us going out, I'm also free to dress however I like at home. I feel very blessed to have found this loving, accepting woman, it just goes to show that there are some out there, you just have to keep looking for them.
DeniseD

My best advice is you made a good move. There are many women out there that will not be repelled by you desire even tho they may not be thrilled with the idea. Be honest with them in the first 6 months of your relationship and it may result in a wonderful life

The best thing now is that she knows, and you were honest with her about it. The next step is up to her. Be patient, and make sure she knows that you still love her. But be ready if she cannot accept this part of you hon, but also rejoice if she has a change of heart on the matter.

Terrilynn

Hi Robyn
I would say most women are weirded out when they first learn of their mans dressing.I am sure she has done a bit research since she found out.
So depending on what she's read she might be more at ease or you may have some fears to allay.
The great thing is you have comunicated from the start so ,whatever happens ,she will always respect you .
As others have said the dressing never goes away it can subside for a while, your openess is the only way.
Good luck and I hope she sees what a honest person you obviously are.

Take care Lilly M.

Well just to update anyone who remembers this post, well like I said we aren't together, I'm just trying to get back with her, but she is currently with someone, hopefully when I come back to the states more can come of our relationship.

But all she knows is that I was going to throw em away, which I did, but I just ended up buying more recently, pry won't tell her bout it, I'm trying to slowly bring her back to me, and not push her back. I mean if we did get back together I'm sure I could try and slowly bring cding back if need be, but for now, I will wear and buy or take from the dorm laundry room. And if she does bring it up I'll be sure to update this post on what was said.

Miss Robyn