I've never felt like this...
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Beautiful_Gal
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I've never felt like this...
It was a normal day, and I felt like "being" a woman. So I put on my favorite denim skirt, a white blouse, a bra with cotton, high heels and pantyhose. And my wig. When I put it on, I felt great. Better than usual. I felt, like, really sexual. I felt like I wanted to go out and strip in front of boys. I started to feel myself, like I was an exotic dancer. I felt weird, and I don't like boys, but I felt like I did at the time. I felt like going out and making out with a boy. Is this normal? Will I feel this a lot?
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RikkiOfLA
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Dear Beautiful Gal,
You might be going through what most CDs call the "bi-curious" phase.
It works this way...
1. When we dress, we have complete artistic control. We can dress just the way we feel. We see a pretty girl, we can copy her outfit. We then suffer a bit of "transference" and begin to see ourselves as pretty as she was. Maybe we really are, or aren't. Doesn't matter actually.
2. We begin to wonder if others would find us equally attractive. Perhaps we receive a little encouragement, such as a wolf whistle. And we like it! IT IS VERY GRATIFYING TO THE EGO!
3. And we began to realize that an adoring man can really make a woman feel like a woman! Maybe we've done that to a woman ourselves--holding the doors, pulling out the chair, the compliments, the corsage, etc. etc. Treating her like a lady. Hey, we'd love to receive that treatment ourselves. Who wouldn't?
4. So we begin to fantasize. An audience of appreciative men, or the BIG DATE, or being in a show etc. And what would sex with an adoring man be like? How about being the perfect wife, from fixing breakfast to greeting hubby returning from work with a martini etc.
Now the fantasies are fun (and very distracting). BUT ARE YOU REALLY BI? I don't know. Have no way of knowing. Only you can really know. The fantasies won't tell you. So how do you find out?
1. You could always try it and find out.
2. Or you could let the fantasies die their natural slow death. It may take up to a couple of years to let your mind run ALL the fantasies you can think of, and then relax for a while. It's going to be a hot and bothered time, for sure. But by the end, you'll know. For sure.
Either way, you'll find your inhibitions about this kind of thing are gone. You'll learn to make moral decisions not based on fear but on love (for your spouse if you have one, and love for yourself in any case). You'll get over your own homophobia if you have any (because until you do, that bi-curious phase will haunt you forever!)
You'll also discover early in the process that you have to re-learn (all over again) the rules for appropriate behavior and dress. You're learning them as a woman this time. That's what Beauty was hinting at.
By the way, the TG-friendly nightclubs are FULL of bi-curious crossdressers who never do get over their homophobia, and consequently never get out of their bi-curious phase. They never learn to dress and act responsibly either. Oh well.
Welcome to the roller coaster of life! Hold on tight!
You might be going through what most CDs call the "bi-curious" phase.
It works this way...
1. When we dress, we have complete artistic control. We can dress just the way we feel. We see a pretty girl, we can copy her outfit. We then suffer a bit of "transference" and begin to see ourselves as pretty as she was. Maybe we really are, or aren't. Doesn't matter actually.
2. We begin to wonder if others would find us equally attractive. Perhaps we receive a little encouragement, such as a wolf whistle. And we like it! IT IS VERY GRATIFYING TO THE EGO!
3. And we began to realize that an adoring man can really make a woman feel like a woman! Maybe we've done that to a woman ourselves--holding the doors, pulling out the chair, the compliments, the corsage, etc. etc. Treating her like a lady. Hey, we'd love to receive that treatment ourselves. Who wouldn't?
4. So we begin to fantasize. An audience of appreciative men, or the BIG DATE, or being in a show etc. And what would sex with an adoring man be like? How about being the perfect wife, from fixing breakfast to greeting hubby returning from work with a martini etc.
Now the fantasies are fun (and very distracting). BUT ARE YOU REALLY BI? I don't know. Have no way of knowing. Only you can really know. The fantasies won't tell you. So how do you find out?
1. You could always try it and find out.
2. Or you could let the fantasies die their natural slow death. It may take up to a couple of years to let your mind run ALL the fantasies you can think of, and then relax for a while. It's going to be a hot and bothered time, for sure. But by the end, you'll know. For sure.
Either way, you'll find your inhibitions about this kind of thing are gone. You'll learn to make moral decisions not based on fear but on love (for your spouse if you have one, and love for yourself in any case). You'll get over your own homophobia if you have any (because until you do, that bi-curious phase will haunt you forever!)
You'll also discover early in the process that you have to re-learn (all over again) the rules for appropriate behavior and dress. You're learning them as a woman this time. That's what Beauty was hinting at.
