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Coming out to suitemate

Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 4:00 pm
by Miss Robyn
Well me and my suitemate, don't share a room but we share a middle room, that connects the kitchen and bathroom. And we are pretty good friends, and not just roomate friends, but someone I'll pry keep in touch with.

Iono if its just the urge of getting this off my shoulders too him or just a sexual urge and hoping something happens.

I'm trying to get little details that I can from him, and I already got some like 20min ago, that he doesn't mind if people are gay, lesbian, people are just being themselves.

Iono if I rather have him catch me in the act of cding or something along those lines or me just talking to him straight up.

He is a good person, and I can trust him, but today iono why but I just so badly wanted to tell him bout the real me.

Iono, I'm open to people's suggestions and opinions. I'll keep ya updated and answer any questions.

Miss Robyn

Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 5:27 pm
by Carolynn
Do I understand correctly that you are in the military?

Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 5:33 pm
by Carolynn
OK, I just read your prior post. As long as you are in the military, keep your mouth shut and your head down. It's not a good place to be and be a CD. You may actually be able to trust your suite mate, but can you trust his drinking buddies when his IQ is superceded by his alcohol level and he blabs about you?

Put your thinking cap on, girl. Say nothing and stay smart until you can get out safely at the end of your hitch.

Love, Carolynn

Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 7:39 pm
by Carla L
Miss Robyn,

I concur with everything Carolynn says. Keep your mouth shut, you are only asking for misery if you don't. The military is not the place to share your secret.

Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 9:02 pm
by DonnaT
Not a good idea. It doesn't matter how good a friendship you have, coming out as a "transvestite" doesn't go over well with a lot of people, even those in love. And yes, even if you say transgendered or a crossdresser, he'll think transvestite.

Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 9:15 pm
by Virginia
As a former Naval Aviator, !!!yes!!!

Keep your head down and your mouth shut!

Virginia

Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 8:53 am
by Kandis
DON'T DO IT!..

As long as you BELONG to Uncle Sam. Do NOT say a word, unless you are ready for your life to become a living hell. Been there, Done that, courtesy of my first wife opening her mouth to my First Sergeant. That was a fun week... NOT.

military

Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 11:29 am
by Janet Bern
Keep you mouth shut. Dont ask dont tell is a good thing for us. You can tell all you want when you get out of the service.

Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 10:07 pm
by Miss Robyn
I'm gonna have to say you gals go with no..

Iono, maybe its just that I want someone I know close to me to know, and he's my suitemate so he is the nearest person I trust. Yeah It's def not the greatest idea I've had, more caught up in the moment than thinkikng. I know of the trouble I can get and all. This feeling will hopefully pass soon

Thank you all for putting your foot or heels, down on this one.
Miss Robyn

Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 10:34 pm
by ChristineK
As a 11 year VET I agree with above.

This may be your friend but his first duty is to god and country.

That said he is obligated to out you, that means keeping your secret is against his duty.

Until you get a honorable discharge tell no one!!!!

Do not ask do not tel!

Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 7:36 am
by DeeDee
As a veteran, I agree with everything others have said....suppress any other than "ordinary" desires til you get out of the military. The last thing you need is a less than Honorary discharge since that will affect future benefits AND job applications. Don't let emotion now affect your long future life. Plenty of time for safe discovery later. Good luck to you!!!!
DeeDee

Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 12:58 pm
by Miss Robyn
Just to update you all, I haven't said anything to my suitemate. It is hard having a suitemate, while dressing. I usually wear panties under some of my gym shorts, bra sometimes at night while I sleep. But having that I have two computers I usually have em both up with Flickr, with my photos, and then my other computer with this forum up. So when he knocks on my door, I'm quick to exit out of both sites and make sure, no clothing is left out.
He works night the 12hr night shift so when I get home from work he is usually here for an hour and then he leaves, and thats when I usually go on this site and put some panties and maybe a bra on. But he likes to show up once a night at random times for a 1hr or so break or to grab something from his room. Usually scaring the crap out of me and me quickly getting things together.

I haven't been caught yet or been close to being caught, I did leave some panties out one morning after wearing em and forgot to hide me and i just up em under one of my shirts on my bed, then when coming home from work one of my co-workers and his wife came to my room. Me being scared that the panties were in the open I quickly threw off my blouse on my bed adding coverage to the spot.

I know many of you are concerned of me getting caught, and I thank you for your concern. I am a very very, cautionous person, sometimes paranoid comes in to play. I usually plan ahead so nothing can be found.


Miss Robyn

Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 2:35 pm
by Carla L
I know many of you are concerned of me getting caught
I'm sorry, but I spent 10 years in the military and I think, as careful as you think you are, it is only a matter of time. I wish you luck, but I used to pull surprise inspections and just enter my troop's room at random to keep them on their toes.

Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 3:03 pm
by Kandis
Robyn,

Do yourself a favor. FIND SOMEPLACE OFF BASE TO DRESS. Seriously, dressing in the barracks is not a wise thing to do. Believe me, I speak from experience here. The odds of getting caught are too great and the penalties for said capture are way too great.

suck it up

Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 5:35 pm
by Janet Bern
I was in for 4 yrs and would highly recommend you dont do this where you can get caught. Put it off till you are on leave and dress all you want