I'm not sure if anyone can help me with this. but erm is it weird that i have an urge to buy men's underwear and actually stuff them?
will this look weird if my look and body shape is not really one that passes as male its really just apparant crossdressy androgynous but I'm still obviously a woman and i'm cool with that. but then will it look bad if i stuff my pants to give that desired erm male genitaled look sometimes.
I mean maybe they won't notice and it'd be just for me to know and feel more powerful etc but then would i be slightly dissapointed that they didn't notice.....possibly but will it look silly?
basically is this a good idea or really stupid what do you think?
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DanteCarrie (FTM)
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Most men avoid looking at each other's crotch as it could be construed as a come on. Unless they want to give a come on of course. So straight men will not notice. In fact we will go out of our way not to notice.
If you stuff enough to become noticable there is always the chance it will be misconstrued as a partial erection, something we usually try to avoid having noticed.
If you want to try it go ahead and enjoy your self. However if you are wanting to pass for male you would do better to observe male body language and mannerisms and try to imitate those.
This is similar to the dilemma FTM people feel using the urinal. They don't realize that we avoid watching each other.......
It's very nice to have a FTM crossdresser here. It doesn't happen very often. Ask all the questions you want.
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If you stuff enough to become noticable there is always the chance it will be misconstrued as a partial erection, something we usually try to avoid having noticed.
If you want to try it go ahead and enjoy your self. However if you are wanting to pass for male you would do better to observe male body language and mannerisms and try to imitate those.
This is similar to the dilemma FTM people feel using the urinal. They don't realize that we avoid watching each other.......
It's very nice to have a FTM crossdresser here. It doesn't happen very often. Ask all the questions you want.
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Hi. A Packer might be of use to you. Made of a soft latex, they come in two forms, one that claims to allow one to urinate in the men's room at a urinal and "attaches", and other varieties that only provide the proper appearance in the pants. Most of the latter have special garments like a sort of Jock strap that holds the prosthesis. Most preop F2M TS folks use some of these until surgery at least, and some afterwards as the surgical results for F2Ms are not as functional as the surgeries for M2Fs and do not provide a satisfactory "bulge".
Laura's playground is a TG site with forums that include F2M TGs, both crossdressing and TS, and you could likely get help there. Just type in Laura's Playground to get to the registration page, and then proceed to the F2M forums and ask about sources. There are numerous resources there for lots of folks.
Susan's Place at
http://www.susans.org/Female-to-Male/FT ... /7632.html
lists the following attachable type.
"Name: DJ's Dicks
Description: DJ's sells stand to pee packers, two devices in one. The device is made to look like a real penis and can be used to pack, as well as to pee. Special orders can be made, but overall the items are affordable and great quality."
There is also a man who makes non-peeing packers that are quite realistic in appearance and touch in Oklahoma City. I do not have his address nor web site, but can get it for you if you are interested.
Carolynn
Laura's playground is a TG site with forums that include F2M TGs, both crossdressing and TS, and you could likely get help there. Just type in Laura's Playground to get to the registration page, and then proceed to the F2M forums and ask about sources. There are numerous resources there for lots of folks.
Susan's Place at
http://www.susans.org/Female-to-Male/FT ... /7632.html
lists the following attachable type.
"Name: DJ's Dicks
Description: DJ's sells stand to pee packers, two devices in one. The device is made to look like a real penis and can be used to pack, as well as to pee. Special orders can be made, but overall the items are affordable and great quality."
There is also a man who makes non-peeing packers that are quite realistic in appearance and touch in Oklahoma City. I do not have his address nor web site, but can get it for you if you are interested.
Carolynn
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Re: stuffing
Many things are weird to someone else, and not weird to others.DanteCarrie wrote:I'm not sure if anyone can help me with this. but erm is it weird that i have an urge to buy men's underwear and actually stuff them?
basically is this a good idea or really stupid what do you think?
If you feel comfortable with yourself, then don't worry about looking weird to others.
I probably would have never ventured out enfemme if I worried about how weird I looked.
It's a good idea, if it satisfies a need you have. Stupid if you are just going to be embarrassed about it.