By the way, the TG-friendly nightclubs are FULL of bi-curious crossdressers who never do get over their homophobia, and consequently never get out of their bi-curious phase. They never learn to dress and act responsibly either. Oh well.
Welcome to the roller coaster of life! Hold on tight!
Love and respect,
Rikki
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RikkiOfLA
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Thank You!
Gee thanks, girls!
Wow, compliments from Christina!
And Beauty gives me the clap four times!
And I thought I must be krazy when I was writing that!
Well, it's really great to know I'm not, and it's great to have friends like you two to tell me so!
Thank you, girls!
Wow, compliments from Christina!
And Beauty gives me the clap four times!
And I thought I must be krazy when I was writing that!
Well, it's really great to know I'm not, and it's great to have friends like you two to tell me so!
Thank you, girls!
Love and respect,
Rikki
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Hi all,
Rikki,
Methinks you little realize how much respect and admiration I have for you, girl! Your celebration of diversity in a very open setting is the epitome of courage for me--something I, myself, still merely aspire to.
Love (and many hugs),
CJ
P.S.
I won't hesitate to add to this list Alexandra, Anita, and anyone else here who moves as "true self in society." Kudos to all of you! Of course, I also send flowers to all my sisters here (TG and GG alike) for walking on this road to self-knowledge and greater self-expression (yes, and this definitely includes you, Beautiful Gal!).
Rikki,
Methinks you little realize how much respect and admiration I have for you, girl! Your celebration of diversity in a very open setting is the epitome of courage for me--something I, myself, still merely aspire to.
Love (and many hugs),
CJ
P.S.
I won't hesitate to add to this list Alexandra, Anita, and anyone else here who moves as "true self in society." Kudos to all of you! Of course, I also send flowers to all my sisters here (TG and GG alike) for walking on this road to self-knowledge and greater self-expression (yes, and this definitely includes you, Beautiful Gal!).
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Beauty
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Re: Thank You!
You deserve that and ooooooh so much more!RikkiOfLA wrote:Gee thanks, girls!
Wow, compliments from Christina!
And Beauty gives me the clap four times!
And I thought I must be krazy when I was writing that!
Well, it's really great to know I'm not, and it's great to have friends like you two to tell me so!
Thank you, girls!
Thank you Rikki!!!!
Beauty
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Sally
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I've never felt like this.
Wow, Rikki, 
You are truly a wise and wonderful person. The quality and depth of information in your articles which I've been reading over the last few years just gets better and better. I would hazard a guess that directly and indirectly you have been of such benefit to so many.
Just as a little aside on bi-sexuality, it's my belief formed over many years of mixing in the TG community and the general community, that the percentage of bisexual people in the world is greater than that of either Gays or Heterosexuals. That's just IMHO, I know others would disagree, but I suppose we'll never be able to prove it one way or the other.
It was mentioned to me many years ago by a psyc that this was his belief, although he did add that although many people do have bi-sexual feelings and curiosities, the majority never explore them to the point of actual physical experience, especially females. I doubted his wisdom at the time, but have sinced changed my opinion.
My Kindest Regards.
Sally.
You are truly a wise and wonderful person. The quality and depth of information in your articles which I've been reading over the last few years just gets better and better. I would hazard a guess that directly and indirectly you have been of such benefit to so many.
Just as a little aside on bi-sexuality, it's my belief formed over many years of mixing in the TG community and the general community, that the percentage of bisexual people in the world is greater than that of either Gays or Heterosexuals. That's just IMHO, I know others would disagree, but I suppose we'll never be able to prove it one way or the other.
It was mentioned to me many years ago by a psyc that this was his belief, although he did add that although many people do have bi-sexual feelings and curiosities, the majority never explore them to the point of actual physical experience, especially females. I doubted his wisdom at the time, but have sinced changed my opinion.
My Kindest Regards.
Sally.
Watch nature, because it’s our greatest teacher, it moves and flows and moves on again. We can never be free until we disengage, so allow life to flow as you find it. The way it is, is the way it is.
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Hi beautiful gal,
Rikki said it best. There's nothing wrong with feeling like the woman. As long as you're dressing and acting the role, why not? Even after having dressed publicly for over 5 years myself, little things such as being called "miss" by a stranger still bring music to my ears! Enjoy.
Rikki said it best. There's nothing wrong with feeling like the woman. As long as you're dressing and acting the role, why not? Even after having dressed publicly for over 5 years myself, little things such as being called "miss" by a stranger still bring music to my ears! Enjoy.
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