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hmmm no i don't think I'm going to get some latex attachment that seems too extreme I have no reason to think I will realistically pass as male and I'm happy looking female at times too. I do try hard to copy male mannerisms to a degree all ready.
and since I'm not transexual I don't think doing too much extensive stuff is necessary.
I've tried laura's playground when i was younger and more confused and hated it everyone was so opinionated they said i should leave my partner because he wouldn't want me to be full on trying to pass for male, sex changes etc even though i didn't want a sex change and couldn't pass for male anyway and alot of the time don't mind wearing dresses for him in private. hes a very open guy and I would never leave which pissed them off. jerks.
anyway i won't pass as male I'm too small there is no point. If was going to genually look male I'd want to look like a gorgeous man not a little boy and that won't happen so fair enough. I just don't like being seen as femme but also have this strong envy of male genitalia. that is the only way in which i truly think my body is even slightly mismatched with my mind but only slightly.
just want to know if people that stuffing my pants is a good idea and how to do it without it looking daft or like a deformation cas as you say walking around with a huge erection probably not the best way to be sociable I'm guessing.
which is a same i think it would be much more sexy and funny if guys were more proud of their erections and didn't fear them.
and since I'm not transexual I don't think doing too much extensive stuff is necessary.
I've tried laura's playground when i was younger and more confused and hated it everyone was so opinionated they said i should leave my partner because he wouldn't want me to be full on trying to pass for male, sex changes etc even though i didn't want a sex change and couldn't pass for male anyway and alot of the time don't mind wearing dresses for him in private. hes a very open guy and I would never leave which pissed them off. jerks.
anyway i won't pass as male I'm too small there is no point. If was going to genually look male I'd want to look like a gorgeous man not a little boy and that won't happen so fair enough. I just don't like being seen as femme but also have this strong envy of male genitalia. that is the only way in which i truly think my body is even slightly mismatched with my mind but only slightly.
just want to know if people that stuffing my pants is a good idea and how to do it without it looking daft or like a deformation cas as you say walking around with a huge erection probably not the best way to be sociable I'm guessing.
which is a same i think it would be much more sexy and funny if guys were more proud of their erections and didn't fear them.
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If you're not going out in public, then stuff away. I, and I'm sure a lot of others here, wear a bra often when at home. No doubt there are those who might think that weird, but to me it just feels like me.
Going out in public, it might be more problematical. If you're not trying to pass you might give some thought to exactly what kind of message you are trying to convey.
I can see where it might be fun to break the rules in that way. We here at the forum have an expression , which I am sure you will read again and again: "Baby Steps." If you really want to try it, wait until you are going somewhere you are not likely to run into anyone you know, then stuff just a little. If you feel comfortable and if people react in a way you feel positive about you can try going bigger the next time. If not, no real harm, you just know what your limits are.
Going out in public, it might be more problematical. If you're not trying to pass you might give some thought to exactly what kind of message you are trying to convey.
I can see where it might be fun to break the rules in that way. We here at the forum have an expression , which I am sure you will read again and again: "Baby Steps." If you really want to try it, wait until you are going somewhere you are not likely to run into anyone you know, then stuff just a little. If you feel comfortable and if people react in a way you feel positive about you can try going bigger the next time. If not, no real harm, you just know what your limits are.
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hm I'm not really scared of the people I know I think they all know what I'm like. I don't know what message I have.
there is no point me trying to pass as male I'm just too small I'm 18 five foot two and a size 8 with soft facial features too.
I don't know about the message erm my message is i want to be seen as masculine & genderqueer &androgynous cas thats what I have and even tho i don't want to be a man i really like their genitalia. haha i dunno i guess thats it really.
you never really notice boys parts in their jeans anyway on the whole depending on thier position so yeah i guess I am aimed to go out outside with it to my lectures and all that
there is no point me trying to pass as male I'm just too small I'm 18 five foot two and a size 8 with soft facial features too.
I don't know about the message erm my message is i want to be seen as masculine & genderqueer &androgynous cas thats what I have and even tho i don't want to be a man i really like their genitalia. haha i dunno i guess thats it really.
you never really notice boys parts in their jeans anyway on the whole depending on thier position so yeah i guess I am aimed to go out outside with it to my lectures and all that